Ashley S Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 (edited) I guess you could say we are friends. Well, this guy he gives me mixed signals. At first he was very flirtatious with me. He looks at me a lot, we went out, but as friends. He was drunk and he was giving me this ramble on how much he likes me and gorgeous I am. Well he was "taking a break" from his girlfriend, so I said to him "I will not be a rebound, or someone to fill the void, so I won't go out with you, or kiss you, but I will be your friend." He understood. I am willing to give him a chance with time. Him and his girlfriend I guess are broken up, but he gets real quiet when I mention guys. He asked me what I was doing tomorrow, and I said "Probably hang out with Luke" He said "Aww that's cute!" Then I said his friend Mikey was cute, and he was quiet. Then he wanted me to come with him to this party, and I told him I had other plans, but he was really wanting me to go. I said I was going out with Luke, he said "What if you and this guy get serious?" I said "Huh? Oh we're just hanging out, what do you mean?" He said nothing. When I said my "phone cancelled my text message", he said "Luke cancelled?" I said "No, my text message cancelled out." He said nothing again! When me and him went into a store, I saw my one guy friend, and he had his head down the whole time. Then afterwards he said "Did you use to date that guy?" Then another time he kept looking at this dude, and I said "Why do you keep on staring?" He said "That guy had a smile on his face, I don't know if he was creepin on you or not", He says he feels really comfortable with me, but I can't tell if he actually likes me or not. He calls me to hang out, but when we are with each other he hardly speaks to me, he acts awkward or something, but before he didn't act awkward. I am catching feelings, so I don't know if I should cut him off? He appears like he doesn't like me, then he appears like he does like me. It really confuses me. Maybe somebody can give me their take on it. I appreciate it! Edited January 6, 2015 by Ashley S
Redhead14 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I guess you could say we are friends. Well, this guy he gives me mixed signals. At first he was very flirtatious with me. He looks at me a lot, we went out, but as friends. He was drunk and he was giving me this ramble on how much he likes me and gorgeous I am. Well he was "taking a break" from his girlfriend, so I said to him "I will not be a rebound, or someone to fill the void, so I won't go out with you, or kiss you, but I will be your friend." He understood. I am willing to give him a chance with time. Him and his girlfriend I guess are broken up, but he gets real quiet when I mention guys. He asked me what I was doing tomorrow, and I said "Probably hang out with Luke" He said "Aww that's cute!" Then I said his friend Mikey was cute, and he was quiet. Then he wanted me to come with him to this party, and I told him I had other plans, but he was really wanting me to go. I said I was going out with Luke, he said "What if you and this guy get serious?" I said "Huh? Oh we're just hanging out, what do you mean?" He said nothing. When I said I my "phone cancelled my text message", he said "Luke cancelled?" I said "No, my text message cancelled out." He said nothing again! When me and him went into a store, I saw my one guy friend, and he had his head down the whole time. Then afterwards he said "Did you use to date that guy?" Then another time he kept looking at this dude, and I said "Why do you keep on staring?" He said "That guy had a smile on his face, I don't know if he was creepin on you or not", He says he feels really comfortable with me, but I can't tell if he actually likes me or not. He calls me to hang out, but when we are with each other he hardly speaks to me, he acts awkward or something, but before he didn't act awkward. He appears like he doesn't like me, then he appears like he does like me. It really confuses me. Maybe somebody can give me their take on it. I appreciate it! He is not over his previous girlfriend. He doesn't know what he wants right now except to have someone to hang with at least. And, if he actually really is liking you, he's being wary of other men in your life so as to protect himself from being hurt by you. If he is going to make a "move" with you, he will need to be confident that you aren't going to dump him if you guys did hook up. If you like him and want to see if something can develop between you, you should only spend a minimal amount of time with him. Make some space at least. If he initiates you can respond, but don't go out or hang out with him often. Let him come to you in a more consistent, serious way. You two are not dating and it is none of his business who else you hang out with for now. You can tell him you are not dating anyone else, if that's true so he knows he can make that move. But, really, he will be worried about other men in your life and likely jealousy will be a part of any dating scenario you may enter into.
LadyLuck2014 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Maybe you could pass him a note in Science class, asking him if he likes you. Provide a box for 'yes,' a box for 'no,' and one for 'maybe.' <insert emoticon with head blowing up from silly, childish drama in this space>
smackie9 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 You gave him the riot act about being a rebound etc, so what do you expect him to do? He is being cautious not to push things duh. If you want to date him, tell him.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I don't think he's giving you mixed signals. You told him that you don't want to be a rebound, but that you'll be his friend. So it appears he's complying with your wishes. I'm not sure why that's confusing.
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