NewfieEd Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months in June. She was moving away for school and decided it wouldn't work out, telling me she may never be back as she is persuing her studies as a doctor and then when she is done may look for work out of the country (I am from Canada, she is studying in the US and hopes to work there). I had a hard time getting over her, it took me months. She is now home for, I guess, a Christmas break. I have seen her a few times and not long ago at a club with another guy dancing and having fun, I know she saw me but she denied the fact she did (I was dumb enough to write her about that night). I had, or I believed I had, lost all feelings for her, but when I saw her the few times in the past 2 weeks it has brought me right back to where I was. I see her and I really want her back. I know it makes no sense to write her and pour out my emotions for her as I already did this in June and she just blew it off. I guess she is really not interested anymore or she would have given some positive signs. It is easy to say "just forget about it and move on" but for some reason she just seemed perfect, smart, good looking with a great personality. I also suffer from a lack of self confidence and self worth around women sometimes as I was picked on growing up and it seems to affect my ability to believe in myself. What's the best way to deal with these feelings?
preraph Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I'm sorry. People usually do end up growing apart who are still in school. It's the time you meet so many new people and want to explore. I hope you are in a situation where you too can meet new people. If not, at least take a night class or something to get you back in circulation. She seems to be gone and not looking back. People change.
Arient Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months in June. She was moving away for school and decided it wouldn't work out, telling me she may never be back as she is persuing her studies as a doctor and then when she is done may look for work out of the country (I am from Canada, she is studying in the US and hopes to work there). I had a hard time getting over her, it took me months. She is now home for, I guess, a Christmas break. I have seen her a few times and not long ago at a club with another guy dancing and having fun, I know she saw me but she denied the fact she did (I was dumb enough to write her about that night). I had, or I believed I had, lost all feelings for her, but when I saw her the few times in the past 2 weeks it has brought me right back to where I was. I see her and I really want her back. I know it makes no sense to write her and pour out my emotions for her as I already did this in June and she just blew it off. I guess she is really not interested anymore or she would have given some positive signs. It is easy to say "just forget about it and move on" but for some reason she just seemed perfect, smart, good looking with a great personality. I also suffer from a lack of self confidence and self worth around women sometimes as I was picked on growing up and it seems to affect my ability to believe in myself. What's the best way to deal with these feelings? Just a few things I noticed. You seem to have many more issues rather than just the ex. First thing first, keep in mind that we can always work things out, if we want it (the only exception is death). You have to accept that it's over, and focus on recovery now, go the strictest NC possible. Second thing, you are still putting her on a pedestal. Kick her off from that, and start putting yourself there instead. Final thing, you really need to work on yourself first, learn to love yourself more, build up your confidence, once you become a better you, you will see that life and love still have so much more to offer you. Try your best!
Author NewfieEd Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 Should I delete her from Social media such as Facebook and Instagram? We are still friends on both. I hear the no contact thing and does that just mean not contacting her or should I delete her from all these social media outlets?
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