fred123 Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 i think we all have felt this way some way or another . whether its being cheated on or rejected by the girl you like a lot or love or watever. i blame myself for making her resent me. i still do. you thin k what if i wasnt too clingy and didnt text her so much. what if i wasnt too cheesey or pushy. what if i didnt write long messages and double text her. im sure you feel same but i think its natural you blame yourself. i do too. but i am also sure you are a great guy and have low self esteem and need to think how great you are. the same girl made me feel.like crap and that it was my fault. just like yours. dont worry you will heal
kendahke Posted January 7, 2015 Posted January 7, 2015 I wish it were easier to believe that. Im sure there are, but its just hard to believe right now.. Believe it. This isn't the only relationship board on the internet.
Author Sandrino Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 i think we all have felt this way some way or another . whether its being cheated on or rejected by the girl you like a lot or love or watever. i blame myself for making her resent me. i still do. you thin k what if i wasnt too clingy and didnt text her so much. what if i wasnt too cheesey or pushy. what if i didnt write long messages and double text her. im sure you feel same but i think its natural you blame yourself. i do too. but i am also sure you are a great guy and have low self esteem and need to think how great you are. the same girl made me feel.like crap and that it was my fault. just like yours. dont worry you will heal I will never understand why she did these things to me especially when she was the one to approach me! She always begged for me, always texted me first, she would get mad at me for not texting her.. But i loved her so much, then she cheated? Like wtf..
Author Sandrino Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 I've come to the point of where i no longer need someone to tell me its her fault. But im very depressed. I come home from work on most days and just go to sleep. I've had buddies want to hang out, but i just cant seem to leave my home anymore. I really miss her. I havent seen her face in a month and a half and its killing me. Maybe shes moving on, idk. But i just cant get over how someone can use me like a tool and get away with it, and go to sleep at night without having guilt that she used someones feelings for her own benefit! I feel like im nothing right now, and im sorry if i keep bumping this post but its all i got right now. I know she cheated on me, and i know shes probably no good. I just dont know how to cope with this. I've never felt this much pain in my life, and i've never been like this. I just wish i could find some way to be happy and move on. Some way to cope with this. Because it hurts so damn bad..
preraph Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Like you said, you chose to ignore red flags. Now you need to learn to trust your instincts and react when there's red flags. So there is hope for you, because this is within your control.
Author Sandrino Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 Like you said, you chose to ignore red flags. Now you need to learn to trust your instincts and react when there's red flags. So there is hope for you, because this is within your control. I know i did. But i loved her. I had hope in her, and i still do. I feel like she'll get over her ex one day and come back to me. But then i'll feel like a second choice. I just want her..
preraph Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Meanwhile, you should live as if it's never going to happen and not let this put your life on hold. I've put mine on hold in my 20s any number of times until I finally learned things move along much better if I am social and not always available to the one I'm pining for. So do yourself a favor and continue to pursue other women and spend time with friends and keep yourself interesting.
Author Sandrino Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 Meanwhile, you should live as if it's never going to happen and not let this put your life on hold. I've put mine on hold in my 20s any number of times until I finally learned things move along much better if I am social and not always available to the one I'm pining for. So do yourself a favor and continue to pursue other women and spend time with friends and keep yourself interesting. Its hard to pursue other women atm especially when the one i fell in love with for the first time, used me like i was nothing. Its hard to even think that im worth more than someones crying shoulder right now. I feel useless and unable to be loved by someone..
bdhouston Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Time heals all wounds brother! Try not to hang around feeling sorry for yourself. Keep yourself active, and use this time as motivation to better yourself. You seem like a good guy, and I guarantee you that what you're feeling will pass with time. In time, you'll look back at this experience and wonder why you allowed someone that's clearly not worthy of having a good guy like to make you feel this way. Hang in there, and keep on fighting the good fight! 1
preraph Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 You need your time of mourning, but once it starts getting repetitious, it's time to at least start faking that you're able to have fun and go out and be active. Plaster a smile on. It's a start.
Author Sandrino Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 Well guys. She came into my work yesterday with her mom to shop. She knew i was working, so i dont even understand why she would come in. But i saw her, but didnt talk to her. Havent seen her in a month.. Scared the hell out of me, and messed me all up.. I was so devestated from seeing her, i came home and looked up her facebook. Which i also havent checked in a month. It was confirmed that she is seeing her ex. There was a status that he posted "I love bae" and she was the only person that liked it.. They are obviously back together. When i saw this my heart basically bursted out through my ass. I was going out that night too. Got wasted as hell and came home. I already knew she was with him, but there was a small part of me that hoped she wouldnt do the one thing she swore she wouldnt.. But they are together now obviously. I shouldnt have checked up on her, and i knew what was coming.. But im broken guys. Completely broken. I honestly think it was better to find out, rather than riding on hope that she may come back and apologize. I think i can move on now, since i know she is moving on with him, and there just is no hope for us anymore. Even though there probably wasnt any hope before i found out. I'm devestated, but i feel i can move on better now. Theres no reason to ride on hope anymore. So thats good. But i cried so hard when i found out about it. Just as much as i did when i called her phone, and found out she was at his house a while ago.
preraph Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Yes, now you have your answer and can move on. They're only the right person for you if you both think so. It's one of the saddest facts of life.
Author Sandrino Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 Yes, now you have your answer and can move on. They're only the right person for you if you both think so. It's one of the saddest facts of life. I dont think i can ever trust anyone ever again. I feel like love doesnt exist and can never last a lifetime.. I'm so messed up right now i dont even know what to do anymore. When i found that out last night, i broke down. I missed her so much just to find out she was ALREADY back with her ex. She told me she didnt want to be with anyone.. But it turns out shes with the one person she promised she wouldnt get with. This isnt the first time her ex came back into the picture while we were broken up, but it just seems much more clear with them now since he posts a status like "I love bae" and shes the ONLY person to like it? Really? Last month you loved me, now you love him? 2 MONTHS ago you begged for me back. Now your back in love with him? Why does this happen to me? He cheated on her, yet she goes back to him. She cheats on me with him, and i go back to her. Im so stupid. I wish i was the bad boy type to cheat on women and keep them coming back. Or being an ass hole, or big and tough to put her in her place. Its just not me. Im a nice guy, that gets taken advantage of. Im such a F#$%ing P%#$@!!!!
Author Sandrino Posted January 14, 2015 Author Posted January 14, 2015 So one of my girl friends that i work with was talking to one of my exes friends that came into my work and wanted some food, and my friend said that i was dating her lol. So my exes friend leaves, and not even 5 minutes later, my ex adds me on snapchat. The thing is, she added me, and then deleted me. Idk why, but i found that pretty funny. I didnt add her, or think anything of it.
Author Sandrino Posted January 17, 2015 Author Posted January 17, 2015 Ok so a follow up, after what happened that i explained above, i've seen her come into my work twice now within a week. She comes in with her mom and walks past my department. She knows im working, she knows where to look for my car, idk whats shes doing. She broke up with me, and as far as i know, shes back with her ex.. We ended things on really bad terms.. Name calling, and then a "Never talk to me again" from her. We havent spoken in a month and a half. I'm probably overreacting but idk wtf shes doing. If you didn't want to see someone, wouldn't you avoid them at all costs? And then along with her trying to add my snapchat, and then delete it like i wouldnt know..
Author Sandrino Posted January 18, 2015 Author Posted January 18, 2015 Part of me wishes that she misses me. I hope she does.. I mean, we were in relationship for almost a year.. I just wish she could apologize to me. Its been almost a month and a half without her. Im not sure if its getting better for me or worse. But i see her alot now. Whether it be in my workplace, driving around, idk. The fact that she broke up with me, and told me to never talk to her again, is probably why she wont call. Because we've broken up alot and mostly it was me breaking up with her. But now that its her, and she said what she said, she probably will feel pathetic for begging for me back again. Part of me hope she doesnt but part of me wishes she will... But shes in a relationship with her ex again, so maybe im just over analyzing everything and she just doesnt even care at all.
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