Spartan040 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Girls and guys alike, think back to when you were 17-19 years old. What would you have thought of a guy who was 18 years old and had only ever kissed one girl, had done nothing more sexually, and had never had a girlfriend? I've really only been faced with serious temptation twice, where I knew I could have gotten her in bed if I wanted, but I resisted both times because I had reason to be cautious or I knew it wasn't right. Girls, what would your opinion have been? Is he lame, not worth dating, not desireable, probably not good in bed, what? Guys, is he lame? Not a real man? I know I have asked this question a few times, but I wanted to know what most guys and girls around my age (I'll be 18 in two months) would think, since that's who I mostly deal with socially. I care a little bit about what people's opinions are, but not all that much, it's not like I let it control my self esteem. I just want to know what I'm up against.
InsaneTrombone Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Despite what you may think, you're still kind of young. It's not as big of a deal as you may make it out to be at your age. Friends may tease you about it, but it really doesn't matter unless you let it get to you. It'll happen when it happens.
Haerts Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 It's not a problem to be virgin or to only have kissed one girl in your life. There are a lot more to come. Start going out to parties and whenever you feel ready, go ahead and have sex with a girl. Eventually you'll be more confident and you'll get to the point where you won't even think about it. My boyfriend was ~kinda~ virgin. He only had sex twice before meeting me and both experiences, he said, were horrible. He's 22, still so young too. That wasn't a problem to me at all. Of course, I had to be patient, as I've had sex a lot more than he did, but now things are working well for us in bed. He's not the best yet, but each time he's getting better and I'm happy about it. So really, it's all okay. Just relax, your time has yet to come. PS: just to mention, I have a friend who's 33 and his first kiss was at 31. His first kiss is also his first relationship, and apparently everything's still going great between them! So don't worry. Each individual has their own time, be patient.
spiderowl Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Thinking back to that time, it would not have been unusual at all. I would not think him lame or anything. I'd be more worried about my lack of experience. I was into crushes and falling in love at that age (still am but it doesn't seem likely ), the things that mattered then were: was he polite and kind, fun, did he treat me respectfully, was he attractive to me? I would not have had a clue about his experience and it would not have been relevant, not remotely. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Girls and guys alike, think back to when you were 17-19 years old. What would you have thought of a guy who was 18 years old and had only ever kissed one girl, had done nothing more sexually, and had never had a girlfriend? I've really only been faced with serious temptation twice, where I knew I could have gotten her in bed if I wanted, but I resisted both times because I had reason to be cautious or I knew it wasn't right. Girls, what would your opinion have been? Is he lame, not worth dating, not desireable, probably not good in bed, what? Guys, is he lame? Not a real man? I know I have asked this question a few times, but I wanted to know what most guys and girls around my age (I'll be 18 in two months) would think, since that's who I mostly deal with socially. I care a little bit about what people's opinions are, but not all that much, it's not like I let it control my self esteem. I just want to know what I'm up against. Ok. Kind of a loaded question. First off, I am a guy and I was that guy. In fact, at that age, I had kissed zero women. The answer is that the more you are away from the norm, the more people will care. If you are an 18 year old virgin, it is not ideal, but not too bad either. 27 year old, not good. 40 year, horrible. At 18, it could still be the case that you are quite a good looking guy and that you were just really shy or just had bad luck. And that's what women care most about, is attraction. If you're a 28 year old virgin and you've tried, you're just probably not that attractive. But you have a lot of time to find that out. Good luck man.
shmisk Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 my boyfriend at 17 was a virgin with limited experience Its not as if I had masses myself to be honest I don't think it matters
Diezel Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 At 18? Not a problem. At 38? Probably a problem. At 78? Probably doesn't matter. 4
AVarma Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Dude you're 18. I'm 28 and have never kissed a girl before. I'm also a virgin. You're actually better than me in the sense that you've kissed one girl. If you've already gotten your first kiss it shouldn't be long before you have sex. Relax. If you reach my age and still haven't done anything with a girl then you can join the pity party.
d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 At that age I would have thought you were a dream come true. 1
Erised Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I'm an old woman now compared to you, but I certainly would not have been bothered by such a thing a decade ago.
writergal Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Spartan my dear you are young, and so it's fine if you are still a virgin at your age. I think it's more normal to lose one's virginity after high school, during college. You are totally datable and are not lame for still being a virgin.
kendahke Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 At 17-19, it wouldn't have mattered if he hadn't kissed a bunch of girls because at that point in my life, I hadn't kissed a lot of boys and I would have felt more comfortable with him than with someone who had. It's not lame to be a virgin. 1
Author Spartan040 Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 Thanks guys, made me breathe easier 1
Assada Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 As pompous as it may sound, Guys stock improve as the get older. So dont worry about it at all. Worry about getting good grades in school. Because if you have worldly expereince and a few coins in your pocket, punany is cake
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