curious jane Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 So i did it after over 3 years of being together and 2 living together i broke up with the lazy bastard. He wants 2 months to get a new place - which is a standard amount of time you give people here. However - it has been a week and so far all he does is upset me, i think he thinks there is still hope, and then he makes comments that upset me, obvioulsy because he is hurting - but i am not to sure i can live with him for 2 months. I had a friend whogot dumpend by her man after 7 years and they lived together for 6 months after they broke up as she had no job - it some how was fine for them - but i guess everyones situation is different. I still care about my x so it really hurts to see him all the time but i know i didi the right thing by breakin up -- he sleeps in the spare room and are work hours are different so thats ok - we dont see each other much - but evertime i go home i am dreading it. Perhaps it is because we just broke up a week ago - anyone ever lived with an x after a break up - did it work ? or just bad idea
LoveOneAnother Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 I hope that you get a good response turn out for this post. Im currently in a very similar situation. My boyfriend works from home so I cant just make him get his things and go. He feels we could try living as roomates. Roomates???? How can you even try to be roomates with somebody you love? I dont want to be in the same house with him. Its very painful to see him go about his life while Im hurting so much inside. I guess when your physically apart, your hoping that maybe they are greiving for you. To see that they arent, hurts. Well, lets see what we hear.....
LoveOneAnother Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 by the way... Im sorry to hear about your situation. I hope that you are dealing with this okay. Break ups are never easy.
CurlyIam Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 I moved in with my ex after 2 years of dating. Lived with him for another 2. After we broke up, my parents were so happy that they helped picking my stuff the same week end. Personal experience: get out FAST. Avoid him. Sleep at friends house during the week ends. Bring best friend in and spent time with her. He'll get the drift, trust me.
Author curious jane Posted March 28, 2005 Author Posted March 28, 2005 2nd week of being broken up and living together - he was taking a lot of cheap stabs at me - because he is hurting - he keeps trying to guilt me - and blames everything on me - but i realize this is just who he is - he never could take responsiblity for his own actions - so more and more i am happy i broke it off. However i still have to see him every day - lucky we have a spare room and different work hours - but still - it hurts to see him and i have to be sooo strong. I care about him so i want him to find a decent place but at this point not to sure if i can deal with him if he keeps up with his antics. If anything that is postive out of having to live with him for the next bit - i guess it would be that i have to be disiplined and strong - if i get through this it will help me stick to my gut more in the future and it is so easy to rebound and having him around will hold me back a bit as i really dont want to cause anymore hurt. But it is not easy that is for sure - but i have been through way worse.
chris1063 Posted March 29, 2005 Posted March 29, 2005 GF and I broke up beginning of Feb. We have to sell the house before either of us can move out. The house is up for sale but have had no takers. I am in the spare room. The situation is absolute hell as I still have feelings for her and I found out 2 weeks ago she is seeing somebody else which I suspect was going on before we broke up. She isn't aware that I know about it. I have set up the spare room with tv etc and I basically live in there when she is around. She spends the weekends with her new bf which means I have some time without her there but i'm hurting like hell at the moment. I get out as much as I can but i'm not ready for another relationship at the moment and the thought of her with somebody else is driving me mad. Essentially she has replaced me with somebody else. Just getting through a day at a time but any advice would be welcome
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