vivi_angel89 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 General question: For how long do you need to date someone to ask him/her to spend NYE with you? My situation: I've been dating this guy for 2 months and expected him to ask me to spend NYE with him but he didn't so I asked him and he said he is supposed to go to a house party and will ask his friend if I can come. So the next day he texts me and tells me that afterall he won't be going to that house party and will be in another city. Not sure how to feel about that.
USMCHokie Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I met a girl at my buddy's wedding during the last weekend of December and went out with her a few days later for NYE...it never worked out...
labayer Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Sounds sketchy. If it's a party he shouldn't even have to ask if his girlfriend can come. He probably didn't know what to answer in that moment and gave himself more time to think by saying that he has to ask first. How's the relationship besides that? Is he inviting you to his family, to friends get-togethers etc?
Leigh 87 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 He isn't that into you. 2 months isn't too soon if a guy is falling for you. It seems this guy is falling for you more slowly which is fine if you are down for the slow burn type of thing.. where it takes the guy more time, months or even a year - for him to want to spend special occasions with you. A guy I recently met on the 30th liked me enough to invite me to spend NYE with his family camping. He liked me and thought we would have fun. I didn't end up going though but he did ask/really seem to want me to go. If a guy likes you and really wants to spend time with you, it doesn't really matter how soon before NYE you meet; he will tend to want to include you in these sort of plans.
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Not that long. His excuses were a bit sketchy. Proceed with caution. 1
Author vivi_angel89 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 How's the relationship besides that? Is he inviting you to his family, to friends get-togethers etc? He has already invited me over to his parent's place but I've declined because the first time he has asked, it was after 2 weeks and the second time it was 11pm and I figured it would be inappropriate to go over so late. He didnt even text or call to wish me a Happy New Year to compensate the fact that we didn't spend NYE together. However he he made me a gift for Christmas. This guy is so confusing.
USMCHokie Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 ...he said he is supposed to go to a house party and will ask his friend if I can come. I reread your first post...how old are you guys, like 15? As an adult, I have NEVER had issue with bringing a +1 unannounced to any kind of party, gathering, shindig, event at any venue, especially something like NYE. And I've never had to think to ask if I could bring a SO... If it was a "guy's" thing, then it might be appropriate to ask, but if it's a general party like NYE, it's not even an issue. So the next day he texts me and tells me that afterall he won't be going to that house party and will be in another city. Not sure how to feel about that. As a guy, I can confidently tell you that if I was that ambiguous and vague, I'm not interested and am doing something I'm not supposed to be doing... 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 He has already invited me over to his parent's place but I've declined because the first time he has asked, it was after 2 weeks and the second time it was 11pm and I figured it would be inappropriate to go over so late. He didnt even text or call to wish me a Happy New Year to compensate the fact that we didn't spend NYE together. However he he made me a gift for Christmas. This guy is so confusing. Meh. This isn't confusing at all. It's not hard to knock up a gift. Inviting you over to his parents' place is not a big or meaningful gesture when it's so late in the evening. I assume it's more that you'd be slipping in the back door while they're asleep, rather than a 7pm dinner invite where you get to meet the family. A man not wanting to be with me on NYE when we've been dating for a couple months would show me he's not interested in me very seriously at all, unless there was a genuine reason he really couldn't be with me (for example this NYE I was out in the sticks with friends at a log cabin we've had booked since Summer, my boyfriend came as we've been together a year but anyone I started dating over Winter would not have been able to join). And if he wasn't with me, the very least I'd expect would be a call during or shortly after midnight. I would be cautious with this guy, but after two months if he's not bothered about being around you for New Year I'd say he's not that into you and you should hold out for someone who can't bear to spend it apart from you. 2
TigerLilly78 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 General question: For how long do you need to date someone to ask him/her to spend NYE with you? My situation: I've been dating this guy for 2 months and expected him to ask me to spend NYE with him but he didn't so I asked him and he said he is supposed to go to a house party and will ask his friend if I can come. So the next day he texts me and tells me that afterall he won't be going to that house party and will be in another city. Not sure how to feel about that. This is condom boy? you need to make it official and dump his ass before he gives you a STD or dumps you..im so sorry and I dont think ive ever said this but "hes really not that into you"
Diezel Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Only when I am exclusive with someone. I don't use NYE to spend it with someone as a "date".
Assada Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 it seems like New years Eve is more important to girls that guys. I dont think it matters
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