spazzo246 Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Ok so i have this friend that I met once at a convention like comicon last year. we added each other on facebook said hello in a few inboxes and that was it. since then we have shot a few messages back and forth but nothing substantial There was no communication between us for a few months until A few days ago she messaged me first saying hello and we started talking. The next day she messages me saying: "Ugh people never talk to me for some reason, They're probably just social." "Everyone thinks I'm some kind of social butterfly im lucky to get an inbox in a week!" I interpreted this as that I was the only person that talks to her. and that maybe out of everyone on her friends list she talking to me because she likes me?? (very broad assumption) Now my problem is that from the 3 or 4 days of talking im starting to like her but communication has dropped alot and I dont want to seem to pushy/annoying talking to her all the time. I tried to start talking to her again but the conversations were dead and didnt last as long as a few days ago. I know this is a very vague question but No one talks to me on facebook let alone a girl (which is a miracle) messaging me first to say hey with no particular reason. I don't know how to take it. Any input is appreciated Thank you
Danda Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Her words could be good or bad for you, and without many other details of you two's conversations, it's hard to say which. I mean in a way it could be almost like a socially awkward confession that since she doesn't talk with many people, she's reaching out to you. But it could also be her socially awkward way of trying to let you know how available she is, as in hint-hint. It could also be relatively arbitrary material just to get a conversation rolling and not be some veiled message of any kind. Being socially awkward myself I have put all sorts of over-analysis into both messages I send and messages I receive, and chances are the other person was always entirely unaware of the over-complicated mess in my mind haha. And sometimes I just say random **** to try to get a ball rolling. So who ever knows with us clueless, somewhat introverted people. What you DO know for sure is that she did have some motivation for reaching out and talking with you, and the two of you have no serious history and have never offered or suggested anything otherwise to each other. That means this scenario is pretty drama-free, which means you can just roll with naturally and not worry so much. You know that she's interested and receptive to at least friendly conversation, so if you find/do/whatever something that you think would interest her, send her a message and share.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I interpreted this as that I was the only person that talks to her. and that maybe out of everyone on her friends list she talking to me because she likes me?? (very broad assumption) This does not necessarily mean she likes you as in has a crush on you, but she did reach out to you out of curiosity. Which is a good sign, but don't assume anything else at this point. Now my problem is that from the 3 or 4 days of talking im starting to like her but communication has dropped alot and I dont want to seem to pushy/annoying talking to her all the time. I tried to start talking to her again but the conversations were dead and didnt last as long as a few days ago. You are relying on Facebook messages too much. You should get her number and talk to her over the phone. Even better, get her on Skype/Google Hangouts and video chat with her. This way you both can talk and see each other. She's getting bored of talking with you because you are not pushing the conversation. I'm assuming you are doing too much of "Hey" and "What's up?". Ask her about goals, plans, dreams. What her interests are, what your interests are, books, comics, movies, romance, what kind of man does she like (ie: humourous, chivalrous, risk-taker, introvert, etc.), and so on. Let me give you an example, since you both have met at comicon. Currently I just finished reading Planet Hulk, and World World Hulk. I am right now on Aftersmash. I am pissed because Hulk got taken down by some orbital lasers. While Tony Stark and Reed Richards get to continue playing God, and deciding what's best for the world. On top of that, Amadeus Cho is a really interesting character. He's a smart kid that is giving a big f*ck you to S.H.I.E.L.D. and the authorities. If I met a woman that also read comics, I would discuss this with her as great conversation starter, how it makes me feel, what she thinks about it, and what are some she has read. I know this is a very vague question but No one talks to me on facebook let alone a girl (which is a miracle) messaging me first to say hey with no particular reason. I don't know how to take it. You are putting yourself down, hurting your self-esteem, and relying too much on digital interaction to boost your ego. Just enjoy the conversation you guys have, but you need to get out into the real world. Don't over-think it, it just you guys having a conversation, being friendly. Keep it up, be humorous, talk about your goals, dreams, share stories. Stay positive, don't self-deprecate too much.
Author spazzo246 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Ty for all your help . She just went into a relationship today lmao, this just answered my curiosity. Ah well, she lives 3 hours away from me anyway
TylerTyrone Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Maybe the girl was just bored, maybe she does like you and want to get to know you. Your problem is, you are over thinking it. If you like her then you go after her, make her laugh, ask her out for a cup of coffee... If u don't have her number yet...make it your goal to get her number next time you talk to her. Comon man, girls don't like men who act like wimps. Show her that you are the man...
TylerTyrone Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 Ty for all your help . She just went into a relationship today lmao, this just answered my curiosity. Ah well, she lives 3 hours away from me anyway Oopss...damnn..dude..that's crazy! But hey...you can still get her if you want...if you really want her...then show her how better you are...I did it once, I stole the girl who was in a relationship because I felt I was better for her Lil It ended badly though but I went after what I wanted..so I have no regrets.
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