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My girlfriend or should I maybe say ex gf had just recently hit the one year mark. As our relationship lead up to that point and past it she had been quit different towards me kind of shutting me out becoming a little more agitated with me but never broke up with me or said she wanted to break up with me. Then one weekend I get a text from a friend of mine saying that we needed to talk and asked if we were both still together and I told him yes. This friend of mine lives with another one of my good friends in a house together and he informed me that my gf had spent numerous night over at there house and slept in the same bed with my other good friend. I confronted my girlfriend about this and at first she denied it then I told her the proof so then she proclaimed that it wasn't as bad as it had sounded and that they had done nothing but sleep in the same bed and that she thinks this kind of behavior is ok and would allow me to do it. She insisted that they were just friends and enjoyed to talk together and just wound up having what she called " sleepovers". Anyway things cooled down for a day or so and my gf and I got together and talked and she continued to insist that I'm making up ideas in my head and that there just friends but then tells me that me and her need a break. The complicated part is that my gf and I have both just gotten a puppy together and we worked together on this and share the dog. Since this has all happened I've been trying to communicate with her as little as possible but still have to coordinate taking care of the dog and seeing her everyday. She says she wants a break so I'm minding my business but she finds anyway to talk to me whether it's about the dog or random texts at 3 in the morning saying that she hopes I'm having a good night. I try to respond to these as little as possible but then she becomes mean and sends nasty messages when I ignore her, and has become very possessive and bossy about the dog. I'm not sure what she's thinking or where I should go with this. She tries to talk with me and when I don't respond she tries to start and argument. Where do I go with this... Do I just give in and tell her to take the dog and care for it all by herself? I don't want to give up the dog because I love it and have a very big attachment, i mean I even paid for the thing, but there's no way that she is going to give in at all

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My girlfriend or should I maybe say ex gf had just recently hit the one year mark.

 

As our relationship lead up to that point and past it she had been quit different towards me kind of shutting me out becoming a little more agitated with me but never broke up with me or said she wanted to break up with me.

 

Then one weekend I get a text from a friend of mine saying that we needed to talk and asked if we were both still together and I told him yes.

 

This friend of mine lives with another one of my good friends in a house together and he informed me that my gf had spent numerous night over at there house and slept in the same bed with my other good friend.

 

I confronted my girlfriend about this and at first she denied it then I told her the proof so then she proclaimed that it wasn't as bad as it had sounded and that they had done nothing but sleep in the same bed and that she thinks this kind of behavior is ok and would allow me to do it.

 

She insisted that they were just friends and enjoyed to talk together and just wound up having what she called " sleepovers".

 

Anyway things cooled down for a day or so and my gf and I got together and talked and she continued to insist that I'm making up ideas in my head and that there just friends but then tells me that me and her need a break.

 

The complicated part is that my gf and I have both just gotten a puppy together and we worked together on this and share the dog. Since this has all happened I've been trying to communicate with her as little as possible but still have to coordinate taking care of the dog and seeing her everyday.

 

She says she wants a break so I'm minding my business but she finds anyway to talk to me whether it's about the dog or random texts at 3 in the morning saying that she hopes I'm having a good night.

 

I try to respond to these as little as possible but then she becomes mean and sends nasty messages when I ignore her, and has become very possessive and bossy about the dog.

 

I'm not sure what she's thinking or where I should go with this. She tries to talk with me and when I don't respond she tries to start and argument.

 

Where do I go with this... Do I just give in and tell her to take the dog and care for it all by herself? I don't want to give up the dog because I love it and have a very big attachment, i mean I even paid for the thing, but there's no way that she is going to give in at all

 

I paragraphed it because it was hard to read. Hope you don't mind.

 

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She's full of it and you know it.

 

Take the dog to the vet, have the dog registered in your name, and since you're there make sure the vaccines are up to date. Keep the receipts showing you paid for your dog. She will have no rights over the dog, and there is no history anyways, it's a puppy.

 

Once it's all done, "fire" her ass because she's a cheating liar.

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SoThatHappened Established Member

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1. If you believe nothing happened on her "sleepovers", I have some oceanfront property in Colorado to sell you.

 

2. Drop this girl like a bad habit.

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dyna85 Established Member

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Wow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a shame she won't fess up to the fact that she betrayed you. I would keep the dog since you paid for it and separate from her because you deserve someone who won't betray your trust like that. The fact that she tried to justify her behavior shows that her problems run pretty deep. I don't think it can be salvaged, unless you're willing to put up with a cheater.

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1. If you believe nothing happened on her "sleepovers", I have some oceanfront property in Colorado to sell you.

 

2. Drop this girl like a bad habit.

 

This. Not because i know, but because iv had enough advice from SoThatsHappened to know hes usually right with his advice.

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xpaperxcutx Established Member

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What's the relationship between her and this other friend that allowed her to have " sleepovers"?

 

She's the definition of a sl-t and I cannot believe you fell for her BS.

 

Take the pup and go NC.

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1. Your girlfriend is a cheater. Those were not just "sleepovers". She knows it and you know it.

2. She is a not-so-bright cheater (really? staying at your friends' and thinking she wouldn't get caught?)

3. You need to dump her

4. Claim the dog as yours. She chose to break up your little family, her loss.

5. Don't ever speak to your so-called "friend"/sleepover-buddy again.

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they had done nothing but sleep in the same bed and that she thinks this kind of behavior is ok and would allow me to do it.

This made me laugh, you wont find a woman on this earth who is OK with this, except if you are in an open relationship.

 

I am really sorry that you have to go through this.

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I guess if they were innocent sleepovers then you would have heard about them from her and it wouldn't have been a hidden thing. Oh wait, I guess sleeping over at your boyfriend's male friends house and sharing a bed sounds utterly ludicrous. Also, what does she mean it's completely normal? Uh, just how f'd up is this woman?!

 

"Babe, I know he's your friend so I was giving him a blow job so that he would feel good and be happy. It's totally normal" :sick::sick::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

What was that break up thing about? I mean really, she diddles your friend and lies to you about it and you had to wait until she dumped YOU, really? Your self respect called, wants to know what the fk, bro.

 

I get this odd inclination that perhaps she dumped you in an attempt to gain the upper hand here, you know...so you'd feel grateful when she offered her community vagina back to you or even have you try to beg for

her back. :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick:

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Chi townD Established Member

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Sleepovers are innocent? Okay, Lets look at it this way. When you confronted her about these sleepovers, she denied that it ever happened until you proved that you knew the truth. Now, if they were innocent she would have had NO PROBLEM telling you about it. But, she hid it from you. Why? Because she knew it was wrong. She knew it was a betrayal of trust.

 

 

Now to my second point, Cheaters will only admit to the bare minimum to make it seem not as bad as what it truly is. And she'll only admit to what you know. She knows that you know that she was "sleeping" in a bed with some other dude. So, that's all she'll admit to. I mean, no one sat up all night and ensured that sleeping was all they did.

 

 

Dude, you need to move on. What she's doing right now is hooking up with this other dude and seeing if he wants to enter into a serious relationship with her without you looking over her shoulder.

 

 

Time to move on dude. Forget the dog, sorry to say that. But, it's a puppy you didn't know it that long. And a puppy isn't worth your sanity.

 

 

Oh! And if you think I'm lying, call your friend and find out if she's been back over there for anymore sleepovers or whatever. Betcha dollars to donuts that she has! But, now she can do it guilt free because you're "on a break".

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