swfc_77 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Try and keep ythis short and sweet. Broke up with a girl in 2010, it was a poor relationship she cheated and gave me a couple of stds, an unhealthy relationship. After the break up, I go very strict NC, she continued for months texting me and eventually sending abusive texts when I didn't reply. In the end she contacted my mother, (I'll say this now, she ended it both times and didn't want to get back together) my mother told me just to talk to her and maybe she will go away, so I did, this probably early 2011 around March. The conversation was "I'm doing this" "I'm doing that" basically bragging for 45 minutes about her job, her car and a tattoo she had, I don't say much and end the conversation politely as I don't want to upset her or receive more vile texts. I met someone else and the ex went quiet for a while. Xmas 2013 I see said ex in garage and politely smile and drive away, I then rec ieve a text maybe a week later telling me how proud of me she was and why I ignored her, I presume because she saw my new car she put 2&2 together and realised I was doing ok, my reply was very short and sweet, politely saying I didn't realise it was her and sorry it wasn't intentional. She then texts me telling me her life story about how her and her bf are buying a house and how happy she is, it was about 4 messages long, I showed the current gf so she knew what was happening and deleted, the ex was also talking to my mother on facebook. Now I saw her on nye while I was out with family, my ex, her man and loads of therir friends were there, I was a little uncomfortable because her bf and some of his friends were looking at me everytime I glanced about. My ex then approaches my mother and starts telling her all about her life, I walk away to buy a drink and nip to the loo and to get away, I return and she just walks off after another 5 minutes, now when together she didn't like my mother at all and regularly bad mouthed her and had an arguments. Now, I text her and said sorry I didn't speak, I just felt a little awkward and dint want to drag the past up or make it uncomfortable for anyone, I also asked her to ask her bf and his mates to stop eyeballing me, but I was trying to be polite and just wanted a quiet drink. The response was very angry, professing her love for her bf and telling me how happy she was (good for her) and that she didn't love me or hate me (I never mentioned either) I reply saying I was only being honest and giving her and explanation as to why I didn't chat and she goes off on a bit of a rant about how we don't need to be friends because we don't have kids etc etc. I appreciate I shouldn't have said that about her bf, but I was trying to be open and honest as to why I didn't chat much, I'd like to add I was sat with a new girl who I have been with for 4 months when she decided to approach my mother who was sat next to me and chat rubbish. It's like a competition, it's like she wants to keep me updated or my family updated on her life, I don't wish any bad on her or anything, it's none of my business now, good luck to her. But why the nasty, sharp response.
evanescentworld Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Because bickering makes for interesting gossip. Jeesh, just pretend she doesn't exist for chrissakes... This is all just drama, why play into it? Quit giving her rhyme, reason or explanation! Block/delete her phone number and quit to-ing and fro-ing with her! It's over - why you still have her contact details in your 'phone, I am at a loss as to understand - god, this was 4 years ago!! Delete, deny, do not check up on, forget, move on!! ugh.... just so.... dumb!
Light Breeze Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Because she's a female version of a douche. Seriously, this ex of yours have issues, probably the "I can do better than you" issue. She was probably thinking/hoping that you're still hung up on her and that she can still get a reaction out of you. Crazy exes do that. If I were you I'll try not to psycho analyze these kinds of people, you'll just go mad. Anyway brother, I suggest when something like that happens again or if she texts you, just don't answer. That way there would be less stress, thinking, and arguing. Just ignore her. Looks like she get kicks yanking your chains. 1
Author swfc_77 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 There was no bickering on my part, I actually felt a little sorry for her. I'm not sat here ripped to bits I just wanted some advice, I don't have any feelings towards her. I.just thought it was the decent thing to do at the time to just say, I thought it would have been a bit awkward for all involved, nothing personal. My current gf knows I text and said I shouldn't have but could understand why I did and thinks that I was being soft, she also thinks the ex is loopy and was confused to as why she came over for a 5 minutes chat with my family and my new partner.
Author swfc_77 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Regarding the future I will just ignore again. If she ever approaches me or any of my family I will tell her straight out to f*** off we don't want annoying.
evanescentworld Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 There was no bickering on my part,.... Yes, there was. Now, I text her and said sorry I didn't speak, I just felt a little awkward and dint want to drag the past up or make it uncomfortable for anyone, I also asked her to ask her bf and his mates to stop eyeballing me, but I was trying to be polite and just wanted a quiet drink. The response was very angry, professing her love for her bf and telling me how happy she was (good for her) and that she didn't love me or hate me (I never mentioned either) I reply saying I was only being honest and giving her and explanation as to why I didn't chat and she goes off on a bit of a rant about how we don't need to be friends because we don't have kids etc etc. The moment you get into the 'I said/she said' - in the tones illustrated - you're 'bickering'. I'm not sat here ripped to bits I just wanted some advice, I don't have any feelings towards her. Yes, you do. They may not be in affectionate, romantic, nostalgic ways, but you certainly have SOME feelings for her, or this wouldn't bug you, and you wouldn't be posting.... I.just thought it was the decent thing to do at the time to just say, I thought it would have been a bit awkward for all involved, nothing personal. No perhaps, you see the error in that thinking.... My current gf knows I text and said I shouldn't have but could understand why I did and thinks that I was being soft,...... Next time - listen to her.
Ieris Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 wow.. she is pretty lame and desperate for your attention. You and your mother should block her on all avenues. If she does contact you again, you have to make out as if she is a crazy person, "Are you obsessed with me or something?" which she will deny then hopefully back off...
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