zip111 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 After being with my ex boyfriend for a year, he broke up with me suddenly last February. It completely devastated me. It was so out of the blue, there were no warning signs. No contact started immediately. He didn't want to talk it out or even give me closure. His reasoning was that he loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore and couldn't see a future with me. I was so crushed, I didn't sleep for days and cried for 2 months straight. I was truly in love with him and I haven't felt anything close to what I had with him with anyone else. Fast forward to the other night. I still struggle with what happened sometimes but overall I have been fine. One of my friends is leaving the country and we had a party. I arrive and my ex is there. I felt like I got punched in the chest. He was hanging out with a girl I had always hated and it felt awful. He didn't look at me once the entire time. I still struggle to wrap my mind around the fact he could dump me like trash after a year and not even look at me. I don't want to get back with him, I just struggle to come to terms that he was not right for me. I still believe in the back of my mind we would be good together now, but we're not. I feel really sad and almost depressed over seeing him at the party. I feel really awful still being sad about this 10 months later.
Satu Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I think anyone would feel they'd been hit hard by seeing him in that context. Did you know he was going to be there? 1
Author zip111 Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 I had no idea. And frankly, I'm slightly offended no one told me. Everyone there was from work and they all knew what happened
Satu Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I had no idea. And frankly, I'm slightly offended no one told me. Everyone there was from work and they all knew what happened No wonder it hit you hard. Get your anger on, its very healing. 3
hudson701 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I was dumped Valentine's weekend last year, Sunday 16th, so it's been 10 months for me as well- I know exactly what you're going through. I am no where near healed yet, I know she was bad for me but I still feel we would be great together. She is with someone else now which stings. She reaches out from time to time but that doesn't do me any good, last time wishing me happy new year. I'm determined to stick to NC and not respond to any future communication. I don't know what to say to help really, other than you can't put a time limit on when you're healed. I imagine I won't be right for some months to come yet. It is what it is.
Author zip111 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 I was dumped Valentine's weekend last year, Sunday 16th, so it's been 10 months for me as well- I know exactly what you're going through. I am no where near healed yet, I know she was bad for me but I still feel we would be great together. She is with someone else now which stings. She reaches out from time to time but that doesn't do me any good, last time wishing me happy new year. I'm determined to stick to NC and not respond to any future communication. I don't know what to say to help really, other than you can't put a time limit on when you're healed. I imagine I won't be right for some months to come yet. It is what it is. I'm truly scared I'll feel like this forever. If I never accept what happened I'll never get over it. I struggle with this almost daily. I wish it was easy to see the others point of view, I'm still angry and upset and I shouldn't
Nolan 93 Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Amazing how couples who once loved eachother, and now are ex's towards one another. Can be cruel to eachother, I understand one out of the two broke things off, and it's really hard on the other person to cope. But it's sad to see when things go south we hate eachother or can't even say hi. I'm just going through losing the most beautiful woman I have ever shared my life with, it's hard and it hurts to know she left me for her ex. But down the road if I saw her I would be friendly after all we shared a past of nine months and you can't just throw that away. Yes I still love her and I do miss her, but no matter how bad she hurt me, I can look her in the eye and have a conversation. Becasue it's in the past and it needs to stay in the past. Aslong as my ex is happy then I will not interfere, all I can do is move on with the amazing memories we shared and live life. I'm 21 and my ex is 18. If she wants to try again down the road Im open to it, but she has to have changed mentally before we rekindle anything. While I'm away from her I am focusing on myself and changing my views and ways in life, so in the end I to become a better person from this break up. I love life because of all the trials and errors we face, and the knowledge we learn from living day to day. 1
Author zip111 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 Amazing how couples who once loved eachother, and now are ex's towards one another. Can be cruel to eachother, I understand one out of the two broke things off, and it's really hard on the other person to cope. But it's sad to see when things go south we hate eachother or can't even say hi. I'm just going through losing the most beautiful woman I have ever shared my life with, it's hard and it hurts to know she left me for her ex. But down the road if I saw her I would be friendly after all we shared a past of nine months and you can't just throw that away. Yes I still love her and I do miss her, but no matter how bad she hurt me, I can look her in the eye and have a conversation. Becasue it's in the past and it needs to stay in the past. Aslong as my ex is happy then I will not interfere, all I can do is move on with the amazing memories we shared and live life. I'm 21 and my ex is 18. If she wants to try again down the road Im open to it, but she has to have changed mentally before we rekindle anything. While I'm away from her I am focusing on myself and changing my views and ways in life, so in the end I to become a better person from this break up. I love life because of all the trials and errors we face, and the knowledge we learn from living day to day. I would be friendly to talk to him, but for whatever reason he hates me now I guess. I would rather be dead than feel like this
coolheadal Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Try to pull yourself together. He's moved on you need to do the same. But that other girl he's with. You said you know her. So what's the difference between you and her? It sounds like from you she doesn't have morals where you do. Could be the EX BF wanted something from you and felt he couldn't get so he gone after that other girl you know of. If that's the case then you should clear your mind of him and find someone who loves you so much and really into you also. Not everyone is the same today. Can't change your EX BF ways you already seen his behavior at that party. He's moved on but your still clinging on to a false hope. If that other girl is bad that would mean he likes bad girls. Whatever has going for her is what he wants to be with. So now you know the truth about him.
Author zip111 Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 Try to pull yourself together. He's moved on you need to do the same. But that other girl he's with. You said you know her. So what's the difference between you and her? It sounds like from you she doesn't have morals where you do. Could be the EX BF wanted something from you and felt he couldn't get so he gone after that other girl you know of. If that's the case then you should clear your mind of him and find someone who loves you so much and really into you also. Not everyone is the same today. Can't change your EX BF ways you already seen his behavior at that party. He's moved on but your still clinging on to a false hope. If that other girl is bad that would mean he likes bad girls. Whatever has going for her is what he wants to be with. So now you know the truth about him. I have moved on for the most part, seeing him with another girl triggered past emotions and hurt. Moving on completely seems nearly impossible and I have done pretty much everything to try and move on. It seems I have to simply forget
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