king1402 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 One minute my ex gf is telling people she wishes she was still with me and that I'm an amazing guy but on snapchat last night I see her kissing some guy. We just brok up officially last week. Am I wrong for feeling disrespected that she would put this on social media knowing I would see it. It's crazy man like I'm not even hurt just feel like you shouldn't do something to purposely upset hurt or get a reaction out of someone you care or love especially since our break up is still very fresh. Opinions?
StalwartMind Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Feeling disrespected by what she does now is actually just your own "biased" view on the situation. She is not obliged to think or care about you, granted it would be pretty decent to actually show some consideration of your previous partner if you know your actions might hurt/upset them. A lot of people just don't really care when they've moved on or in general. She might genuinely think you are an amazing guy still, despite no longer together, but she clearly has no problems enjoying her life still with other men. This will undoubtedly be hurtful to most, but we don't own others and nor can we expect them to put their life on hold, just for the sake of being considerate. It's really easy to "hurt" someone because of how invasive social media can be, more so than before the times of internet becoming popular. I don't really like it and situations like this with your girlfriend, but it's your responsibility to avoid things you know can influence you in a negative way. 2
lolablue17 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 You are an amazing guy, but she is far from being an amazing girl. Her behavior is ugly and mean. 2
Author king1402 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 You are an amazing guy, but she is far from being an amazing girl. Her behavior is ugly and mean. So would I be wrong if I ignored her or kept my distance when we get back to school? We both go to a very small university. I feel embarrassed because all of her and my friends have seen it
Author king1402 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Feeling disrespected by what she does now is actually just your own "biased" view on the situation. She is not obliged to think or care about you, granted it would be pretty decent to actually show some consideration of your previous partner if you know your actions might hurt/upset them. A lot of people just don't really care when they've moved on or in general. She might genuinely think you are an amazing guy still, despite no longer together, but she clearly has no problems enjoying her life still with other men. This will undoubtedly be hurtful to most, but we don't own others and nor can we expect them to put their life on hold, just for the sake of being considerate. It's really easy to "hurt" someone because of how invasive social media can be, more so than before the times of internet becoming popular. I don't really like it and situations like this with your girlfriend, but it's your responsibility to avoid things you know can influence you in a negative way. You're right. About everything. I just gotta pick myself up and move on. It'll e hard not to see her because our school is very small and she gets back Sunday. Any tips? 1
Author king1402 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 She sounds at best, rather shallow. Yeah it just doesn't make sense to me. We were very close in just don't get it. And I'm struggling with trying to figure out how I should act when she comes back to school and wants to hang out or text me. Should I be nice and respond or ditch her completely
dyna85 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I think it's disrespectful, but also more so attention-seeking. If you broke it off with her, it could just be her trying to prove to you she's moving on and 'happy.' If she broke it off, it's definitely rude, but still, my interpretation would be that she still wants to show you how she's over it and moving on without you. In either case, she's not over it.
Satu Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Yeah it just doesn't make sense to me. We were very close in just don't get it. And I'm struggling with trying to figure out how I should act when she comes back to school and wants to hang out or text me. Should I be nice and respond or ditch her completely Just treat her like one of the crowd. Be 'vaguely pleasant,' but don't reach out to her. Avoid being alone with her if you can. You'll be OK.
Author king1402 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 I think it's disrespectful, but also more so attention-seeking. If you broke it off with her, it could just be her trying to prove to you she's moving on and 'happy.' If she broke it off, it's definitely rude, but still, my interpretation would be that she still wants to show you how she's over it and moving on without you. In either case, she's not over it. I broke up with her because she kept pushing me away. We were very close but her mom didn't like me because I'm black and I got tired of her indecisive treatment towards me. I didn't want to but I felt like I had to. Thank you
lolablue17 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 So would I be wrong if I ignored her or kept my distance when we get back to school? We both go to a very small university. I feel embarrassed because all of her and my friends have seen it Why should you feel embarrassed? She's the one who said one thing, and did the opposite. She's the one who's dumped by you, and then failed to manipulate you to her interests. She's the one who is trying to make you jealous with no success. Don't hate her. Just feel sorry for her. You can nod or say hi like you say to all your other acquaintances. 1
dyna85 Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I want to further amend my comment as after reviewing that you dumped her and not the other way around, I think she was not being disrespectful by posting what she did, because when someone is dumped, they have free reign to do whatever, as long as it's not directly impacting you. Even though you're indirectly impacted on an emotional level maybe by seeing the photo... it's not really her concern since you broke up with her.
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