TabbyHearts Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 The man that I'm dating doing the same thing. After the first meeting, he said we will meet up again. The only thing is he has full custody of his 9 years old son. He never contact me again and just let it be. If he not intersted than why said he like me and want to get to know each other. don't believe what people tell you. guy or girl. take it as a little compliment, think "that's nice he wants to get to know me", but with god as your witness, don't believe it and do not make a relationship up in your head about it. the only thing that matters are actions.
4everloveu Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 don't believe what people tell you. guy or girl. take it as a little compliment, think "that's nice he wants to get to know me", but with god as your witness, don't believe it and do not make a relationship up in your head about it. the only thing that matters are actions. Thank you, I'm ready to move on with my life. I take it as another lesson to learned. Action is louder than words. 1
Emilia Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 This woman that I was very interested in flaked out on me or just lost interest! She texted me before Christmas saying yes let's hang out for lunch or something. At Christmas she texted me saying Merry Christmas! I took that as her being interested in me at least as a friend so I called her up saying let's meetup after Christmas for lunch or something (left it open ended and I wasn't suggesting anything more than that). I never got a reply back? I wished her a Happy New Year too and she also never replied back! WTF! I wasn't bothering her with annoying needy texts or anything like that too. If she wasn't interested don't say let meet up in the first place! I just think its very rude for both women and men to not follow through on their words! You should have been more assertive. She suggested first that you meet up, the only thing you did was copying that rather than ask about a specific day! Maybe she felt she was wasting her time? 2
Taramere Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 If you want to date her, ask her out for a specific date, time and activity. I don't see that she did anything rude or wrong because you did't ask her out for anything. That was the way I read it too. What went on isn't entirely clear, but it sounded like a bit of a dance of "let's meet up" "Yes let's" "Let's meet up after Christmas" that never ended up with any clear plans being mooted. I think it's worth another text, before writing it off. A solid suggestion of "would you like to go for lunch next (whatever date?). If she ignores the text or makes an excuse, then that is a clear rejection of a concrete date suggestion.
Toodaloo Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 It is all about the DENNIS system. Demonstrate value Engage physically Nurture dependence Neglect emotionally Inspire hope Separate entirely Dallers This is absolutely awful! Is this serious advice? I always thought you were pretty level headed...? Lead 'em on and throw them away? Have you been reading manuals on how to completely screw up a womans brain? No wonder we have threads on "Damaged Goods" and such. My advice is be straight forward and to the point. Don't wishy wash about. Get on with it be concise and direct. Set a day time place and if nothing happens well thats that then walk away. If you do not get a positive response then move on and don't look back. Men and Women should not be messing with each others head like this. It is just screwing people up. Not a nice trait. 1
Ebelskiver Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 What is this DENNIS protocol Dallers? It sounds like a pick-up artist confabulation. Sure, with high school boys and girls playing games like that will induce feelings of need and passion. But as an adult it just makes me roll my eyes. And as for $ and muscles......I want my dates to be in the same general level of financial security that I am, if they're better off.....cool, but it certainly won't make my panties go flying if they're an ass. I don't mind if they make less either, as long as they're responsible and live within their means. As for muscles, I like a guy to be fit, about as fit as I am. Super muscle is just a turn-off however. Fat....I'm just not attracted to. Respect, mutual attraction and mutual long term goals. Oh, and similar sexual appetites. I'm so sick of limp dick boys only putting out twice a week and rolling their eyes while they tell me I'm the horniest person they've ever met. And of course being responsive to texts and calls but not creepily so. 1
Toodaloo Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 What is this DENNIS protocol Dallers? It sounds like a pick-up artist confabulation. Sure, with high school boys and girls playing games like that will induce feelings of need and passion. But as an adult it just makes me roll my eyes. And as for $ and muscles......I want my dates to be in the same general level of financial security that I am, if they're better off.....cool, but it certainly won't make my panties go flying if they're an ass. I don't mind if they make less either, as long as they're responsible and live within their means. As for muscles, I like a guy to be fit, about as fit as I am. Super muscle is just a turn-off however. Fat....I'm just not attracted to. Respect, mutual attraction and mutual long term goals. Oh, and similar sexual appetites. I'm so sick of limp dick boys only putting out twice a week and rolling their eyes while they tell me I'm the horniest person they've ever met. And of course being responsive to texts and calls but not creepily so. And thats why we have threads about how older women will not take any rubbish from men and get snooty and walk away quickly... its because we have been "trained" to by behavior like this... Its a wonder any of us are sane at all. 1
Author mtber75 Posted January 7, 2015 Author Posted January 7, 2015 This woman has a boyfriend and I met the guy when I first met her. Nice guy. Although I didn't believe it at first because I though the guy was gay (seriously). But they were affectionate towards each other at the time. I'm not going to steal another guy's girlfriend... That sucks. I get sense that they are just casually dating (not serious) because why would she be contacting me? She hasn't mention the boyfriend at all in her texts. If she wants to meet up for lunch it is possibility that she just wants to network. I'm OK with that too. I'll contact her one more time with a exact date and place to meet up. Thanks for all the advices!
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