Doctors/Nurses Falling For Their Patients

[Darren2013]

There has been some threads lately on the subject of teachers falling for their students and how it may be more common than what is revealed publicly.

 

Well I wonder if the same thing is true about doctors or nurses falling for their patients. Just like teachers can get into alot of trouble for acting on their attraction doctors and nurses can get in trouble too acting on attraction for a patient.

 

At the risk of my imagination running wild I do remember a few female nurses who seemed kind of flirty with me when they took care of me at the hospital for 2 weeks 2 years ago. I remember one morning after coming out of the shower one of the hot looking white blond hair nurses in her late 20s was checking out my chest. I had my shirt off. She had to put a heart monitor back on me. I could tell my her raised eyebrows she was checking out my chest. Then she would make comments about how theraputic it was to draw my blood. She would jokingly give me a hard time about why I did not call her to make my bed.

 

Oh there was even one time she walked into my room by accident while I was in the middle of changing. I was still naked and she was smiling and like "oh excuse me". I could hear her laughing out in the hall after going out the door.

 

Anyway even if any of those nurses found me attractive I knew nothing long term could come from it but it was still fun to get my flirt fix while they were on shift to take care of me. Night shift nurses were more fun and they had more time to do flirty talk with me. Sometimes I had the same night nurse for 3 nights in a row.

 

Running into flirty nurses did not stop after my release from hospital jail. There was a certain nurse who did my radiation therapy treatment for 3 weeks. I'll never forget her. I was secretly turned on when she had me lay on the table and had to put marks on my chest where the radiation beams would be aimed at.

 

She would call me sweetie and baby me after sticking me with a needle saying that she's sorry that I had to feel that sting. One morning I was going in there for treatment and I was about to sneak out and go home because they were taking too long to call me. Lo and behold she caught me halfway out the door. She jokingly told me I was in trouble for sneaking out and then told me I had to be punished and all that good stuff. Towards the tail end of my radiation treatment she would ask me what nationality I am and told me I am very handsome.

 

They have hired alot of hot looking nurses at the hospital I went to for my cancer treatments. I am sure that there are some patients they find attractive even if they don't act on it.

[FitChick]

As you've just illustrated, it's far more common for patients to fall for their caregivers.

[No Limit]

Doctor profession and white clothes make you an instant catch in almost any society. Those few days I spent in hospital 2 years ago were enough to observe plenty of nurses flirting with the med students/doctors-to-be.

 

Even heard a buddy who's becoming an architect say how his mother keeps bugging him to find a girl who studies medicine "because she'll earn good money" - perfect incentive for me to shut up about my future plans. I'm not going to be somebody's future trophy wife.

[oldshirt]

As you've just illustrated, it's far more common for patients to fall for their caregivers.

 

 

 

Yeah, that nurse had 20 other guys doing the same thing that day. and the next and the next and the next........

[oldshirt]

and to answer the question, it does happen occasionally but it is more of a fantasy material for corny porns and teen sex movies than real life.

 

 

For a medical professional of any discipline to engage in any kind of flirtatious/romantic/sexual activity with a patient is a very serious breach of professional standards and some very serious professional and even legal repercussions can result.

 

 

Just the accusation of sexual inappropriateness carries a huge burdeon and that professional is considered guilty until proven innocent by the licensing board of that state. That professional can be placed on suspension and is essentially unemployed until the case can be thoroughly investigated and an outcome determined. This can many months and even over a year and that person is basically unemployable until a determination is made and there is no retroactive pay if the accusations are determined to be unfounded.

 

 

Even if the accusations are determined unfounded, that person can still be placed on probation and have lots of hoops and hurdles that they have to do with the licensing agency. Many licensing agencies have a "where there is smoke, there is fine" mentality and they figure if someone gets accused of something, they have probably actually done it a number of times even if this instance cannot be proven.

 

 

If the accusations are found to legit in addition to suspension/revocation of license there can also be tens of thousands of dollars of fines.

 

 

And this is even if no actual criminal offense was committed.

 

 

In cases where a professional is determined to have "power" over a patient (which is darn near all professional - patient relationships) it is an actual crime for that professional to sexually seduce and have contact with that patient.

 

 

In those case it will be investigated and handled criminally by a jurisdictional law enforcement agency and prosecuted through the criminal court system.

 

 

If found guilty, fines, criminal probation, prison time, community service etc etc may be imposed in addition to the professional fines and licensure restrictions imposed by the licensing board.

 

 

So as you can see, medical professionals engaging in any kind of sexual activity is a very very serious matter with very serious repercussions for inappropriate behavior.

[oldshirt]

Now like I said, it does occasionally happen but it's not like nurses are blowing their patients in their hospital bed for a nightcap (although it probably has happened at some point in human history)

 

 

If a doctor see's a patient in the office one day and a few weeks later after he/she is no longer under their care and they run into each other uptown and a conversation strikes up and one thing leads to another and at some point they begin to date as two consenting, sober adults then so be it.

 

 

However there is still some risk there. There have been cases that have been prosecuted where after the relationship ended, the patient came back and asserted that the medical professional used "priviledged information" to wrongfully seduce them.

 

 

ie a mental health therapist knows that a client has relationship issues but has a fetish for guys in pink bandannas so he puts on a pink bandanna and shows up at her house since he has her address in his files.

 

 

Something like that can be criminally prosecuted.

 

 

Bottom line is there is a ton of gray area and the vast majority of medical professionals consider patients completely off limits and avoid anything that can even be perceived as flirtatious and sexually oriented.

[oldshirt]

But as has been indicated before, the flirtation and overatures from patients towards the professional can be way over the top and blatant. It can be very inappropriate and unwelcome. Inappropriate comments, overatures, requests etc can be reported to the administration of hospitals/clinics and can become part of the patient's medical record and patients can be reprimanded and counseled to cease and desist by the security and administrative departments of that facility.

 

 

Patients can even be barred from future access to a facility (for nonlife threating issues) for sexually inappropriate behavior.

 

 

Again, sexual contact between health care professionals and patients is the stock of corny porn movies and teen sex movies but is a very serious issue in real life.

[acrosstheuniverse]

Humans will fall for other humans sometimes, whatever the circumstances. I've known colleagues of mine fall for prisoners. It's just one of those things, if you put a big enough mix of people in a building (be that a prison, or a hospital, or a school even when the kids are nearing adult age) and put that clear line between one group of people and the other, at some point there is going to be an attractive that hops across that line, made all the more sweeter in some situations by the 'wanting what you can't have'. It's just human nature, you can't control attraction.

 

What people can and usually do and should control, is acting on it. Anyone I know who has ever gotten involved with a patient, a prisoner, a student, has had serious professional or legal ramifications, which is as it should be. People in our care should not have to worry about predatory staff members looking out for their next boyfriend or girlfriend amongst those they have a duty of care towards. Kinda funny as some of the colleagues I've known over the years who fell for prisoners got not only sacked, but sometimes actually jailed for breaching their duty of care.

[autumnnight]

Here is the big reason I see these two things as different. Let's say I go into the hospital to have my appendix out. I am in my 40's. Maybe my doctor is in his 40's. Once I'm released, we are just 2 people in our 40's.

 

If I am a 16 year old high school student, my history teacher is a whole other animal. The hospital thing is just two middle aged people who cross paths. The teacher in the second scenario is a predator. Period.

[FitChick]

I think one reason so many actresses have plastic surgeons for husbands is because they were their patients first.

[CarrieT]

I'm married to a surgeon and he gets hit on a LOT by his patients.

 

And he has told me of a number of doctors and nurses who have lost their jobs by getting involves with patients, so most don't - EVER - because they don't want to risk their careers.

 

I asked about some particularly attractive patients and he advised that if there was ever a serious consideration of dating a patient, first a full referral to another doctor would have to occur with all services being 100% transferred to another physician before a date could even happen.

[Danda]

Had to go dig up this awesome post haha:

 

I think the "This cute/hot woman was looking at me/twirling her hair/asked me for directions/tripped on the snow patch in front of me so I could help her up. Does she want my body?" threads are the second most started threads by men.

 

My response is twofold.

 

1) It is always the cute/hot woman. Nobody ever asks about "Hey, the mediocre, overweight looking 45 year old woman was smiling at me. Does she want my body" Never. Ever wonder why?

 

2) I think that if you have in your life had such level/type women think you are 'off the bat' hot, then it's a good possibility she thinks you are hot/cute. If the blonde, cute girls in your high school/college/workplace wanted you, then the blonde, cute girl at the gym at age 27 who is looking at you probably wants you too.

 

 

TBH though it's kind of cute, so long as a guy doesn't get a disrespectful entitlement attitude or anything.

 

Like I read, "I remember one morning after coming out of the shower one of the hot looking white blond hair nurses in her late 20s was checking out my chest. I had my shirt off. She had to put a heart monitor back on me. I could tell my her raised eyebrows she was checking out my chest."

 

And I just get this mental image of some guy making this little "winning" expression like chyeah I'm sexy. Lol.