makeithappen Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Happy New year all! 2014 has been a very difficult year: I broke off ties with quite a few people who displayed abusive/domeering/bossy behaviour. However, I have recently made a lovely friend and I realised that actually, I encourage people to be abusive because I am not assertive enough, and lack confidence. My friend has not done anything wrong at all, but whilst shopping, I noticed I kept asking her for advice on things I would be interested in, and followed her advice, every single time. Now, I don't regret it! She has never given me bad advice (in other personal matters), but I realised that rather than ask me what to do, she instead tells me her feelings and only expects me to listen. In the end, even if I advise, she won't take it. I need to be like this, how can I start believing in myself? I need to stop thinking that people know better. I also need to reply on the spot to unpleasant comments. Please help me, I want to change for 2015 Thanks!!!!
travelbug1996 Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Take an assertiveness training class Examine your fears around asserting yourself Learn to identify and express your feelings. Don't repress them Get a book called "Boundaries" Don't be passive aggressive- They are the most dishonest people next to psychos
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