twinkie0 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I know this question is for women, but I must say it doesn't really matter, in my personal experience. I'm actually having a hard time imagining HOW your virginity could possibly come up in a conversation. Sexual experience does not affect you having a relationship as far as I'm concerned. Most women don't seem to mind, especially if you're young don't make a big deal out of it, because it's really not 2
EngnimaticResponse Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I'm assuming 1975 is your birth date. According to the CDC 1.3% of men aged 35-39 are virgins. You never know, you virgin may be just around the corner! Yo. I heard a quote: "Sex is like air. It's only important if you're not getting any." To that I'd add: "And if you go without it long enough it stops being an issue.";)
Author Locust Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 So I don't need to resort to a hooker to build up a sexual reputation? Since I had finished college last summer, I will say its harder to meet girls because I'm not around that many people like how I was. That is whole different issue, I'll have to do some good searching where I can meet potential singles. Based on opinions I think I will be okay, but so far I never had any female ask if I was a virgin.
AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 (edited) I'm actually having a hard time imagining HOW your virginity could possibly come up in a conversation You've been on 2 dates. For date #3 you bring her back to your place. You're talking, flirting, and she is expecting you to go in and kiss her. She doesn't know of course that you've never done this before. You end up getting stage fright and don't do it. She gets pissed and asks you whats up. You say "I've never kissed a girl before, also I'm a virgin". The question now is how does she react? "Aww, let's take it slow". or " Yeah something just came up. I'll call you later, bye!". So I don't need to resort to a hooker to build up a sexual reputation? All the questions you're asking I've already asked. Check my profile and check my created threads. It's a goldmine of information. Edited January 2, 2015 by AVarma 1
EngnimaticResponse Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 (edited) You've been on 2 dates. For date #3 you bring her back to your place. You're talking, flirting, and she is expecting you to go in and kiss her. She doesn't know of course that you've never done this before. You end up getting stage fright and don't do it. She gets pissed and asks you whats up. You say "I've never kissed a girl before, also I'm a virgin". The question now is how does she react? "Aww, let's take it slow". or " Yeah something just came up. I'll call you later, bye!". Easy. This should not be your answer to this question. Instead: "I've had a long dry spell.(Truth) A lot has changed in dating.(Another truth) And I guess I'm a bit rusty with how this works."(A half truth. You ARE rusty, but she doesn't need to know how much.) I have only been called on it once. Years ago, by a guy. Most people would not know unless I told them, and many still don't believe it. Many don't even believe my Age when I tell them. Edited January 2, 2015 by EngnimaticResponse 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 All the questions you're asking I've already asked. Check my profile and check my created threads. It's a goldmine of information. They've been asked long before you too - and will continue to be asked . The goldmine will continue to be ignored. 1
AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 They've been asked long before you too - and will continue to be asked . The goldmine will continue to be ignored. In all honesty there should be a thread with links to all the virgin and inexperienced men threads. Think about how many men it would help! 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 In all honesty there should be a thread with links to all the virgin and inexperienced men threads. Think about how many men it would help! Agree, although it's quite hard to get consolidated threads as it is! Having said that, I've made many, many, MANY threads trying to help out inexperienced men and male virgins on this forum, given that I am a late bloomer myself and managed to change my situation. It often met derision and excuses (you're tall/good-looking/etc so you didn't have it hard - sh*t that people often said in those threads) so I don't know how helpful it would be in the end.
AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Agree, although it's quite hard to get consolidated threads as it is! Having said that, I've made many, many, MANY threads trying to help out inexperienced men and male virgins on this forum, given that I am a late bloomer myself and managed to change my situation. It often met derision and excuses (you're tall/good-looking/etc so you didn't have it hard - sh*t that people often said in those threads) so I don't know how helpful it would be in the end. I guess it's a difficult balance to find. I think every older virgin is probably bitter to some extent, except for those who are purposely virgins for religious reasons. I know I feel bitter and anxious about it as well on occasion, but I don't think the feeling is so overwhelming that it prevents me interacting normally with women. Maybe some of the other guys are worse than I am (although I find it difficult to believe anybody can be).
Phoe Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Yes. Almost every single guy I've been with was a virgin or only had 1 before me. So, they were all inexperienced. I prefer it that way. Men with high partner counts kinda creep me out. Doesn't interest me at all!
AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Yes. Almost every single guy I've been with was a virgin or only had 1 before me. So, they were all inexperienced. I prefer it that way. Men with high partner counts kinda creep me out. Doesn't interest me at all! If you don't mind me asking, how is this even possible? How is it possible that every guy you've been with has been a virgin? Do you ask them beforehand? How does it even come up? Not to pry too much but do you have some sort of virgin fetish? 1
Phoe Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 If you don't mind me asking, how is this even possible? How is it possible that every guy you've been with has been a virgin? Do you ask them beforehand? How does it even come up? Not to pry too much but do you have some sort of virgin fetish? Reread my quote. I said ALMOST all had been either virgin, or 1 before me (which is not a virgin). All but 1 were little to no experience. I had been with one who I'd say had 10 partners at the time. I don't intentionally pick men that are inexperienced, those are simply the only men who pursue me. I don't get pursued often, and don't reject men often (only ever 3 times). It's just coincidental that all but 1 have little to no experience. Just the way it played out. Very experienced men, for whatever reason, do not have interest in me.
AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I don't get pursued often Phoe.... don't be THAT girl. I've seen your pics, you are HOT, HOT, HOT!!! I mean that fact that a woman like you is interested in virgins is what gives me hope for my dating future. Two questions. How many of you ladies are above 30? How many of you are just saying yes to be nice? I don't see why anybody would say something here just to be nice. It's one thing if somebody were to ask this face to face but on an anonymous forum? I think people are saying what they really feel? 1
MissBee Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 When I meet a man and decide to go out with him I generally don't know about his sexual activities beforehand. If we've been out and we've been talking and I like you, that's what matters, I like you. My liking you is what then influences other things. I assume most men I meet aren't virgins and I haven't been with a guy who is a virgin or is totally inexperienced, and would admittedly be surprised if he were. But if I like him I'm gonna date him. I don't require lots of experience. We all start somewhere. So long as he's not very awkward, painfully shy, not open to learning etc then I wouldn't mind. Truthfully though, I prefer a man who is more dominant so that may be the only thing. But being inexperienced doesn't automatically mean you can't still be dominant if that's how you naturally are. Likewise, being experienced doesn't mean you're good in bed or that you can please every woman. Women and men are all different and while having had sex many times before might give you some foundation and some "tools" to draw on, with a new partner you still have to learn and adapt (if you're a good lover) and not just robotically do what you did with the last person with them and expect they will like it. Even though all the men I've been with had experience I still guided a bit in terms of voicing my own preferences and likes so probably wouldn't find it that much different with an inexperienced guy. 1
AVarma Posted February 25, 2015 Posted February 25, 2015 (edited) You will be a pariah and have to find another social circle. Find another social circle? For being a virgin? Jesus dude. I can understand the advice about not announcing because it is an awkward thing but I never imagined that announcing it would cause you to get shunned. Edited February 25, 2015 by AVarma
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