insert_name Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 That must have been very disturbing. Yeah the hand holding was a bit much. My face must have been a picture as I realised the hand was a bit too large, rough and callused to possibly be a woman's. No harm done and I got an amusing story out of it so yeah, I find it oretty funny really
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 How did you handle it? I've had this happen a few times, but I only got pissed off once when the guy was staring at my crotch. That's when I knew how women must feel when a creepy guy hits on them. Ive been asked out by at least 4 lesbian friends if I wasn't with my bf and I was gay ide be sweet for choices!..lol they still even asked after we got together..its a running joke with me and him now lesbians love me..it doesn't really bother me im polite and let them know im not interested in women.. 1
gaius Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Twice. The first stroked my thigh out of the blue. The second wanted to do my naked portrait. Unfortunately I dont like women Not even as artists? I don't end up around a lot of gay guys so only once and it was just one of things you maneuver through the best you can. If you're letting a guy buy you a drink or dancing at gay clubs you must be curious on some level at least though.
shet Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 A few times down the years (amusingly more times, outright being hit on, than by women). Last time was about 3 weeks ago. It's flattering and frustrating. Frustrating because... take your pick - it's a man, not a woman; why did you have to be straight and single when here's this perfectly serviceable guy into you; why do gay men have to be so much more confident than women; what are they seeing that women apparently don't; etc.
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Fortunately, it was at a restaurant bar and I was finished with my meal so I just paid and split. I did want to punch him in the face, though. It really disgusted me when he leered at my crotch. As I said before, it was then that I understood how women feel when men treat them like a piece of meat. So you learned to be more respectful towards women because of this experience I hope!! This happened years ago, I vaguely remember being hit on, it didn't bother me, I was flattered.
preraph Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I used to so wish I was bi. Me and this guy I had seriously crushed on all my life had that in common. We were both bi-curious and really wanted to be bi and both tried (him harder than me -- he "got tired of being the girl" - hah). I loved him so. When we had a reunion decades after when we first knew each other, we talked about that the morning after. I told him, "I always wanted to be bi." He said enthusiastically, "I did too!" I said, "I tried." He said, "I did too!!" It was so fun. It's funny how small things like that can make you just love someone's spirit.
aggie382 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I have an acquaintance who regularly tells me to switch teams because she likes me so much. She's a stunningly beautiful lesbian. Too bad I don't get turned on by vaginas and boobs!
M30USA Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I would probably vomit. One thing I do, though, is go to a male haircutter. Just because he's better than any female haircutter I've had. I would still prefer a female. I know this sounds creepy but I think most men secretly enjoy having a pretty woman cut their hair.
Snaggletooth Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Used to happen to me a fair bit when younger. Apparently because I'm "built like a brick sh*thouse and have a warming face". Whatever the reason, as Haydn said, it's flattering. Occasionally made new friends from it. Regularly golf with a pair of outrageous old queens who I first met through them trying to tempt me with a menage a trois. Tattoos, pink Harleys and ball gowns, killer combination for instant friendship. Dealing with it was never a problem until hit on by one of those fellas who wont take no for an answer. That gets my hackles up. One fella even followed me into the toilet and tried to do me over the head with a bottle. Sneaking up behind in a fit of petulant fury while your target is facing a mirror isn't the smartest move in the world, though. 1
regine_phalange Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Not even as artists? Women are great artists, but I'd rather have the titanic scene with a man please. 1
Author HazyCosmicJive Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 A few times down the years (amusingly more times, outright being hit on, than by women). Last time was about 3 weeks ago. It's flattering and frustrating. Frustrating because... take your pick - it's a man, not a woman; why did you have to be straight and single when here's this perfectly serviceable guy into you; why do gay men have to be so much more confident than women; what are they seeing that women apparently don't; etc. I hear you, man. I think I've been hit on at least as much my other men than I have by women. Women just don't hit on guys, especially the more attractive women - they don't have to. I think the emotional stakes are higher for women as well. Gay men are still men and are probably used to rejection just like straight men. It's more embarrassing for women to be shot down. But I think women are also a lot more subtle when they're "hitting" on men. They're hitting on us, but we don't realize it because it's not as aggressive as when we hit on them. Frustrating because... take your pick - it's a man, not a woman; why did you have to be straight and single when here's this perfectly serviceable guy into you; why do gay men have to be so much more confident than women; what are they seeing that women apparently don't; etc. I've also thought of how much sex I'd be getting if I were gay. I'm still glad I'm not, though. But as I've said before, gay men must be attracted to the same features as women, so I guess we should consider it flattering.
Author HazyCosmicJive Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 I used to so wish I was bi. Me and this guy I had seriously crushed on all my life had that in common. We were both bi-curious and really wanted to be bi and both tried (him harder than me -- he "got tired of being the girl" - hah). I loved him so. When we had a reunion decades after when we first knew each other, we talked about that the morning after. I told him, "I always wanted to be bi." He said enthusiastically, "I did too!" I said, "I tried." He said, "I did too!!" It was so fun. It's funny how small things like that can make you just love someone's spirit. This is odd to me. I've never had the desire to "be the girl" and don't really understand why any man would. I would think you're either gay or you're not.
preraph Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 This is odd to me. I've never had the desire to "be the girl" and don't really understand why any man would. I would think you're either gay or you're not. Well, he enjoyed the idea more than the reality -- and he didn't want to be the girl, which is why bisexuality didn't work out for him. He was an extremely good looking guy with a very pretty face, so that sort of sealed his fate.
preraph Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I have an acquaintance who regularly tells me to switch teams because she likes me so much. She's a stunningly beautiful lesbian. Too bad I don't get turned on by vaginas and boobs! I know! It sucks. The women who crushed on me, I didn't have to do anything to get their attention and they were extremely attractive women. I had to really work to get the attention of some of the men I was attracted to, and I'd never have been able to keep ones of the same level of attractiveness comparable to a couple of these women. So I really wish I could have "learned to be lesbian," but doing a three-way with one just made me wrinkle my nose and want to get her off the bed and out of the way so I could get to the guy. Theoretically, I was all for it, but reality, wrong body parts. Too squishy.
dichotomy Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Yes, I seem to have had a few gay male admirers. One was kind of blatant about it in front of my wife (he was a coworker and would gush about me - even got me a suggestive gift on his last day of work). I take it as a compliment. I mean most gay guys like good looking guys right? The only thing in the long ago past that used to worry me was "wait if their gaydar is going off - is there something about myself I don't get ?" but whatever, I am a dichotomy in many ways - its nice to be told your desirable as long as their not rude about it. A compliment is a compliment these days.
Shining One Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I've been hit on by more men than women. Fortunately, none of them have been pushy and one of them was cool enough to wingman for me with a couple of women at the club.
TigerLilly78 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Well I can add another one the check out lady last night at my grocery it was awkward im telling you if things ever fail with my current relashionship ide be set if I could get myself to just bat for the other team..lol 1
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