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Thanks to every single person who took the time to post and share their insights on lessons learned ...... I appreciate it :)

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Life is too short to be wasted on the wrong person...

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I got a PhD in Infidelity.

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I found out the name of that guy who is the voice of the bad parrot in aladdin..that he often says politically incorrect things and he got banned from speaking on some commercial..i have forgotten his name again though....

 

i have learned what ime means and what imho is shortened for....i have learned what sycophant means.

 

 

i have been enlightened and mystified on many threads.......deb

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For me it is:

 

That actions always speak louder than words.

 

So simple and yet I didn't understand it ...... and now that I do ...... the quality of my life is significantly improved ...... I'm much happier as a result.

 

I am curious, what is the most important lesson you have learned, if any, from your time on LS?

 

That you can meet great women on LoveShack, get their number, fall in love with them and have them string you along just like some broad you met off of loveshack.

 

Thats the best lesson I learned from LoveShack.

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Lots of men think they are entitled to a woman simply because they (men) exist. They don't feel they have to excel at anything or be remotely attractive to do so. They are just men so they deserve a woman. Never encountered any man with this perspective in real life. Only on LS. :confused:

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That you can meet great women on LoveShack, get their number, fall in love with them and have them string you along just like some broad you met off of loveshack.

 

Thats the best lesson I learned from LoveShack.

 

Just make sure we're all invited to the wedding ;)

 

On a side note, I sense the content of this thread is about to go downhill real fast.

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I have learned that regardless of what problem we have we are not alone as many people either are or have been in exactly the same or worse situation and it has helped me quite a bit with my own situation, I have also learned that total strangers out there in cyber space are kind and caring enough to give their time and experience to give advice and also solace to complete strangers often on the other side of the world.

 

 

I haven't been here for very long but I agree with this. I've noticed that people really do try to help others with advice and wake-up calls. It's actually been rather refreshing to be here and I like it.

 

I would say that this is definitely what I have learned for the most part....until a thread from today taught me so much more.

 

I learned that there really is a place called Fantasy Land and there are unicorns, forever rainbows and fairies sprinkling fairy dust on everything so that it sparkles 24/7. A person can live there in the delusional world they created happily ever after until the very end of time. It just sounds so wonderful. :bunny:

That will probably be the only time I will ever use that cute little bunny smiley. ;)

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There is far too little romance in the world.

 

I'm not interested in what 4 out of 5 women call love.

 

There is no such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sexuality

 

Older men chasing younger women generally get labeled negatively, while older women chasing younger men are generally considered to be self actualized.

 

I am pure vanilla compared to lot of folks out there! :laugh:

 

The way to a woman's heart is through her feet - foot massages and new shoes! :laugh: I was compelled to study foot massage techniques. And my sb always blushes when I give each foot a kiss, when I'm done.

 

Men are often more romantic than women. I am really starting to think that many women have no idea what romantic men feel as romance.

 

Women don't understand men any more than men understand women.

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I learned that you can survive for at least a few days after drinking bleach.

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I am curious, what is the most important lesson you have learned, if any, from your time on LS?

 

I haven't been here long, but if what some commentators say were what people I was out with were really thinking (I still have my doubts):

 

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

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So many things. Off the top of my head:

 

That some guys dont like BJ's.

 

The level to which cheaters will twist the truth after dDay, so much so I think they become confused what is or isn't - who they are or were. And the never ending "why"..

 

My ignorant (sexist maybe) surprise to find a number of good women, good wives, living with men with low or no sex drives. It hurts for man or woman being denied by their partner but something just hits me in the gut when its the woman struggling to do what ever she can to get her husband or boyfriend interested.

 

That things get really interesting when suddenly a LS member's partner shows up on the board. Couples dialogue on LS - has been some of the more illuminating.

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I thought I had 99 problems......Really,its more like 33...or even less....:laugh:..

 

TFY

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How not to trust and the true intention behind people's actions. Cannot believe how naive I used to be.

 

Damn, I am dumb.

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You are very right here, but what I mean by gut empathy vs intellectual empathy is that, when I am in person with someone, I can usually read their emotions very strongly and also tend to be an emotional sponge in general. Empathetic reactions come almost too naturally for me and can even be a weakness if I'm not careful. But when I am giving advice to someone and such, especially not in person, I am often baffled by how irrational people can be, how they don't see very obvious things, etc.. until I am in my own situation and feel totally torn up and confused, even though if the situation were someone else's and I was lecturing them, it would probably be very clear and straightforward to me. I think sometimes my advice can be biting without it being my intention as a result, because I am being purely logical without remembering that humans are complex and emotional creatures.

 

Yeah I get you. I too intuitively pick up on a person's emotions, gauge the situation to what I'm reading, and offer advice. But many people don't want to hear the advice, or they don't like it because it goes against what they want to do or what they are feeling. Their reaction is counter-productive, and leaving them to learn from their own mistakes is often the only answer. Ironically, I've fallen into the same category because sometimes I am driven emotionally rather than logically. I've been given advice by friends, and I have brushed it off because emotionally it did not make sense. So yes, humans are indeed complex and emotional creatures. It can be a cruel existence.

 

The rest of your post and other posts seem to have a strong theme of acceptance, though, instead of trying to change or control others and situations. I wonder if that is a very common issue for many people who struggle with interpersonal relationships. I know it has been for me. So bad in fact that I even got a codependency badge out of it years ago.

 

Knowing my limitation, that I am powerless, being human, it's better to accept difficult or frustrating situations than cry and/or get depressed over them. Sure there somethings in my power, such as the ability to remove myself from the situation, but convincing someone to accept you just because you want it, doesn't happen. Grass grows, birds fly, sun shines, and accept sh*t happens. Stay positive.

 

 

men prefer women who suck....like hoovers...but varying sucking capacity from hooverish to light on the icksnay..

 

women prefer men who .....not going there....

 

Aww, I was hoping you would go there. Now I have to use my imagination.

 

 

I found out the name of that guy who is the voice of the bad parrot in aladdin..that he often says politically incorrect things and he got banned from speaking on some commercial..i have forgotten his name again though....

 

Iago was voiced by Gilbert Gottfried. His voice irritates me after a minute of hearing it.

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That, honesty is the best policy and it will always work for your benefit.

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That sometimes people don't like the truth but enabling and playing along are worse than lying. You sometimes have to face your weaknesses to grow.

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Avoid certain sub-sections of LS. Pick wisely what thread I reply to; and even wiser when to respond.

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That being dysfunctional apparently is normal :) Sometimes we do have to give ourselves a break.

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That being dysfunctional apparently is normal :) Sometimes we do have to give ourselves a break.

 

That's funny but true. I was thinking yesterday just how defective we humans are and how weird life would be if we were perfect. If we were perfect actually we would all be the same without variety and we would have an even more difficult time relating with each other.

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I learned that I am not nearly as screwed up as some people.

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I am curious, what is the most important lesson you have learned, if any, from your time on LS?

 

Don't waste too much time helping people on internet forums especially when they keep coming back with the same problem having failed to follow the advice previously given to them.

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I learned that there's a lot of crazy calling itself normal.

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I learned that A LOT of other people out there have things A LOT worse than I do.

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Just make sure we're all invited to the wedding ;)

 

On a side note, I sense the content of this thread is about to go downhill real fast.

 

Actually I proposed to her. She is wonderful. Then she dumped me and blocked me. Then she let me in again. Proposed to her again. Then she put up a guard again.

 

Women, LS women or not, are crazy beasts. It was a good time and I found it very rewarding.

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