indecisive101 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I've been talking to this girl for a while, maybe 7-8 months by now, and we have become good friends, we talk often but rarely get to see each other cause we go to different schools and both have busy schedules. We are both 17 and neither of us have had any serious relationships. We talk all the time when ever we see each other and around 5-6 months after texting every night and seeing each other at every chance we could i told her i had feelings for her, she said she wasn't sure what she wanted and we left it alone, practically forgetting that it was mentioned. Our group of friends were going away for new years and a week before we all went away she told me she had feelings for me but was too afraid to bring it up before because someone told her that I no longer were interested in her. I told her I still liked her but not as much as I did before. When we finally saw each other she was really flirty, constantly hanging around me and we ended up cuddling most of the night. She told me personal things that only a few of her friends knew of, not even some of her really close friends knew. Later that night she kissed me and cause we were camping she stayed the night in my tent. We didn't do anything other that kiss cause of what she told me but she was really into cuddling and would pull me closer. (We were both sober this night but the others we were drinking) The next day she completely ignored me and wouldn't even acknowledge me. The third day was New Years Eve and everyone was drinking, but me and my friends had a bet who could stay the longest without drinking so we watched everyone get quite drunk. I know she is lightweight when it comes to drinking and gets really drunk at around 5 drinks, but she stopped at 3 drinks. The whole night she was really flirty with heaps of guys and whenever I went to talk to her she would brush me off. Towards midnight we had all started drinking and last time I had seen her she had spent most of the night with this one guy. We were really drunk and someone said that she got with this guy and I ended up sending her a drunk text about it which im pretty sure she would been annoyed/angry/sad about. The night was a little fuzzy but I remember seeing her at points through the night but not with the guy i don't think. The next morning I planned to leave around 11 am and i only saw her at 10:45 when she was coming out of her tent. I don't know if she stayed the night in her tent or if she was just was getting changed after staying in someone else's. We didn't talk because I was still annoyed about what i had heard and i figured her from the text. The thing is i don't even know if her getting with the guy is true. I left 10 mins early and I didn't even say goodbye to her personally, she just got a group goodbye and a wave to everyone she was sitting with. I haven't talked to her since and I thought it might be a good idea to give each other space. She always tells me shes indecisive about personal things and I don't really know what to do and i'm afraid that things may be ruined between us and that any chances of something more has gone out the window. Any advice will be much appreciated.... -Confused Boy about an Indecisive Girl
coolheadal Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 You two are still learning about life and relationships. She's experimenting. Why rush things. If she's interested in you I am sure she'll contact you. But I see she shifts her mind around. One minute your together the next she don't see you there. To figure out that you would need to ask why she did that to you. But you have played it cool with her. DG - never give in to her games. She was playing with your mind. Might be best to look for someone else that really digs you for who you are and not for this one who's just not sure what she wants yet. By her saying that she doesn't want you.
Author indecisive101 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 Do you think I should contact her in a few days or would it be best to let her contact me ?
Assada Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Dude move on. You are basically friend zoned. It seems like for some reason, there is a weak feeling to come out and verbalize feelings like people are in the movies. It dont work like that. I dont think you matter to her romantically, even more-so now than before
fred123 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 sorry to hear this. she is immature but also not into you. if she was she would never do this to the guy she. likes. also she said she had feelings for him wtf?!
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