Omei Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 (edited) By the way I call the stomach irritation and moodiness a bull**** line or excuse for you weed is non addictive he should be able to go weeks without it just fine like the rest of us and if he was to have an after effect it would be a raspy cough if he smokes too much but thats about it I think hes using that as an excuse. Edited January 3, 2015 by Omei
Author yoshibabe Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 By the way I call the stomach irritation and moodiness a bull**** line or excuse for you weed is non addictive he should be able to go weeks without it just fine like the rest of us and if he was to have an after effect it would be a raspy cough if he smokes too much but thats about it I think hes using that as an excuse. My dad used to smoke a lot of weed and he traveled around the world without a stomach irritation. I knew it. the thing with my boyfriend is that he normally don't even smoke weed ( the leaf).He dabbs the wax/ hash oil only. and vap pens of cannabis oil.. unless there are no hash oil around, he won't smoke the herb form of weed
Omei Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 My dad used to smoke a lot of weed and he traveled around the world without a stomach irritation. I knew it. the thing with my boyfriend is that he normally don't even smoke weed ( the leaf).He dabbs the wax/ hash oil only. and vap pens of cannabis oil.. unless there are no hash oil around, he won't smoke the herb form of weed See I could never smoke that way without feeling like I was a crackhead lol I like cutting my plant and touching it its like smoking from a garden lol idk im dumb hahaha He smokes it that way because its prob the most potent hashoil its THC content is large. I looked at some pics I could see how it seems scary because it looks like a hard drug when they do it that way
Author yoshibabe Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 See I could never smoke that way without feeling like I was a crackhead lol I like cutting my plant and touching it its like smoking from a garden lol idk im dumb hahaha He smokes it that way because its prob the most potent hashoil its THC content is large. I looked at some pics I could see how it seems scary because it looks like a hard drug when they do it that way[/quote he knew that I am against that thing.. i think he's hiding it from me- it was ok for him to curb his addiction for tue first few months of dating... now it is out of control. he'd rather hang out with his friends getting high play video game in a dark room than doing something with me in weekend.i have my life and I make room for a relationship. enough is enough. we need to talk maybe tomorrow
jezzika Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 I asked him about it.. he always say its wax/ hash oil from some kush ... and co2 oil... Well, a real Kush is Indica dominant so maybe that is part of the issue. With dabbing he is getting a way more concentrated form, as well...which could make things even worse. I'm not saying that's why you aren't getting any from him but he very well could be affected by it. As far as stomach issues, if he has undiagnosed Chron's...Cannabis will help it. If he goes without the Cannabis, he could possibly have stomach irritation from that. When it comes to moodiness, it is probably psychological, but can happen with some people. Everyone is different. It does sound, however, with the more that you share that he is very caught up in his lifestyle. If you do not approve of it, it might be best to cut your losses and find someone who is more compatible for you.
Author yoshibabe Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 I talked to him about it... I didn't mention the weed thing.. He said that he knew it.. It is his issue, he is scared of commitment and thought he is not good enough... he is suffering .I don't know what to do. He said that he wnats to and believe we can work it out... we will see I guess.. 1
Detectingfreak Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I asked him about it.. he always say its wax/ hash oil from some kush ... and co2 oil... I quit smoking and only smoke when i see my best friend which is once every two months. My life has changed for the better. I was a heavy user for two months during the summer. I will never go back. I now have a 16 dollar an hour job, and am getting out of debt. Weed changes you and you need to let him go to find someone better. Your relationship sounds like my last one. My ex and i didnt have sex and having sex was very important to me. I broke up with her because she stopped giving me sex and life is amazing you need to break up with him. Get into a relationship who naturally has a high ssx drive. I am still waiting for a woman to come along who has a high sex drive like me. My sex drive is through the roof. Good luck! 1
spiderowl Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I agree with you. I noticed that he used to never smoke in front of me when we started dating so I had the feeling that he's not heavy weed smoker. Lately he has been smoking in front of me and he does the hash oil thing multiple times a day. It is scary. I don't want to ask him to choose between me and the herb. He should be mature enough to know a herb won'r cook for him, a herb won't love him .. He doesn't think weed is the problem of his health and our relationship. I am not sure I can convince him with it. He has to learn it himself, however, I don't think I can wait for that day to come. It is beyond frustrating Maybe it's not just weed either. The guy could have other addictions. He is spending less time with you, so more time for other things - whatever. I don't think this will improve unless you confront him and get a straight answer out of him. If he has no answer other than 'tired', 'busy', 'not feeling well', best you get out of that relationship. What are you getting out of it anyway? It looks like it's going to be a constant worry because of his habit anyway. 1
Conners Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I don't think weed is the direct cause of lack of libido. My boyfriend was a heavy weed smoker when we first started dating, 7 cones a day on average and we were having sex a few times a day.
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I talked to him about it... I didn't mention the weed thing.. He said that he knew it.. It is his issue, he is scared of commitment and thought he is not good enough... he is suffering .I don't know what to do. He said that he wnats to and believe we can work it out... we will see I guess.. I'm not sure what being 'scared of commitment' has to do with lack of sex... I've known people in casual FWB relationships be shagging each other senseless daily... well done for bringing it up, but I think when he says he's scared of commitment you should listen to him and dump this guy. The sex is bad/nonexistent, he would rather play videogames and take drugs than spend time with you, and he's told you outright he is bad with committing to anyone (which is code, by the way, for 'scared of commitment with you). Not sure what you're getting from this guy. 2
Diezel Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Dump him. If this is what it is like at just SIX MONTHS... then it's not worth the emotional wear and tear of going through a sexless relatioship. 1
Author yoshibabe Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 I'm not sure what being 'scared of commitment' has to do with lack of sex... I've known people in casual FWB relationships be shagging each other senseless daily... well done for bringing it up, but I think when he says he's scared of commitment you should listen to him and dump this guy. The sex is bad/nonexistent, he would rather play videogames and take drugs than spend time with you, and he's told you outright he is bad with committing to anyone (which is code, by the way, for 'scared of commitment with you). Not sure what you're getting from this guy. I have told him that if he's afraid of commitment and scared of his performance, we are not having sex... then I will have to leave him. I need to find someone who's not scared to have sex!!!!! he said that he can make it work, he will fix his problem. We will see- if nothing changes in the next few weeks. I am done with him. He has to admit to himself and me that the problem is not curable. we are incompitable esp in the bedroom department 1
Diezel Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Save yourself the mental anguish. He'll "improve" for 1-2 weeks and then get comfortable again. End this now.
Author yoshibabe Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 Save yourself the mental anguish. He'll "improve" for 1-2 weeks and then get comfortable again. End this now. actually- I thought about it. He never answered my question if he has a low sex drive all the time. I have to let him go and grow up himself ! I have never gave him any pressure on marriage or anything related to it.
Diezel Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 He's not going to answer your question about "low sex drive". And why would you ask anyway, you already have the answer. HE DOES. 2
spiderowl Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 actually- I thought about it. He never answered my question if he has a low sex drive all the time. I have to let him go and grow up himself ! I have never gave him any pressure on marriage or anything related to it. You sound very switched on and intelligent. I am sure you can do better than this guy. He is fuzzy and not likely to get out of the drugs habits, at least not until he's lost everything and realises there is a price to pay. That could happen too late for you. Being a lovely, understanding and intelligent woman, you will almost certainly find someone else who makes you feel desired and loved. 2
Author yoshibabe Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 You sound very switched on and intelligent. I am sure you can do better than this guy. He is fuzzy and not likely to get out of the drugs habits, at least not until he's lost everything and realises there is a price to pay. That could happen too late for you. Being a lovely, understanding and intelligent woman, you will almost certainly find someone else who makes you feel desired and loved. Thank you!!! Thank you- everyone!!
Author yoshibabe Posted January 6, 2015 Author Posted January 6, 2015 (edited) I broke up with him today - I have told him that the intimacy issue is affecting my life and I can't be happy in a relationship like this. He said that he felt that he's not good enough and he used to be really good in the bedroom department but since his neck surgery a year ago that he felt that he's no longer himself. He used to enjoy MMA cage fight, plenty of times state title, but ever since that surgery, he can't even run 5K.. he is still going through physical therapy and his ex gf cheated on him, sold sex for money.. After all these and he had bad sex with me (super fast ejaculate ), he is hesitating to have sex but he does want me. It made me feel bad and sad for him, I want to be patient and help him, maybe I am selfish. I do love him and care about him. Edited January 6, 2015 by yoshibabe 1
Diezel Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 Eh, that's nice and everything... but feeling bad and sad for him isn't going to make up for YOUR needs. Sometimes we need to be selfish. Are you going to keep coddling him while you suppress your needs? 1
Detectingfreak Posted January 6, 2015 Posted January 6, 2015 I broke up with him today - I have told him that the intimacy issue is affecting my life and I can't be happy in a relationship like this. He said that he felt that he's not good enough and he used to be really good in the bedroom department but since his neck surgery a year ago that he felt that he's no longer himself. He used to enjoy MMA cage fight, plenty of times state title, but ever since that surgery, he can't even run 5K.. he is still going through physical therapy and his ex gf cheated on him, sold sex for money.. After all these and he had bad sex with me (super fast ejaculate ), he is hesitating to have sex but he does want me. It made me feel bad and sad for him, I want to be patient and help him, maybe I am selfish. I do love him and care about him. My ex was the same way. Not only was she controlling and had a bunch of otber issues but she and i were not compatible in the bedroom. I broke up with her because of the controlling issues but also because she was terrible in bed. She also kept bragging how she and her ex had sex everyday even when we were in bed together. Talk about a total turn off. She also got tired because it takes me awhile to ejaculate but i eventually do. I tried to tell her what turns me on and what gets me going but she put no effort. I need someone who wants to have sex everyday and gets turned on a lot and doesnt ejaculate immediatly. That was another thing. My ex was super soon to ejaculate and it sucked and then she said i was too mucb work. These types of people who suck at sex deserve to be with someone there same type. If they cant satisfy our high active sex drives then they dint deserve to be with us. Glad you got rid do your bf and moved on dont waste your time thinking he will improve. 1
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