Awesome Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Here's the story. I dated this guy for a bit some months ago. He left because he didn't want a relationship. After a long time i approached him again because i have feelings for him and started hanging out. We were having fun and everything were great. Finally, we kissed but not in a serious way. The next day i met him we kissed again but this time he showed me he wanted it and it seemed serious and i thought that he wanted to start dating again. Well, after one day we met again and i expected him to give me a goodbye kiss while he was leaving and i told him about it and he answered that he kissed me casually the previous day. Well, we talked again on the phone but i didn't say anything about what happened as concerning the kiss i expected him to give me while he was leaving. What i want is a relationship with him. I know you can't force someone but i believe that it could happen between us. From now on, what do i do? We just started hanging out again and I don't want to loose him because i love him... Any advice will be appreciated.
Danda Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Why do you love him? What does loving someone mean to you? I mean, you don't really seem to care how he feels or respect his feelings. He doesn't want a relationship with you and that's what he told you. Are you going to be offering him casual sex and hang-out time? Are you going to be okay if that's what happens, he just has sex with you and then disappears? You have said yourself that you can't force people to feel any certain thing or do anything, so you know you can't make this into what you want it to be. So are you planning to torture yourself here by pining away for someone who doesn't want you? It takes me much longer than a just a bit of casual dating to love someone romantically. Now infatuated or lusty, sure, that can happen for me pretty fast. But not genuinely being in love. So if after a bit of dating I was rejected, I'd just move on.
mammasita Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 If he told you he didn't want a relationship, believe him. You cannot change him so don't waste your time waiting for him to change because he won't - at least he never will with you and especially not for you. Trust me, its a hard lesson that is best learned early on.
Jules Dash Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 You love this guy and he doesn't even see you as relationship material. You will only get hurt here. Do you really want this? This is a battle you cannot when. You have to put some distance between you and him and maintain it until you are completely over him or you can continue to pursue him and feel that awful, gnawing pain in your heart along with sleepless nights and not eating.
angel.eyes Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 You want different things. You can love him all you want, but unfortunately he doesn't share those feelings. You're just going to have to let go and move on to someone else who will reciprocate.
Author Awesome Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 Thank you all for your responses. I decided to move on. I will only get hurt from this situation and i believe i deserve something better. I really want to be with him but i can't force something that can't happen.
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