hearbroken Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Hey everyone, looking for some advice. So I broke with my ex in march, but we still were together until nov. Then she told me she was dating someone else, but still wanted to be friends. I was like idk if that can work, but she wanted to stay friends. so over the past two months we talked almost everyday, multiple times. she invited me over two weeks ago, and we were kissing, touch etc but no sex bc she said she would fell bad. a week ago she told me she loves me, and on nye she told me she misses me while with the other guy. The other day i asked her out, and she said she is not interested in running back to something that broke her so many times again. So, is this guy a rebound or is it done?
coolheadal Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 (edited) Got watch it with these EX Lovers there, now your caught in her web of games and lies. Should have stayed NC and now she's has another guy along with you stringing along at her beck and call. She's calling the shots here your just a pawn in master plan. She has 2 guys one she dates the other one (she cheats with you, she fools around with you). Is this what you want EX GF who told you you broke her heart! Now payback on you is playing head games! She would be the rebound in this situation but if she loved the other guy, but now tells you she loves you, but won't take you. Messy mess you got yourself into with her. Edited January 5, 2015 by coolheadal 1
Author hearbroken Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 yea its messy.... i hate it but i still love her having been doing nc for the past few days. she now is like posting a million pics of them and putting a status like am not looking behind. is this dude a rebound?
KBarletta Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 yea its messy.... i hate it but i still love her having been doing nc for the past few days. she now is like posting a million pics of them and putting a status like am not looking behind. is this dude a rebound? He's likely a rebound, but you do yourself no favors by constantly hanging around as a backup option. It hurts your status in every possible way. Also, if you're looking at her photos and status updates, you're not in NC. Best option at this point is to disappear COMPLETELY from her radar, stop checking her social media and concentrate on healing yourself.
tikay00 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Dissapear COMPLETELY. Me and my ex just had this convo last night. She said the 2 months of NC was a blessing, because if I would have stayed friends with her, the resentment would have never gone away, and she would have hated me, and never talked to me again. She said all her resentment went away after we haven't talked in so long, and she could see the good in us. Although, I'm still not clear about where we are yet.
Author hearbroken Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 Yea am in nc now. I know things are probably over but i do still hope. This dude is a shortier uglier verison of me.hope its justt a rebound
Author hearbroken Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 anyone else's thoughts? is this a rebound? is nc the way to go? it just doesnt make sense to me how you can date someone for two months but love and miss someone else
erklat Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 So I broke with my ex in march, but we still were together until nov. You dumped her?
Author hearbroken Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 i did we got into a stupid fight.... it something she always brought up
erklat Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Then she is not on the rebound. She is the dumpee, dumper rebounds, dumpee is pining. This is probably over and she stringed you along and healed her ego. Next time be mindful not to dump your partner to provoke a reaction or coerce her into doing something.
Author hearbroken Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 yea... i guess your right.... its just weird bc she would talk about our future sometimes .... and having a kid.... it makes no sense
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