TooMuchDrama Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 I met this girl she seems nice I’m not sure how to decode her. Her body language seems to be saying the exact opposite of what she tells me. My biggest problem is I’m terrible on the phone I’m not sure what is considered calling too much verse too little. I want her to know I’m interested in her, but not seem needy. I would like to take it slow with her because if you can't tell by my nick name my track record is not the best. I usually find myself so unsure of what to do that I end up giving up and just fade away. Pathetic, but i'm trying to make an attempt here. Thanks for any advise in advance.
Pocky Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 There's a lot you've left out in order to give advice. How old are you? How long have you known her? How many dates have you gone on? How many times a week do you call her? Does she call you? Has she invited you out?
Author TooMuchDrama Posted March 28, 2005 Author Posted March 28, 2005 I apologize we are both 21. We recently met through a co-worker at my last job at a bar which. It’s been about two weeks now, but the first week I was out of town. We have been on four double dates; her friend met someone I used to work with also. I usually call her to see if she wants to hang out, but other than making plans I have called her twice. Since I usually get her answering machine she calls me back. She has called me twice to make plans to go out with her friends. If I’m still leaving out any useful info let me know.
Groovy Posted March 28, 2005 Posted March 28, 2005 In the beginning I like just a phone call here and there.....just not more than once a week if your aren't dating. My last boyfriend called me three times a day and it freaked me out. I would have left fast if my friend didn't set us up. (Funny, I my co-worker set us up and we met at a bar). Give it a few months before you pursue too much. Girls like the attention once they feel comfortable with who you are. But before then they just feel stalked. At least that's me....
DontWorry Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 4 double dates in 2 weeks and you were gone one week.. sounds like enough dates right away IMO. Obviously she is interested at least in the double dating to have done it. For now though, I would "worry" about just having a good time out with her than some "required" phone call. Also though, don't use the double date as a continued crutch, instead just go out with her too sometimes, as well as to have some alone time even on the double dates.
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