Author Kermit007 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 She wrote those things to you on purpose in order to get a reaction. DONT GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION. Analyze that sentence she sent you. And then the text after. It's a missile directed at you to get you to react. You win by NOT reacting and just letting it slide. She's playing games. You, DON'T PLAY. These kind of games make me kind of sad. I mean....this is a girl thats 35, really smart,... Makes me really sad that she uses these kinds of childish methods to get some attention :s
lolablue17 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 What do you want to hear? Yes, she wants you, for sure! Why? who knows? it's probably a combination of reasons. Maybe she wnats more the things she can't have. Maybe she wants you because she understand she made a mistake and her dignity cause her to not being clear with you. She wants you to do all the job. Maybe she tried with her EX and it didn't work out. But the fact is that she is willing and ready. But - Do you want her back? If you do, meet her, and remind her that you broke up with her because for you it 100% or nothing and you felt that she wasn't 100%. Ask her if this has changed or not. I you don't want her back, tell her to stop sending you texts. If you want to be friends with her, tell her that. But just stop cooperating with her game of hints. 1
Author Kermit007 Posted January 9, 2015 Author Posted January 9, 2015 What do you want to hear? Yes, she wants you, for sure! Why? who knows? it's probably a combination of reasons. Maybe she wnats more the things she can't have. Maybe she wants you because she understand she made a mistake and her dignity cause her to not being clear with you. She wants you to do all the job. Maybe she tried with her EX and it didn't work out. But the fact is that she is willing and ready. But - Do you want her back? If you do, meet her, and remind her that you broke up with her because for you it 100% or nothing and you felt that she wasn't 100%. Ask her if this has changed or not. I you don't want her back, tell her to stop sending you texts. If you want to be friends with her, tell her that. But just stop cooperating with her game of hints. Uhm dont agree with you that she wants me. She hasnt said that she wants me, she just send texts to play games and ask for attention!
seminoles84 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Uhm dont agree with you that she wants me. She hasnt said that she wants me, she just send texts to play games and ask for attention! Agree.....
lolablue17 Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Uhm dont agree with you that she wants me. She hasnt said that she wants me, she just send texts to play games and ask for attention! Who knows... Your guess is probably better because you know her, but on the other hand, my guess is not affected by insecurity. We can agree that she may want you back just for dumping you, byt this time properly... :)
bubbaganoosh Posted January 9, 2015 Posted January 9, 2015 Anyone with advice? Yeah. All this stuff going on is so high school. She's keeping you around as a plan B and the only thing I can tell you is what you said in one of your earlier posts. You have a great job and your doing real good for yourself so with that, why take a step down. My advice is move on. Tell her that your done with her, see ya later, move on and good luck. You can do it in a way that you don't sound like a eighth grader and get your point across so she knows that she's wasting your time an you go find a more mature woman who has her head screwed on her shoulders looking in the right direction. Either that or let her continue to play these little head games with you.
Author Kermit007 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 Today she called me....i didnt pick up. She left me a voicemail message "can you call me back? Thanks." I havent called back yet...
Author Kermit007 Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 Ok a day later I decided to call her back. She wanted to know if I was mad at her cause i didnt reply to her texts. Told her I didnt want contact with her unless it was about talking about our relationship. Told her i wasnt interested in just friendly texting back and forward. I told her if she wanted to talk about us, has regrets about us breaking up she just had to say so and we could talk about it. But if it wasnt to talk about that, that I would like if she would just leave me alone. I told her I wasnt going to contact her either. She said that for the moment she just needs time, and is happy on her own. She also said that she asked for time, and that I broke it off, not giving her the time she asked for. I told her when we broke up and she came by to pick up her stuff she seemed ok with it, and did nothing to stop it. She replied by telling me, she wasnt going to beg to stay and convince me not to break up. She was also alsking if i was seeing someone else, but it told her that was none of her business. So now she knows how I stand, unless she doesnt want to talk about us, she now knows she is never going to hear from me again. She said she would leave me alone then... I said if she wanted to work thing out and talk she could always call me...but she said...that for the moment she is happy with her life and that there wasnt much to still talk about and time will tell in the future. Women...
Author Kermit007 Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 (edited) Thanks! But let me start by saying...it wasnt easy. I was absolutely thrilled with the fact that she called me. But also knew that I prob had to say to her to her to stop contacting me unless it was to talk about us. Dont know what will happen now, i will continue to work on myself...Somehow now, I think iI wont hear her anymore. We have been broken up a month now and have to say...when I told her I didnt want contact with her unless it was to talk about us...she didnt say "No i dont want that, I want you in my life" She did always ask multiple times if i was seeing anybody, and if that was the case, that she is happy for me. When hearing that the only thing I could think was "When she says something like that, I guess she is ok with us breaking up, otherwise..she would be in front of my door begging to take her back" Guess her attraction level for me just isn't high enough to have a relationship. How can you otherwise say "I'm happy for you if you are with someone new" Edited January 12, 2015 by Kermit007
Author Kermit007 Posted January 15, 2015 Author Posted January 15, 2015 Well guys just posting this little update to tell you guys...since the phonecall from last sunday it has been absolute silence from her end. I told her on the phone what the terms were...and haven't heared from her since. On one end I was "happy" she called me, cause this means in one way or the other she is chasing but now I know better. She doesnt call/text me anymore now she knows what the terms are. So I guess it's pretty obvious what her intension were from the beginning..Keeping in contact to keep you around, to stay in her life,... Ok it's only been like 4 days, but if a woman really wants to be with you, she doesn't need time, isn't unsure about the relationship, ... Will continue to remain in absolute NC and work on myself!
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