AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 It's funny because I've read that women tend to date men like their fathers and men tend to date women like their mothers. How true has this been for you? Have your SO's been similar to your parents?
autumnnight Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Currently not alike at all. In my past relationship, they seemed to be very similar, but upon closer inspection, except for the fact that both couples were married and went to church, they were miles apart.
xxoo Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 They are similar in the best ways: faithful, committed husbands, devoted fathers who put the kids first, protective and hardworking. Beyond that, they are as different as can be.
autumnnight Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Currently not alike at all. In my past relationship, they seemed to be very similar, but upon closer inspection, except for the fact that both couples were married and went to church, they were miles apart. OK, I completely misread the OP. I was comparing my parents to my SO's parents. Currently there are lots of character and personality similarities between my SO and father.
Gloria25 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Umm... I say that the guys I am attracted to "physically" are not like my dad - they're Caucasian or have Caucasian features. Now, I can't say every guy I've dated in the past was perfect, cuz since I pay my own bills and stuff, I wasn't as picky when it came to their education, money, etc. But, even though I am not looking for a guy to have kids with and/or pay my bills, I can't get horny over a guy who doesn't have an education and/or skill, and who's a bum (my dad was a lazy bum). The only thing I can think of that a lot of guys had in common with my dad was them being mean and/or difficult. My dad thinks he knows it all and is very condescending. I used to nickname my 6 yr guy "stinky" not cuz of the cigarettes - but cuz of his attitude. I could finish his sentences cuz - like me, he had a sense of sarcasm and was a jerk at times.
Shepp Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Chalk and cheese tbh. Although they're both highly practical, down to earth women, but other than that their pretty different. Get on well though. I see a lot of similarities between my brothers wife and my mum though.
Million.to.1 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Biggest similarity .. both are the middle brother of 3 boys. Both have curly hair. Both are honest, committed decent men. Other than that.. they are very different.
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I am a walking cliché. I married my father. My dad & my husband were very similar. They both served in the military (different branches) & were discharged at the same rank. They drank the same booze. They thought alike. They had the same sense of humor. They were both very stoic and while they loved with a fierce passion neither expressed emotions easily. They had similar builds. When my father passed, it was like a part of him lived on in my husband. At the end of the day I am happy to be the girl who grew up to be lucky enough to marry a guy who is as good as my dad. When a good father is a little girl's first role model, & she is lucky enough to meet another man who measures up to that ideal, it's a wonderful thing. In contrast I am not like my husband's mom at all. 1
ASG Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Even though at the moment I am not dating anyone, my last proper ex boyfriend some similarities to my dad, even though I was unaware of it until it was pointed out to me. Mainly in that they were recovering alcoholics that never identified as such, but categorised themselves as someone who realised booze might be a problem and decided not to partake anymore, at all, ever, and being very judgemental of MY drinking (which, yes, is quite a bit above average). Other than that, no, they don't tend to my like my dad at all.
SomeDude16 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 This is quite interesting to me. If anyone has found any scholarly articles or case studies about the correlation between DO's and parents id love to see them I'll look for some as well, my psychology mind is deeply interested in this. If anyone has any other comments please share
Got it Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Well, I realized in my first marriage, he was just like my mother. My husband now is similar in some very broad ways, but so would a number of people. But I don't think they are too similar. I am very similar to my father.
Author AVarma Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 This is quite interesting to me. If anyone has found any scholarly articles or case studies about the correlation between DO's and parents id love to see them I'll look for some as well, my psychology mind is deeply interested in this. If anyone has any other comments please share Why Your Partner May Be Like Your Parent | Psychology Today
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