Louise2817 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 We split back in march.there were some issues which I didn't feel I could deal with. But I still loved him, wed been together for a year.in May he got back in touch and we met up, it seemed as though we would get back together. Then he suddenly went cold and I found out he had gone off with another woman. They were together for a few months. I stayed no contact just left things alone. Then at the beginning of December he got back I'm touch. Begged me to talk to him.we ended up meeting up and had a nice day. But I haven't seen him since. For the past three weeks he's texted every day, starting with good morning texts and keeping up a convo throughout the day. He keeps saying he wants to see me..but when he does say he's free it's last minute and I'm not, he always has an excuse. All over Xmas I've been home on my own, off work. I thought if he wanted to see me, he would have. He texted all day every day..but its not the same. Well last night I called him on it, and he texted back how he hadn't been out the house for days and was tired due to not sleeping well. He doesn't work so has a lot of free time. I work full time and I make time to see people. He's been texting from 8am until 11.30 pm some days. I don't know what to make of it, what does he want from me? Does he still care or is it some kind of game to him? I'm so confused. I feel like I'm addicted to his texts they kind of help me feel close to him, but it's not really
FancyFace Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 He is holding onto you as a backup plan. You are the girl that he will call/text when he is bored, lonely, needs attention or an ego stroke. He likes knowing that he can go out there, have a blast and then come back to you, throw you some crumbs and you will entertain him. If he wanted to get back with you, he would have made that abundantly clear by now. Cut contact with him, stop waiting for him to "realise what he lost or come back", block him on social media, don't stalk him. It's for the best to move on. 3
aggie382 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 People do this to keep themselves important in your life and get an ego stroke when you respond. It's him being pretty lame. 2
Author Louise2817 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 I just don't see the point of it. It's really hurting me too. I think that he is a very selfish person. He seems concerned about me in texts, but he can't be really or he would be here.
aggie382 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I just don't see the point of it. It's really hurting me too. I think that he is a very selfish person. He seems concerned about me in texts, but he can't be really or he would be here. See you actually do see the point of it, it's just that it's one sided and selfish. There is a point to it, for him. Selfish people don't need there to be a point for the other person. 1
Author Louise2817 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 I guess I just can't believe that people actually behave that way in real life. Like he gets satisfaction out of mundane text conversations, why? Simply that he is getting a low level of attention from me?i know I need to end it cos it's been happening on and off for nearly a year now.
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