Pjcj42 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 My girlfriend of one year just broke up with me in a text a week ago and doesn't want to talk in person or on the phone. She knows I'm in love with her and was planning to propose. I just discovered she started dating her co worker/boss. I decided to have no contact with her and deleted all her contact info but she started texting four times last night telling me how sorry she was and that I would eventually understand why she can't see me.i didn't respond to her but this morning we ran into each other in the hallway at work. She said hi and I nodded my head and walked on without a glance. I did tell everyone at work she was seeing the new guy and the funny thing is he is almost universally disliked.. Was I wrong to tell our co-workers about him? I think I did it because I know it would hurt her reputation and it couldn't be a secret anymore. Should I apologize for my actions or just let it be? Yes I do think of being with her again but won't after knowing this new guys history.
HurtGator Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 My girlfriend of one year just broke up with me in a text a week ago and doesn't want to talk in person or on the phone. She knows I'm in love with her and was planning to propose. I just discovered she started dating her co worker/boss. I decided to have no contact with her and deleted all her contact info but she started texting four times last night telling me how sorry she was and that I would eventually understand why she can't see me.i didn't respond to her but this morning we ran into each other in the hallway at work. She said hi and I nodded my head and walked on without a glance. I did tell everyone at work she was seeing the new guy and the funny thing is he is almost universally disliked.. Was I wrong to tell our co-workers about him? I think I did it because I know it would hurt her reputation and it couldn't be a secret anymore. Should I apologize for my actions or just let it be? Yes I do think of being with her again but won't after knowing this new guys history. As long as you weren't lying about them dating, you're fine. I am in a similar situation where my exgf is a coworker and she broke up with me to date another coworker. When people ask me what happened to us, I just flat out tell them that she broke up with me for so-and-so.
Ieris Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 No I don't think you was wrong to tell your co-workers, simply let it be. They would have seen them getting close and come asking you about what's going on. So best you clear all that up to avoid further questions. Think you're doing well by ignoring her breadcrumbs and not giving her a reaction. Keep strong! x
Chi townD Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 No need to say anything because the fact of the matter is, people probably already knew. A lot of the time, the dumpee is usually the last to know. Don't sweat it. Just move on. Make positive changes in your life and heal from this. Strict NC as much as you can.
SoThatHappened Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 My girlfriend of one year just broke up with me in a text a week ago... I just discovered she started dating her co worker/boss. What may help you here is to realize that she was cheating on you. The incest going on with this girl at your place of work is rampant. Get out of there if you can, just to get away from her and other coworkers. If that's not possible, just keep your head down, remain as civil as possible, and keep contact to an absolute minimum.
Author Pjcj42 Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 I really want to go by her house tonight because I know he will be with her just want to have that last confrontationmight will try to resist but its hard.
Chi townD Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Don't do it! You think you're in control but you'll never know how you'll react when you see them physically together. Next thing you know you'll be in the county lock up for assault. This chick isn't worth going to jail over. The simple fact that you gave her the cold shoulder at work should tell her how you feel at the moment. Guilt is going to hit her. Wouldn't surprise me if you get an email from her trying to explain everything. You want to get back at them? Then you should have reported them to HR especially if he's her direct supervisor. That's a big no-no in the business world. They'll have to separate them or even fire them.
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