BigHarold Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 My girlfriend compares me to her past men. She says her men were real cool in that they did not argue or yell. She constantly provokes me into an argument. I am normally a quiet cool person but she seems to pull me into a yelling argument every month. She says things like my first husband was real cool. He never yelled and he had a way of telling you he was angry without yelling. In an earlier conversation, she stated that she never went against anything her husband did or said. He was the man and she obeyed him. Her husband was very wealthy and I think she did not want to upset the flow of money, gifts and nice gifts. How should I respond to her constantly comparing me to her men?
Gaeta Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 You don't respond to that and you change girlfriend. Why would you accept being compared to her exs on regular basis! She is putting you down and you just stand by? You must be a very submissive man with not too much self-confidence to accept this happening over and over. 3
Rydo Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 You dump her of course. She doesn't sound very nice... Maybe you should tell her that your ex gf had less saggy boobs and a nicer bum, see how she reacts and copy that. 3
coolheadal Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 (edited) Comparison Relationship, he mostly going on with you too. First off this is not your problem! She living in the past and only see how she was treated in the past. If the past was so good why did she leave these men? Sounds like she has some sort of mental disorder going on in her head. It gets triggered if you do or say something they didn't do? So really do you want to be with a women like this? I am sure your answer is no! But you do put up with it, because you feel less likely in control of this relationship! You have given the control to her who not thinking about you. She's thinking about how it was so perfect with the past men in her life. She need to pull it together and realize she's living in the now with you and not the past with them. Frankly she's so gone in her mindset you really can't change her. Nor should you be changed either. Find a woman that respects you and wants to be with you only and doesn't bring up past men. No body wants to be compared with anybody else in any type of relationship past or present. This is not how it's suppose to be. Make your life more the way you want it to be. Not by her standards. She will continue to behave like this always because that's all she knows is the past men. Edited January 3, 2015 by coolheadal 2
toscaroscura Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 If her relationships with her exes were so perfect, why is she not with them now? 3
Satu Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Negative comparisons with previous partners? (Alarm bells ring, sirens go off, whistles blow, and hero exits stage left) The end. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 She's being mean or immature. You tell her that you are sure your next GF will be much nicer than her. Then you set off to find your new GF. 1
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