dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I've recently had an epileptic seizure which has resulted in me having numerous cuts, bruises and grazes in numerous areas on my face. The problem is there's a woman at work who knows about my epilepsy but also potentially likes me/flirts. What should I do? What if she sees me in this state? It looks painful. I return to work tomorrow and this happened two nights ago.
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Anyone who likes you wouldn't care about you having injuries from an epileptic fit. Just act normal, explain what happened if she asks. 6
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 Anyone who likes you wouldn't care about you having injuries from an epileptic fit. Just act normal, explain what happened if she asks. Even if it looks horrendous? It's cut my cheek (and made it swollen). There are numerous grazes and large cuts above both eyes. It looks serious. I'm worried it will shock her.
anne1707 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Then your attitude when you go into work needs to show that you are fine in spite of the cuts. If she likes you then she will be concerned for you, supportive and understanding. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. 6
amaysngrace Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 She may feel really sorry for you and want to take care of you like a little lost puppy. If it freaks her out you're better to know now rather than later anyway. I'd just be honest and say what happened in a way that shows her that you're okay with your illness and accept it as just a piece of the hand you've been dealt. I'd also change the subject in a pretty casual way too so that she knows that your illness does not define you...it's just something that you have. 2
GemmaUK Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Just be open to all, they will understand. A friend of mine was recently put on a different prescription for his epilepsy -(not for any reason either) he used to get a 'feeling' he was about to have an attack and his new drugs mean he has no forewarning and he ended up breaking his hip. Speak to your doc about different drugs maybe?
Dallers Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 There is always a silver lining in every situation. After you took out the first 3 guys you explain to her that the fourth hit you round the face with a plank of wood and knocked you clean out. The police informed you that the three men you took out have been arrested all thanks to your bravery. What a hero! 1
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 She may feel really sorry for you and want to take care of you like a little lost puppy. If it freaks her out you're better to know now rather than later anyway. I'd just be honest and say what happened in a way that shows her that you're okay with your illness and accept it as just a piece of the hand you've been dealt. I'd also change the subject in a pretty casual way too so that she knows that your illness does not define you...it's just something that you have. In some regards, I don't want that to happen. 2
darkmoon Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 In some regards, I don't want that to happen. what do you want to happen? if you like the girl, this is a fine test for her, her reaction will inevitably be telling whatever it is
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 what do you want to happen? if you like the girl, this is a fine test for her, her reaction will inevitably be telling whatever it is I agree, but nurturing isn't quite the same is it?
thefooloftheyear Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I would just tell people that you got the injuries while performing a citizens arrest on a guy that was snatching the purse from an 85 year old woman while she was coming from church services.. She'll be like "WOW, really??":love: TFY 3
darkmoon Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I agree, but nurturing isn't quite the same is it? but you never said what you want to happen what do you want? 2
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 but you never said what you want to happen what do you want? I want things to be as normal as they could possibly be. If she is flirting, I don't want her to take one look at my appearance and for it to shock her.
mammasita Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Sooooo, take a couple days off to let the swelling go down.
Erised Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 It's not a big deal. If she likes you, she'll probably have somewhat of a nurturing reaction. That's typical for women who like someone. If you want to play it off, when she asks what happened, tell her very seriously that you don a cape a fight crime on the weekends. Obviously. Or whatever is natural to you, to joke about it. That will temper it for it to be natural. Regardless, not really an issue. No one ever was interested in someone and wasn't interested because they are hurt. 1
Noproblem Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 if I like someone I'll feel bad for what happened to him I am sorry for what happened to you....
darkmoon Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 (edited) we do not get shocked by gore, we have periods and births, but take a pair of sunglasses in case you feel exposed, it should make for a better look, if she nutures you do not refuse or she may feel hurt and confused Edited January 4, 2015 by darkmoon 3
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 we do not get shocked by gore, we have periods and births, but take a pair of sunglasses in case you feel exposed, it should make for a better look, if she nutures you do not refuse or she may feel hurt and confused Thank you for the advice. I just presumed nurturing wasn't the same kind of affection.
SomeDude16 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Tell her you like the sex rough In all seriousness though you're overthinking this. She's going to see it either way so the best thing you can do is be confident and not let it effect who you are 2
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 Tell her you like the sex rough In all seriousness though you're overthinking this. She's going to see it either way so the best thing you can do is be confident and not let it effect who you are Again, thanks for the advice. I don't really care who sees it and what they think. I was primarily worried it would change the way she potentially feels about me. 1
SomeDude16 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Again, thanks for the advice. I don't really care who sees it and what they think. I was primarily worried it would change the way she potentially feels about me. That's a great attitude to have, best of luck. Keep us updated 1
melodymatters Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I was married to a man who had epilepsy. Is your medication controlling it well ? We didn't have health insurance so it was a nightmare. Honestly, this is something she needs to know. It's not a small deal. Hopefully she will accept you and maybe even fall in love with you . That's what happened with us. 1
Author dl02 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 I was married to a man who had epilepsy. Is your medication controlling it well ? We didn't have health insurance so it was a nightmare. Honestly, this is something she needs to know. It's not a small deal. Hopefully she will accept you and maybe even fall in love with you . That's what happened with us. She knows. I was worried about the response. It was "awww...". We then went into a deep conversation about it and she revealed her brother suffers from it. I'm not currently taking medication. They still need to identify which type I require (it's been around 6 months since it started). I'm in the UK - so no health insurance is really required. Sorry to hear of your struggles. 1
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