Alex84 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Hello guys, My girlfriend broke up with me about 10 weeks ago for the second time after 1,5 years relationship... She deleted my number of her phone, now 10 weeks later she puts my number back in so I can see her status again on whatsapp. She posts two symbols of her horoscope signs. Hers and someone elses with a blushing smiley. Why hurt me like that, wasn't dumping me enough? It's not like I did anything bad to her, I was great to her. I have my flaws, and I can see why it wasn't good enough for her anymore. (On disability due to illness, not many friends etc) But I treated her great, took her to Paris and balloon rides, we never fought etc. Why would someone do this? She could have just left my number off her phone and just went ahead with this new guy... I didn't do anything bad to her at all!
harrybrown Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 Change your number or block hers. work on the 180. keep her out of your life and NC. That way you have a chance to heal. If she thinks she can stay friends with you, then dumping you would not make her such a harsh person. You do not need the additional pain. 3
Zahara Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 There is no point analyzing why someone behaves this way. We can all speculate but you won't get a definite answer and it doesn't change the fact that it has ended. You need to block her and remove her all forms of communication. Stop leaving yourself open to hurt. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 She's acting like a child. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of her. Block her number and erase her from anything and everything where she still lingers. It's the only way to heal and move on. 1
seminoles84 Posted December 23, 2014 Posted December 23, 2014 "I can see why it wasn't good enough for her anymore." Oh F that noise. Not to be harsh, but be a man and get these type of thoughts out of your life. You said yourself you treated her good.. she's the one who isn't "good enough" for you. 1
Author Alex84 Posted December 23, 2014 Author Posted December 23, 2014 (edited) I just don't get how you can be so close to someone and then try to hurt them purposefully without cause. It's ****ed up and makes me lose trust in people in general. I obviously can't trust my own judgement. I did delete her number, but sometimes I feel like checking it because I know she will communicate that way with me because I dont use facebook... It's hard to completely let go, because even though I don't want to I love her still. Edited December 23, 2014 by Alex84
Author Alex84 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 Hey guys, My ex tried to make me jealous by readding my number in her phone and changing her whatsupp status with a clear sign she was interacting romantically with someone new. A few hours later she removed my number from her phone again. It has been driving me crazy. If there is no chance I want to move on. But if she did this to make me jealous she cares. She could also have done this to hurt me. But that doesn't make sense because I've always been good to her and she knows it. I just wasn't living up to her demands in terms of life goals, friends etc. What would you do? Ask her why she did this or let it be. I feel it's a hard call. I don't want to lose my dignity but if I don't ask I'm gonna be stuck with "what if i'd asked her".... Thanks for responses.
evanescentworld Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 If you DO ask her, you will lose all dignity and sound like a whimpering clingy needy ex-. Let it be. Even if you ask her, she will in all probability lie, make an excuse, or turn it back on you and make you feel like a stalker.... Let it go. Mind games are for childish, puerile time-wasting drama queens. Rise above it..... 3
Author Alex84 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 If you DO ask her, you will lose all dignity and sound like a whimpering clingy needy ex-. Let it be. Even if you ask her, she will in all probability lie, make an excuse, or turn it back on you and make you feel like a stalker.... Let it go. Mind games are for childish, puerile time-wasting drama queens. Rise above it..... I know it's pretty childish, especially since this woman is 36 years old ! It just makes me hate her if she did this to upset me. I mean why would you dump someone twice, and then kick them when they're down. It just doesn't make sense to me. The only thing i can think off is that she is trying to make me jealous or trying to evoke a response. I've been ignoring her since, also her birthday yesterday. This thing has been bothering me though.
lauri Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I know it's pretty childish, especially since this woman is 36 years old ! It just makes me hate her if she did this to upset me. I mean why would you dump someone twice, and then kick them when they're down. It just doesn't make sense to me. The only thing i can think off is that she is trying to make me jealous or trying to evoke a response. I've been ignoring her since, also her birthday yesterday. This thing has been bothering me though. Want to know how you get back at her for being so childish? Live a good life. You ignore these petty attempts to make you jealous. You think she's happy if she is going out of her way to get at you like this? No way man. She can't stand the fact you're moving on and not talking to her...you're bruising her ego. 3
Author Alex84 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 Want to know how you get back at her for being so childish? Live a good life. You ignore these petty attempts to make you jealous. You think she's happy if she is going out of her way to get at you like this? No way man. She can't stand the fact you're moving on and not talking to her...you're bruising her ego. Maybe you're right. She is very selfish and insecure about her appearance and this fits the bill. She was always afraid I would trade her in for a more beautiful younger woman and complained about imperfections in her looks.But now she pulls a stunt like that, I just don't get her. How can someone be so frigging heartless and mean to someone they loved for so long. It's messed up in the head.
Author Alex84 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 The only thing about this, is that I feel she is the love of my life. At least sofar she is, I don't "click" with that many people and I really felt a connection to her so deep that letting this go is very hard for me. I don't want to look petty, but if there is the tiniest chance that she has doubts about this I don't know if i can forgive myself for not checking it.
evanescentworld Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 The only thing about this, is that I feel she is the love of my life. At least sofar she is, I don't "click" with that many people and I really felt a connection to her so deep that letting this go is very hard for me. I don't want to look petty, but if there is the tiniest chance that she has doubts about this I don't know if i can forgive myself for not checking it. That's not for you to check, that's for her to admit. The dumper is the one who has to do the running - not you. You need to take care of yourself, and rise above the breadcrumbs and bait she's laying down to mess with your mind. Until she makes a direct connection to hint at a talk or reconciliation, everything else is just shooting the breeze.... leave her be, ignore her, and don't do any running. All it does is preen her feathers and make you look like a doormat. 1
Author Alex84 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 That's not for you to check, that's for her to admit. The dumper is the one who has to do the running - not you. You need to take care of yourself, and rise above the breadcrumbs and bait she's laying down to mess with your mind. Until she makes a direct connection to hint at a talk or reconciliation, everything else is just shooting the breeze.... leave her be, ignore her, and don't do any running. All it does is preen her feathers and make you look like a doormat. I think this is solid advice and I'm going to listen. You're reasoning with your mind and I'm not right now. 1
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 The only thing about this, is that I feel she is the love of my life. At least sofar she is, I don't "click" with that many people and I really felt a connection to her so deep that letting this go is very hard for me. I don't want to look petty, but if there is the tiniest chance that she has doubts about this I don't know if i can forgive myself for not checking it. You need to re-think your feelings if the "love of your life" is taking pleasure in rubbing another man in your face. 2
Diezel Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 "Love of my life". The love of your life wouldn't break up with you twice, and then play these games. The love of your life is still out there but you are wasting your time with this chick. 1
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