I told my boyfriend how i felt, again, about his social network activity with his ex,

[Ashley1985]

I told my boyfriend how i felt, again, about his social network activity with his ex, but this time I have a feeling that won't go away...?

 

I told my boyfriend more than once (maybe three times now) that I don't like if he likes one of his ex girlfriends pictures or responds to one of her comments. I know that i sound like a jealous *, but i'm really not. She has caused problems in the past: writing me long messages and doing spiteful things, like making flirty comments under some of his pics, which hasn't happened for awhile now. But, I told my BF why i felt the way i did and i also reversed the roles and told him that he would feel the same way if he was in my shoes, and he agreed. Side note, his ex girlfriend likes almost all of his pictures, including some that i'm in. So fast forwarding to the most recent situation: two day ago he liked one of her New Years pictures on her page and i just closed down. I told him why i was upset and he apologized saying that there was no thought in liking her picture; he was just scrolling through his timeline and liked almost everyone's picture who posted a New Years pic. He said he was sorry over an over, but i still can't fight this feeling I have and i've been distant towards him. I've told him how i felt more than once now, and I just don't feel like being bothered right now. Am I taking this to the extreme? Thoughts?

[Erised]

Getting upset over liking a photo is extreme.

 

Him not stopping her and being very clear about her behavior being inappropriate, though, is hugely concerning. After the first time he should have told her that flirty comments are inappropriate, and the next time he should have unfriended her. He's not defending your relationship, and that's a problem.

[evanescentworld]

I've just read all your threads.

 

For god's sake, quit with all the drama and just dump him, and give both of you a permanent break!!

[acrosstheuniverse]

Normally I'd say you're overreacting, if this girl had never caused you any problems before, or if you behaved this way about all women... but it sounds like you perceive her to be someone you don't want involved in your relationship (for what sounds like solid reasons) and clearly it upsets and annoys you that he continues to choose interacting with her over your feelings.

 

If you've told him several times, and he's ignoring your feelings in favour of liking photos on facebook, then you know that he feels more strongly about being in touch with her than he does your feelings on the matter. Whether or not that's something you can live with is up to you, but I wouldn't keep pushing him to stop when he's blatantly not going to. You have to realise that this is how he chooses to conduct himself, rightly or wrongly, and to decide whether you want that lack of consideration in a partner or not.

 

If he wouldn't like it the other way around, why on earth hasn't he just deleted her already?

[evanescentworld]

Normally I'd say you're overreacting, if this girl had never caused you any problems before, or if you behaved this way about all women... but it sounds like you perceive her to be someone you don't want involved in your relationship (for what sounds like solid reasons) and clearly it upsets and annoys you that he continues to choose interacting with her over your feelings.

 

If you've told him several times, and he's ignoring your feelings in favour of liking photos on facebook, then you know that he feels more strongly about being in touch with her than he does your feelings on the matter. Whether or not that's something you can live with is up to you, but I wouldn't keep pushing him to stop when he's blatantly not going to. You have to realise that this is how he chooses to conduct himself, rightly or wrongly, and to decide whether you want that lack of consideration in a partner or not.

 

If he wouldn't like it the other way around, why on earth hasn't he just deleted her already?

 

Because he doesn't want to, and has no intention of doing so.

Actions speak louder than words.

 

Dump and be done with it.

[acrosstheuniverse]

I've just read the OP's previous posts and realised she's posted five threads over the past month or two, and never came back to a single one.

 

Why should posters expend effort giving you good advice and suggestions, only for you to not acknowledge it and simply post a new thread each time?

 

Here's your almost identical thread from November, within which you got some decent advice from people. Why not check that instead of starting a new thread?

[evanescentworld]

I've just read the OP's previous posts and realised she's posted five threads over the past month or two, and never came back to a single one.

 

Why should posters expend effort giving you good advice and suggestions, only for you to not acknowledge it and simply post a new thread each time?

 

Here's your almost identical thread from November, within which you got some decent advice from people. Why not check that instead of starting a new thread?

(Hence the point of my first post. Drama Queen, playing into drama.....)

[Ashley1985]

get a life

[evanescentworld]

Pot, kettle, black.