accident_prone Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 we dated for two months and then a couple weeks ago, i simply said i enjoy her company and would like to see her a bit more often when we could, being that we have crazy opposite schedules and we'd only been going out about once a week. she freaked out and acted as if i'd just proposed to her and said she didn't know what she wanted, etc. then since then i haven't seen her or heard from her aside from a cordial christmas/new years text. giving her the benefit of the doubt, i messaged her the other day that now that holidays are over we should get together, catch up and do something fun. but she never replied. then just today, she texts me outta nowhere saying "hey sorry i havent responded i just didn't know what to say" this is in response to my previous message and certainly in response to the conversation from when we last met. it's annoying because i can't really respond to that without sounding like a jerk. not that i'd mind giving her a small piece of my mind. how should i respond or should i not? thanks.
doeblin Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Hey, I remember your other thread! This is what I've said: I don't think you need to clear up anything. Wait a week or two (radio silence or just a casual merry christmas text), so you won't look needy, and try to ask her out again. See how she responds. If she's still cold in January, you might need to look for other girls. So it's January, you gave her some space, then you asked her out. Good. Now, her response wasn't exactly warm was it? Date other women. It might make her jealous and start chasing you, or better yet, you find a woman you completely click with. You need to learn to be zen about dating. Girls pull weird flakey stuff sometimes. You will find someone better. Nonchalance is the word. 3
Author accident_prone Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 thanks to both of you. doeblin - you say i shouldnt respond at all to that halfass text? and deathandtaxes - i should ask her AGAIN after i just did the other day and she straight up ignored it and sends me a lame excuse text today? idk
doeblin Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 doeblin - you say i shouldnt respond at all to that halfass text? What would you respond anyway? She didn't respond properly to your text, and there was no question in her follow-up. What is there to respond to? She is ambivalent for whatever reason. Either you are Plan B, or she is just simply indolent. Whatever. No matter. Radio silence. Move on.
Author accident_prone Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 that has been my plan. i just held off from responding in order to not tell her off. i made the effort to reach out and she knows whats up. i dont need her i just simply enjoyed her company and that was mutual and great for a while. just this today was unprompted and so pointless so i am annoyed by it. oh well.
MuffMan6969 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I think I would reply to the text. "Sorry it was such a hard question. I tried to word it as a yes or no question:) I hope you didnt read too much into it.....See ya around..Take care" Then when she contacts you again (and she definately will) blow her off very politely again. And then MOVE ON the the next.
mtber75 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 we dated for two months and then a couple weeks ago, i simply said i enjoy her company and would like to see her a bit more often when we could, being that we have crazy opposite schedules and we'd only been going out about once a week. she freaked out and acted as if i'd just proposed to her and said she didn't know what she wanted, etc. then since then i haven't seen her or heard from her aside from a cordial christmas/new years text. giving her the benefit of the doubt, i messaged her the other day that now that holidays are over we should get together, catch up and do something fun. but she never replied. then just today, she texts me outta nowhere saying "hey sorry i havent responded i just didn't know what to say" this is in response to my previous message and certainly in response to the conversation from when we last met. it's annoying because i can't really respond to that without sounding like a jerk. not that i'd mind giving her a small piece of my mind. how should i respond or should i not? thanks. Possibly dating someone else. Don't want you to see her page for whatever reasons. Women are weird about FB LOL You shouldn't take it so hard!
Author accident_prone Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 mtber75, i am confused by your response. none of this had anything to do with facebook. i rarely use the thing. but yes they are weird about it.
Diezel Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Text her in two weeks and just tell her that you were busy returning some videotapes. 2
preraph Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Well, obviously less is more with her. She doesn't want more. Back way off.
Assada Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 we dated for two months and then a couple weeks ago, i simply said i enjoy her company and would like to see her a bit more often when we could, being that we have crazy opposite schedules and we'd only been going out about once a week. she freaked out and acted as if i'd just proposed to her and said she didn't know what she wanted, etc. then since then i haven't seen her or heard from her aside from a cordial christmas/new years text. giving her the benefit of the doubt, i messaged her the other day that now that holidays are over we should get together, catch up and do something fun. but she never replied. then just today, she texts me outta nowhere saying "hey sorry i havent responded i just didn't know what to say" this is in response to my previous message and certainly in response to the conversation from when we last met. it's annoying because i can't really respond to that without sounding like a jerk. not that i'd mind giving her a small piece of my mind. how should i respond or should i not? thanks. The thing is, I think you were probably displaying needy behavior in general. This is just one of them that pushed her away. If you want to spend more time with her. make more time and hang out with her. Dont ask about it. Anyway, why would you respond? Move on see other women
Author accident_prone Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 assada, i really don't think so. i pretty much just did my own thing and then we'd meet up no more than once a week or so, especially around the holidays when it started to get super busy. i suppose she just lost interest somewhere along the way. i never was too easy or available as i was legitimately busy and i only went off her cues and the vibes i got from her, while maintaining control of the pacing. if that makes sense. i'm in no way broken up over this it's just a bit disappointing and i like seeing what others have to say regarding these various issues.
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