willpower321 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Please help..... So I went no contact 2 months ago with my ex... pretty messy breakup. I changed my number and just closed the door. His only way to contact me is on facebook... which he sent me a message the week before Christmas, then on Christmas and then a day later saying that we should talk sooner than later. He then proceeded to text my good friend and ask how I was doing & talked about fluff... So I responded and said Merry Christmas the next day and asked what would you like to talk about?.... no response now. Also at the same time there are pictures of him and a girl all over social media in the last two weeks... I am just confused on what is going on, and what his intentions are. I am a little weary because I am doing very well now and do not wish to reconcile because nothing in his life has changed... But I am really curious as to why now... and what he has to say... Anyone have anything they have been through like this?... I am just going to wait to see what his response it and try to not think about why he is contacting me....
Diezel Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Nothing he says will be of interest. You are holding out onto a false sense of hope and labeling it as "curiousity". That's a dangerous road to travel on. Get back on the road of BLOCKING HIM. There is no reason for you to be looking up his activities on social media. This is standing in the way of you becoming indifferent and healing over this. Do not respond back, do not talk to him, let it go.
Zahara Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 If it was something important, he'd be banging on your door or he'd be pouring his heart out to you on FB. I would suggest you stay NC. 1
FancyFace Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Oh evil exes! Evil exes most times contact you, in such a lazy manner, just to check whether you are still available. They don't want you, but they damn sure dont like the idea of you with anyone else or moving on. Its such an ego boost for them to know that while they are moving along frolicking in a field of daisies, dumpster diving inbetween the thighs of the person they most likely left you for, sleeping at night peacefully, you the dumpee are just heartbroken and sick and will take them back at the drop of a hat (once they don't find something better out there). I agree with the other posters. Firstly you need to close every single avenue that is available to him to contact you if you are serious about getting over him and moving on. That means blocking on all forms of social media, blocking his number and email, changing your number if you must, no stalking of any kind, shooting carrier pigeons on sight and ignoring any form of smoke signals. By keeping the door open, like Diezel said, you are in a perpetual state of inertia, stuck waiting and pining and all it will ever do is keep you open for hurt. Cut contact. 2
Author willpower321 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 Thank you very much for all the replies... needed to be told all of the above to keep me on track lol!
blackcat777 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Blocking is critical for your sanity, but, in my experience, it does serve a twofold purpose if your ex does want to contact you: it forces them to your front door, or away forever. If they're bored and wondering what you're up to or need an ego stroke, they will never dare to show face at your door, and you're free of the headache of ever having to read the tea leaves of interpreting breadcrumbs. Blocking them at every turn filters all possible nonsense. 2
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