OffizierKandidat Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Hey ladies and gents. I have another one of those standard breakup advice request threads. So here's how the story goes. August 18th, I asked out a girl I had a crush on for a while, but she was dating someone before, so I didn't try anything. Well, she broke up with him, so I made my move and she said yes. Over the course of the next 3 months, everything was GREAT. This girl was my first kiss and everything. I grew to love her more than anything. She also grew to love me and told me constantly that she hoped I'd never leave her because I made her so happy. I swore to her that I wouldn't. Halloween this year she decided, without warning, to break things off with me. She told me that I was immature, moved way too fast, and was clingy. This is stuff she never told me during our relationship. I do know that one day, she admitted to me that she had invited a guy over to her house in the middle of the night. She kept insisting that they stayed on her front porch and only talked, but I still have my doubts... My question is: How do I go about TRULY getting over her? No contact is the single most difficult thing I've ever had to do because I loved this girl so much and I truthfully still do. To be honest, I've had to go on antidepressants because I miss her that much. On top of all the other things, she thought I asked out one of her friends after the breakup and she called me a jerk and said that I don't love her. She also said that she thought she loved me but didn't know what love was. I have never been more devastated about something in my life. I just don't know what to do anymore. It has been two months since she broke up with me and I still think about her every minute of every day. Hobbies and things like that aren't really an option yet. Until I can get a job in about 16 days, I have no money for anything. I also have class with her, so I can't avoid her. Any sort of advice would be greatly appreciated.
st peter Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 you really didn't date her for that long, i expect you will be fine soon, although obviously that is hard to believe. it reminds me of my first girlfriend when i was about 15/16 who i dated for 5 months. when it ended, it felt horrible, but i was over the tough phase in about 2 weeks, and was properly over it by about 2 months. however, about 3 months ago i was dumped by my real deal first love of a year and a half in a really quite shocking manner and let me tell you that was proper heartbreak. I'm not saying I'm over it now, but trust me, time will heal. its amazing realising that hang on, i really like some other girls, and even better, they like me. and the excitement of something new is a great feeling to get back. first love memories are special and must be treasured, but they just don't work out, you need to experience more to know what you want. maybe down the line it will still be this girl, but you do not know yet that she is the girl you want to be with as she has no comparison. time heals as it has done for me, best of luck mate
Recommended Posts