mortensorchid Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 IT DOESN'T. Not in my experience anyway. I'm a teacher, the high school kids that I am around or have been around look just like that : high school students. I look at them and I see little kids not adult men, I couldn't imagine feeling the slightest physical attraction to them. I am a 40 year old woman, they look like children to me. Those who actually do a "hot for teacher" fantasy, to me, are sick.
USMCHokie Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Of the cases often reported on in the conservative sources I read, the teachers are often married with kids...
gaius Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 You just haven't met the right one yet morten. Have any of them hit on you yet? People have needs and a lot of times they adjust their attraction to whoever's available that can meet them.
regine_phalange Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I can't get how they fall for high school students either. Although when I was a teaching assistant I felt attracted to a student who was 4 years younger than me (he was 20 and I was 24). He would remain after the end of the class to ask me silly questions (and he was giving very smart input during classes). He was so extremely nervous and clumsy around me that he ended up being unforgettable. He was also very handsome, in a Clark Kent kind of way. I would gladly date him now that I'm not a TA anymore. 2
WonderKid Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 A rumor went on around a city college that I screwed a professor. I don't know how that happened. But women that fall for student boys you rarely know. They keep it close.
newlyborn Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 a friend of mine who is a teacher fell for her student. it was the most pitiful thing, as she finally told him after a year of obsession, and he told her that he had a girlfriend. she went into a long and raging mourning period, claiming she had not felt so strongly about anyone in 20 years. i really just thought it was a mid-life crisis, though a few years early.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 How does this happen. I wish I could see a chart matching the past (30/40 years ago) to the present in terms of the age differences between teachers and their students. Back in the day, it seemed that the young hottie teachers were teaching K-through-3, and thus out of the range of young(er) lust and sexual curiosity. It was on the edge of amazing when any sort of a hottie teacher was even a substitute for a day or a week at my Junior High. These days, perhaps with so many sensible people abandoning teaching all together (in favor of something that pays, perhaps)... (and with the various surges of humanity among the student body, making teaching far more of a chore than it one might have been)... there is simply more room for the young-ish hotties to be there at the head of the classroom in a high school. When your teacher is a 23F and you are a 17M... you're far more likely to be thinking about her than if she were the 64M that she replaced in that classroom. These days, the new university graduates with teaching degrees are sent off to what are often seeming war-zone neighborhoods to break-in at the Middle/High School level, and there is perhaps something about that atmosphere which weakens some of them like seldom before. Plus, the kids aren't exactly wearing conservative uniforms in this day and age either. Of course none of this explains Mary Kay LeTourneau...
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I taught college & in two different graduate schools as an adjunct. On 3 occasions male students walked into my class that 1st day & I found myself noticing how handsome they were. Whoops. I knew I was in trouble & had to steal myself to be neutral. Two turned out to need the education they were in school for (imo they were dumb). Problem solved. The 3rd was an officer in the Navy & the day he came to class in uniform . . . wow. Boy oh boy was I in trouble. I simply made sure I was never alone with him. I started keeping a tally of how many times I called on each student so I would keep it fair & avoid not calling on him because his education & ability to participate in discussions should not be affected by my silly crush. At that time the guy I was dating also taught in the same institution so after every class I would go to his office to remind myself where my loyalties were. Nothing inappropriate ever happened nor did we come close. Throughout the semester I heard a lot of female students & a few other professors comment on how good looking that particular student was. At the end of the semester I new saw him again. You can't help who you find attractive. You do have control over what you do about it. As the person in the superior position you have an obligation to forego your own baser instincts. 1
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