musicalsteve82 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 What does it mean to click with someone? I've too many definitions and I'm wondering which is right.
WonderWoman911 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 It means you get along with someone really well.
Gloria25 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 It's "je ne sais quoi"...It's chemistry...it can't always be defined by words. Now, having certain things in common helps. Attraction helps, but its hard to put into words...but trust me, you know it when you feel it.
Author musicalsteve82 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Posted January 10, 2015 See what I mean? There's two definitions here. Is it random magic or having a lot in common?
Leigh 87 Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 It ain't chemistry. .. I had good sexual chemistry with a guy a few months ago; but we certainly didn't " click"
A O Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 See what I mean? There's two definitions here. Is it random magic or having a lot in common? I reckon the commonality creates the magic, or spark to use a more popular term. Many reasons for this, some that I can think of include similar personality (being open, cheerful and so forth) through to shared experiences and views on topics and outlook on many aspects of life. Sure there's many more reasons to boot. Ain't it just grand when we just click with folk.
Danda Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 OP it's like asking people what love is (queue Haddaway now lol). It's a feeling that is difficult to articulate. It's like trying to describe the way a psychedelic trip "felt" to you or something. You'll see all sorts of 'definitions' as people take a stab at it, as far as putting it into words, and you'll see some people try to take a scientific approach to it. You'll get everything from colorful metaphors and waxing poetic to some article on neurological changes in the brain. And then just when you think you've got that **** figured out along come some examples that blow your theory out of the water. With some things in life it's more feeling and rolling with it, than analyzing, formulating and articulating. It can be very frustrating for some people, like Aspies, but they still experience it perhaps unaware, as they still get into relationships. Again just roll with it.
GravityMan Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Yeah, I think clicking with someone is different than (sexual) chemistry. Clicking with someone basically just means that you "get" each other. You naturally understand each other's tendencies, personalities, quirks, emotions, thought processes and so on...AND you know how to act and respond in the right way (BTW, "right" is subjective in this case i.e. it depends on the person) when the other person is in an jovial or sarcastic or upset or whatever mood. Your senses of humor also will mesh well. Even when the other person unveils a new surprising wrinkle about him/herself...it still seems to "make sense". Both of you are operating on a congruent wavelength. This is something that cannot be forced. Clicking with someone is either going to happen or it's not. Don't worry too much about this...when you mesh well with someone, you'll know and likely will know rather quickly.
Leigh 87 Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Yeah, I think clicking with someone is different than (sexual) chemistry. Clicking with someone basically just means that you "get" each other. You naturally understand each other's tendencies, personalities, quirks, emotions, thought processes and so on...AND you know how to act and respond in the right way (BTW, "right" is subjective in this case i.e. it depends on the person) when the other person is in an jovial or sarcastic or upset or whatever mood. Your senses of humor also will mesh well. Even when the other person unveils a new surprising wrinkle about him/herself...it still seems to "make sense". Both of you are operating on a congruent wavelength. This is something that cannot be forced. Clicking with someone is either going to happen or it's not. Don't worry too much about this...when you mesh well with someone, you'll know and likely will know rather quickly. Yes to this. You don't even have to come from similar backgrounds. You don't have to have similar personalities. Should you only date those who you " click " with ? It's always easier to. However, if you have intense sexual chemistry and you both share core values and you still get along well, I feel it can compensate for not necessarily " clicking " per say.
A O Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 Should you only date those who you " click " with ? It's always easier to. True but there are other factors at play that are yet to be determined, sex as you point out is one such factor as his behavior, namely how someone treats others. All the whiz bang, thank you ma'am fireworks and intense connections mean sweet stuff all if the person ultimately proves to be an a-hole.
preraph Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 When it happens to you, you'll know. For me, it feels like two wheels just interlocked and started spinning faster. It feels like mutual momentum.
EveAFlame Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Clicking to me is having a great conversational flow, being at ease almost immediately. Having same sense of humor, interests, and all that jazz.
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