music_and_poetry Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I blocked his number from calling and SMS. I blocked him on Facebook. I cut every line of contact I have with my best friend. This hurts like hell right now but I need space to think and deal with this situation. Idk what the repercussions of this will be. I just can't bare the thought of trying to be his friend right now when I want more and he doesn't. Having him being other v girls around will just twist the knife. I feel awful but I feel like I'm perfecting myself from more pain at this point. 5
Satu Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Protecting yourself is Protective Love, which is a higher form of love extended to yourself, and that's a good thing. Yesterday these words came into my mind: "Let yourself fall into your own arms." It wasn't about me, but it struck a chord in me. Love, Satu,
Josmatjes Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 You did the right thing. Take care of you first... 2
Light Breeze Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Hi OP, I read your other thread as well and I just want to say stay strong, you can do this. 1
Author music_and_poetry Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 Hi OP, I read your other thread as well and I just want to say stay strong, you can do this. Thank you so much. I'm going to stay strong and get through this. It sucks because I know I shouldn't be thinking this but I wonder if he's even noticed that I've cut him off. If he has I won't know... I blocked him on Facebook. My phone is programmed to block all incoming texts and redirect incoming calls to voicemail. I wonder if this will piss him off. But part of me is like, why do I care about being friends with someone who refuses to see me worthy of anything past that? 1
Light Breeze Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 (edited) I'm sorry.. It sucks more because he's your best guy friend. Personally, I wouldn't go the FWB route with a bestfriend, it's a probable breeding ground for unrequited feelings. But, going the NC way is the right thing to do so that you can regroup and heal. IMO if someone is good enough to share that deep intimacy with, then she/he as sure hell is good enough for a relationship. Stay strong! Edited January 3, 2015 by Light Breeze 1
FancyFace Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Well done friend, you have done the right thing for yourself. NC is so hard, but it is so neccesary to enable you to move on and really heal. If you feel like you are about to slip, make sure you remember why you started in the first place and stay the course. Believe me, it gets better! 2
Author music_and_poetry Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 I'm sorry.. It sucks more because he's your best guy friend. Personally, I wouldn't go the FWB route with a bestfriend, it's a probable breeding ground for unrequited feelings. But, going the NC way is the right thing to do so that you can regroup and heal. IMO if someone is good enough to share that deep intimacy with, then she/he as sure hell is good enough for a relationship. Stay strong! I know, I should have known better. We both should have known better. The chemistry just seemed so real. We were always texting/talking all day about EVERYTHING. It wasn't just hooking up and sex, it was sleepovers and cuddling. He started to be affectionate with me even with our mutual friends around where they started to make little comments. I thought maybe there was something more there. I can't believe he really "can't see me that way". IMO, we had everything of a real relationship without defining it as one. Maybe I'm the delusional one. But it just feels like a ****ty excuse.
Author music_and_poetry Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 Well done friend, you have done the right thing for yourself. NC is so hard, but it is so neccesary to enable you to move on and really heal. If you feel like you are about to slip, make sure you remember why you started in the first place and stay the course. Believe me, it gets better! Proud to say, with all the people I've done NC with over the years I've never slipped once. I'm just not sure how this will pan out though since he IS my best friend. I don't know if I'm shutting the door on our friendship or just distancing myself and my feelings for a bit. I hate the thought of losing him but I also don't know if I'll ever be able to see him as "just a friend" the way he claims to see me.
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