ceecee5455 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Hi All, I have had a flirtatious relationship with a man at my gym for about 8-10 months, on and off (sometimes one of us get busy with work and can't go for some time). I introduced myself and we started being acquaintances. I did this because he wouldn't stop staring and I was attracted to him. He acted a little surprised and intimidated when we first started talking. After he warmed up, we talked and flirted almost every time (still do). I asked for his number, months and months ago and we texted briefly. I initiated and he responded thoroughly and thoughtfully. Though he never called, even when I suggested it... We got busy and didn't see each other for a few months. I assumed he wasn't interested, dropped it, and subsequently forgot about him. Lately, I sense he's become more confident, bolder, and very obvious with the staring and smiling. I sense he hasn't had much experience with women, or wasn't interested at first. Perhaps this is only wishful thinking that he's changed his tune. He now teases me and we get along great. I feel his guy friends know something I don't, and they never approach me, or they are very very polite. The conversations between the boy and I are equally initiated by both of us. We haven't delved much into personal talk outside of work... And I'm not sure if he's single or interested. I'm going to be switching gyms soon (short move away from this city) and really want to give it one last go. I like him. I don't want to force something to happen, but I don't have months and months to wait! I feel like I want to ask him out directly or ask if he's interested... But that's not subtle enough. What should I do? I'm so confused and anxious! Thank you for reading
toscaroscura Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I dunno...he has your number. You two broke the ice months ago. I feel like if he were really interested, he'd have let you know by now. He probably stares at you because he thinks you're pretty. Nothing more, sadly.
doeblin Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I'm going to be switching gyms soon (short move away from this city) and really want to give it one last go. I like him. I don't want to force something to happen, but I don't have months and months to wait!Well, just ask him out for a coffee or a smoothie whatever. Don't worry. What could happen? You'll be alright.
WonderWoman911 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I would simply ask him(in person,no text) so you won't have to do the wondering game or assuming anything. But it's been 8-10 months that this has been going on. So I think if he was interested in you, he would've been approached you. Especially since you said he never called. 1
Assada Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 for some reason while reading your post, I get the vibe that he's married
Author ceecee5455 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 for some reason while reading your post, I get the vibe that he's married Thanks for your advice everyone. I appreciate the insight. He's in his mid 20s and I'm pretty sure he's living with his parents. So I'm not sure about the married part. I thought if he's so awkward with girls--or me--then how can he be taken? Or maybe he just feels guilty for talking to me. I don't think I've ever asked out a guy before... I wonder if it's worth the effort. Aghh!!!! Lol.
doeblin Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I don't think I've ever asked out a guy before... I wonder if it's worth the effort. Don't worry, just ask him out casually. Even Jimmy Fallon didn't get the obvious signs At least you'll appreciate the butterflies most guys get when they ask you out.
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