MapleWish Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 today when my boyfriend got off work he didnt text me, like i'd asked him to, to tell me what the plan was for today ie if we were hanging or not. i called him an hour or so after his check out time and he answered and i could hear his roommate in the background so i knew where he was but i was upset he didnt give me any heads up as to a plan, he just kept repeating to me "well there was no plan for today" but i meant plan as in we were gonna hang or not. he made a remark that i could still come over and hang with all 3 of the guys (boyfriend, his roommate and his cousin) but i felt like that was a sympathy invite, not a legit one like he's been doing for months) it's just been force of habit for the last few months that he texts when he's off work so i know it's a yay or nay on hanging out or being the two of us. i like a routine and i like knowing if i get to have time with him, yea it upset me a little and i'm not saying he cant hang with his friends, i just like to be notified. it made me neurotic and started thinking "maybe he'd always notify me cause for the last few months he's been wanting to see me and now he doesnt" yea i know it's bad when girls start getting neurotic but i dont know whether to make a fuss since this is the first time he's forgotten to text me or just let it slide or just calmly say "hey this is the deal" and explain myself
preraph Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 He sounds tired of having to check in with you. Why not just tell him that if you haven't heard from him asking you out by, say, (noon or a certain time of day early enough to make other plans), that you will in fact make other plans. Put the ball in his court. But make the time well in advance, so you CAN make plans with your girlfriends or whatever. If it were me, I'd make it the day before. Courtesy says you don't really ask someone out at the last minute. So if he wants to see you, tell him "If I haven't heard from you saying you want to do something by __ o'clock the day before," I'll know we're not doing anything and make my own plans. Right now what you're doing is reserving all your time for him. He doesn't want all your time, and that's okay and no reason to get mad. Just stay busy doing other things when you get the chance by making him ask you ahead of time. 2
kendahke Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Ease up before you wreck things. Preraph gives excellent advice. That would be the best course to follow in the future. 1
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