GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 My friend suffers from a lot of facial hair on her jaw, neck and face. She uses a cute electric razor, tweezers, scissors, bleach, concealer to cover it now. She does a good job, but it's just a lot of work. She has tried laser hair removal, which did work, but she has PCOS, so since she has a hormonal imbalance it won't ever really get rid of it. She also had a bad reaction to it. It made her head hurt and made her eyes bother her and she just didn't feel well. Electrolysis is painful, time consuming and since she has an underlying condition the hair may still grow back or grow in other areas. She doesn't want to go on birth control or other medicines because she would have to be on them forever and they cause serious side effects. She has been taking spearmint tea during her cycle and she said that has worked a little, but her throat gets dry after she drinks it. Depilatory creams she says are messy and give her the same result as shaving. She doesn't want to wax because she can't let her facial hair grow out enough for it to work and since she has an hormonal imbalance she worried the hair will just come back worse. Any advice you can give her on how to get rid of it or hide it better would be appreciated. Thanks
regine_phalange Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Poor girl, this is a bad place being in. If the hormonal thing won't get solved there's not much she can do though. I would recommend laser hair removal, what kind of laser brought a bad reaction to her? Was it alexandrite? Maybe she could try ND:yag? It's supposed to be gentler. I think electrolysis totally destroys the hair follicles one by one and the hair doesn't grow back. Is she sure it grows back? She probably needs to take medication though. Tea won't do much.
Author GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 Guys, just say you met a girl you thought was cute and you really liked. However, after you spent more time with her you noticed she has facial hair. She may have it on the sides, neck, jawline. You probably wouldn't be able to tell since she cleaned it up with electric razor, makeup etc. However, her face may feel rough sometimes and if you spent a lot of time together you may notice it and may see her taking care of it. It's not her fault she has an hormonal imbalance. She may not want to go medicine because of the side effects and laser hair removal may have given her a bad reaction. She can't let it grow out long enough to wax and she fears it may make it worse. She continues to look for better ways to get rid of it, but would you break up with her? Is this a deal breaker? Again when she cleans it up you probably wouldn't notice it. However, if you spent a lot of time with her you may. Would you dump her if everything else with her was good.
Author GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 Poor girl, this is a bad place being in. If the hormonal thing won't get solved there's not much she can do though. I would recommend laser hair removal, what kind of laser brought a bad reaction to her? Was it alexandrite? Maybe she could try ND:yag? It's supposed to be gentler. I think electrolysis totally destroys the hair follicles one by one and the hair doesn't grow back. Is she sure it grows back? She probably needs to take medication though. Tea won't do much. I think it was alexandrite laser machine. ND:yag won't give her a bad reaction? She is scared to do it again because she felt bad afterwards. She got six treatments and they did work even until this day the hair isn't as dark, but the procedure made her tired, head and eyes bother her. She thought it was the light or heat. She put goggles on, towel and scarf over her eyes, but it still bothered her and she saw the red light. She has a lot of hairs and electrolysis she feels would be really painful and fears it won't work.
darkmoon Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 (edited) she needs electrolysis, it pre-dates laser, in electrolysis, one by one the hairs are pemanently lost by painless electric and thus the beautician can help, go to a registered one look on-line for beauticians, i have hairy tendencies too, i know a bit Edited January 6, 2015 by darkmoon
Author GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 she needs electrolysis, it pre-dates laser, in electrolysis, one by one the hairs are deadened by painless electric and thus the beautician can help, go to a registered one look on-line for beauticians, and if you love her stick around, it is not easy to find compatibility Well she is concerned the hair will still grow back because she has an underlying condition. She also is concerned about how painful and time consuming it is. Would you date her, if she had what my op said? Would you dump her when you saw it?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 She continues to look for better ways to get rid of it, but would you break up with her? Is this a deal breaker? Again when she cleans it up you probably wouldn't notice it. However, if you spent a lot of time with her you may. Would you dump her if everything else with her was good. I want to make werewolf babies with her.
Emilia Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Well she is concerned the hair will still grow back because she has an underlying condition. She also is concerned about how painful and time consuming it is. Would you date her, if she had what my op said? Would you dump her when you saw it? Sounds like this should be a conversation to be had with professionals? Since you keep repeating the same questions. As for underlying condition: I thought all hair growth was hormone related. That's why it starts in puberty. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I dont know I feel bad for a women in this situation but it kinda falls under personal grooming for me I once knew a girl who would get a caterpillar on her upper lip a dark one she would just leave it cause as she said it will just grow back worse. But tbh it wasn't getting much worse she was a cute girl with a full on stash pretty much. I don't know to me when you have a problem like that you really need to be on top of it 24/7 like a routine I mean we brush our teeth every day well hopefully we do lol..there is just so many personal grooming options now a days I never unserstand when some choose not to take care of the most basic hygiene needs..
MidwestUSA Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Well she is concerned the hair will still grow back because she has an underlying condition. She also is concerned about how painful and time consuming it is. Would you date her, if she had what my op said? Would you dump her when you saw it? Electrolysis is extremely time consuming and painful, as it deals with only one hair follicle at a time. I would have her consult with a different laser specialist. Dd those side effects last? If not, would it be worth it to bear with it? I feel for her, PCOS is a difficult thing to deal with.
Author GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 I dont know I feel bad for a women in this situation but it kinda falls under personal grooming for me I once knew a girl who would get a caterpillar on her upper lip a dark one she would just leave it cause as she said it will just grow back worse. But tbh it wasn't getting much worse she was a cute girl with a full on stash pretty much. I don't know to me when you have a problem like that you really need to be on top of it 24/7 like a routine I mean we brush our teeth every day well hopefully we do lol..there is just so many personal grooming options now a days I never unserstand when some choose not to take care of the most basic hygiene needs.. So if she just took care of it you wouldn't have a problem with it? You still may see or feel some though if your up close and with her alot.
Author GH101 Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 Electrolysis is extremely time consuming and painful, as it deals with only one hair follicle at a time. I would have her consult with a different laser specialist. Dd those side effects last? If not, would it be worth it to bear with it? I feel for her, PCOS is a difficult thing to deal with. Yea, she said they lasted for over a week and was concerned about adding other problems. She beared with it for the 6 treatments.
Sanman Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Guys, just say you met a girl you thought was cute and you really liked. However, after you spent more time with her you noticed she has facial hair. She may have it on the sides, neck, jawline. You probably wouldn't be able to tell since she cleaned it up with electric razor, makeup etc. However, her face may feel rough sometimes and if you spent a lot of time together you may notice it and may see her taking care of it. It's not her fault she has an hormonal imbalance. She may not want to go medicine because of the side effects and laser hair removal may have given her a bad reaction. She can't let it grow out long enough to wax and she fears it may make it worse. She continues to look for better ways to get rid of it, but would you break up with her? Is this a deal breaker? Again when she cleans it up you probably wouldn't notice it. However, if you spent a lot of time with her you may. Would you dump her if everything else with her was good. My wife has PCOS, so the answer for me was that I didn't break up with her. The reproductive issues are likely a bigger hurdle than the hair at this point. We all have our medical issues, myself icluded. It is a part of life and being a supportive spouse. In for a penny, in for a pound... 1
SomeDude16 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 As long as she has less facial hair then me and try's her best to stay feminine then that's all I could ask for. 1
Author GH101 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 My wife has PCOS, so the answer for me was that I didn't break up with her. The reproductive issues are likely a bigger hurdle than the hair at this point. We all have our medical issues, myself icluded. It is a part of life and being a supportive spouse. In for a penny, in for a pound... Yes, trying to have a baby with PCOS is probably the biggest issue with it.
TigerLilly78 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 So if she just took care of it you wouldn't have a problem with it? You still may see or feel some though if your up close and with her alot. Im a girl I wasn't interested in dating her cause well I dont go that way I just dont get the mind set that "its just going to come back anyways" if I did that with my leg hair I would look like a Yettie and im a blond..lol thats just me if she was ok with it no worries I just didn't get it as she was a attractive girl other then that..
Author GH101 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Im a girl I wasn't interested in dating her cause well I dont go that way I just dont get the mind set that "its just going to come back anyways" if I did that with my leg hair I would look like a Yettie and im a blond..lol thats just me if she was ok with it no worries I just didn't get it as she was a attractive girl other then that.. Well some people try to remove it, but it's hard. Like if her facial hair was long and didn't even look like it was cared for, then that's not good. However, if she has stubble and shadow, then maybe she tried to remove it but there only so much that can be done.
compulsivedancer Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 Electrolysis is only slightly painful and it's much cheaper than laser. I've had my armpits done. It is much more permanent than laser (about 95% permanent, if done by a qualified professional). It will take several treatments, but I did mine in 30 minute increments, so it wasn't bad at all. I use my trimmer with the eyebrow attachment on my upper lip. Once a week is plenty (more than needed).
FitChick Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 If she has PCOS she has bigger problems than just shaving. Hormones affect your entire body. Taking bioidentical hormones isn't dangerous like synthetic hormones in BC pills. Print this article out for your girlfriend. Ideally she should see an endocrinologist but if she can't afford it, she can buy ProGest natural progesterone cream at Whole Foods or buy it cheaper online. Follow the instructions on the label for treatment of two weeks on and two weeks off. I would think she'd feel better in a month or two.
Author GH101 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 Electrolysis is only slightly painful and it's much cheaper than laser. I've had my armpits done. It is much more permanent than laser (about 95% permanent, if done by a qualified professional). It will take several treatments, but I did mine in 30 minute increments, so it wasn't bad at all. I use my trimmer with the eyebrow attachment on my upper lip. Once a week is plenty (more than needed). Well, maybe it's more painful on the face. She's scared of needles and pain. She wanted to maybe try natural treatments first like tea, some other natural herbs/pills. I actually never understood why it takes so many treatments. I wanted to get my upper lip done and they said each hair has to be treated multiple times. I thought once the needle goes into the follicle it kills it?
Author GH101 Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 If she has PCOS she has bigger problems than just shaving. Hormones affect your entire body. Taking bioidentical hormones isn't dangerous like synthetic hormones in BC pills. Print this article out for your girlfriend. Ideally she should see an endocrinologist but if she can't afford it, she can buy ProGest natural progesterone cream at Whole Foods or buy it cheaper online. Follow the instructions on the label for treatment of two weeks on and two weeks off. I would think she'd feel better in a month or two. Well, she said she doesn't want to go on medicine because of the side effects. BC pills can be dangerous and adding extra hormones in your body isn't good. An endocrinologist she thinks we'll just put her on medicine that she thinks is a bad idea. She would like to treat this naturally. She says she never heard of this cream. Isn't it for woman before and after menopause? She's only 21.
TigerLilly78 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Well some people try to remove it, but it's hard. Like if her facial hair was long and didn't even look like it was cared for, then that's not good. However, if she has stubble and shadow, then maybe she tried to remove it but there only so much that can be done. This was a full stash she just gave up and let it do its thing...
todreaminblue Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 I have this problem....as a woman.....i know it feels rough and i hate it..i have it in the areas you describe.........i maintain in a relationship twice daily........its time consuming......my lip seems to have a shadow....it actually runs in my family.......on the maternal side......hormonal genetic whatever i hate it..... speaking from the womans point of view ....i would rather a guy leave if he cant handle the fact i have facial hair and that fact turns him off.....a lack of respect might ensue...and i cant handle that.......i do maintain.....i do make an effort to appear feminine....... my mum has begged me one thing when she is older and cant do it herself.....is that my sister and i maintain her face.......she didnt have to beg us...we would do it for her...withotu fail....ill never make my mum feel less than beautiful....as i really hope my kids will do it for me...i think and feel if you love someone...facial hair...should not be a turn off....which is really ironic for me to say because i have an aversion to beards on men......hypocrite.....that i am.......deb
Author GH101 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 This was a full stash she just gave up and let it do its thing... Well then she really should have at least trim it or bleach it since its right on her face versus underneath or on the side.
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