thinkingguy Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 I posted earlier about what to do about a girl that i think is interested in something more than what i am able to give. Well we hooked up a few days ago. She gave me her number but i did not call b/c i wasnt sure i wanted to. Yesterday she calls my friend and gets my number and calls me. I know she wants to hang out that night so i agree somewhat reluctantly. We go out and after the "date" i decide not to kiss her b/c i dont want to make her think that i want something more. Well, instead, she kisses me. I feel no "sparks" or anything. I just go along with it until it is over. I have recently broken up with a girl that i am not completely over, so i am sure this is causing me some of the emotional problems that i have dealing with this new girl. What do you think this new girl wants from me. Do you think she just wants to hook up occasionally or does she seem like she wants more. We just met and i enjoy her company but i am not emotionally ready to get into anything serious. Should i let her know this? And another thing with my inexperience, this is the first kiss of a few that i have had that felt empty. This is also the first girl that i was not dating that i kissed. Does feeling nothing during a kiss mean there is nothing there or does part of the empty feeling have something to do with me not being completely over my ex. I am the most confused that i have ever been in my life.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 i enjoy her company but i am not emotionally ready to get into anything serious. And another thing with my inexperience, this is the first kiss of a few that i have had that felt empty. This is also the first girl that i was not dating that i kissed. Does feeling nothing during a kiss mean there is nothing there or does part of the empty feeling have something to do with me not being completely over my ex. I am the most confused that i have ever been in my life. Should i let her know this? Yes. The kindest thing would be to break it off, since you have nothing to offer her but... if you want to continue to enjoy her company - let her know what you wrote here. Let her know that you don't know what she is expecting from you but you can't offer much right now. You'll have to be pretty consistently and repetitively clear about it though, because if you continue to date her and let her kiss on you she will begin to find it very hard to see past her own hopes for where she thinks this relationship is going.
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