steelgator Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 So 6 months ago this coworker and I obviously liked each other. We both said it and flirted with each other and after a few tries I got her on a date. We ended the date with a nice kiss (not a peck, but no tongue). She said she had a great time and we kept texting and she couldn't believe I really liked her. At the time she had recently been broken up with. After she quit the job and went back to school an hour away I thought she stopped responding but she just wasn't getting my texts she even showed me. But when she kept saying "maybe" to a second date I kind of gave up. I had a short 2 month relationship with another girl soon after. Fast forward 3 months after that relationship ended and she's home for xmas break and working with me again. I texted her when I found out and we made small talk and caught up. Next day she MATCHES ME ON TINDER. But replies very short. Night before the first day at work she texts me first making small talk. Then talks with me alone at work the next day for about 30 minutes. After her last day I try to set up a date to which she says "Idk" when I said "do you not like me anymore?" she says "I don't like anyone" . I told her okay then why have you been leading me on? She's said "I'm not I haven't given you any hints that I want to be more than friends...I match all my friends on tinder and I have not flirted with you at all since this summer, I am still getting over my ex and when I went out with you this summer I thought I'd try to give someone new a chance and it didn't work out" I'm so confused...she never told me she stopped liking me and what does she mean it didn't work out? She told me she had a great time on our date. What gives?
evanescentworld Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 She's just not into you. You don't tick all her boxes or float her boat. Simple. And I would thank your lucky stars if I were you. It could have been much worse. I agree, she didn't lead you on - but she might have done, and you would have been the classic 'Rebound Kid'. Dodged a bullet there, amigo. You obviously hoped for more. You won't get it from her. Be friends, but move on to pastures new, dating-wise. (Besides, never date a co-worker. Bad idea.) 2
evanescentworld Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 No, men misread women. Women say: "Hey, I really like you as a friend! Let's hang out!" Women mean: "Hey, I really like you as a friend! Let's hang out!" Men hear: "Hey, I really like you as a friend! Let's hang out!" Men interpret this as: "Hey, I'm ripe for sex! I want you to climb into my underwear ASAP!" We don't talk the same language. Women can, and often look for, platonic friendships. Very few men can, or do.
Author steelgator Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 What girl do you know kisses a guy on a first date and then stays up late into the night texting him a whole week after and says it's "platonic"? What signs did I miss?
evanescentworld Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 The fact that things didn't progress from that kiss. had she been intent on dating you, a single kiss would not have sufficed. 1
mortensorchid Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 FOr whatever reason, this ain't gonna happen. I'd just move on.
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