Lightmetoday Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Let be tell my story short... I met this girl , we both became friends and then progressed to lovers . She broke suddenly & said we should remain friends for the moment.. I agreed with her , While she had no problem staying friends , i started getting annoyed of the feelings i had for her , i kept listening in patience the story of other guys she started liking.. This continue for 2 Years .. One sudden day she asked me if i love her , It was like a dream coming true. She gave mixed signals that she has feelings for me , I decided the time has come , A month later i made up my mind and confessed her i love her , She said sorry we are friends only ! It was like my heart is ripped off ! I confessed i have been hiding these feelings for a long time , She explained we are way too different and we cannot marry , As i started losing my mind , she end up saying " sorry we can't remain friends anymore , you are just too pathetic" and she left me .. Crying
JaneDoe12 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 That's why NC is so important. You can only stay friends with an ex if both parties never really liked each other from the beginning. If there are still romantic feelings involved for at least one of them it's just impossible to just stay friends. For that to happen you need to think of your ex with somebody else and feel absolutely nothing. Initiate NC immediately.
Holmes85 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Let be tell my story short... I met this girl , we both became friends and then progressed to lovers . She broke suddenly & said we should remain friends for the moment.. I agreed with her , While she had no problem staying friends , i started getting annoyed of the feelings i had for her , i kept listening in patience the story of other guys she started liking.. This continue for 2 Years .. One sudden day she asked me if i love her , It was like a dream coming true. She gave mixed signals that she has feelings for me , I decided the time has come , A month later i made up my mind and confessed her i love her , She said sorry we are friends only ! It was like my heart is ripped off ! I confessed i have been hiding these feelings for a long time , She explained we are way too different and we cannot marry , As i started losing my mind , she end up saying " sorry we can't remain friends anymore , you are just too pathetic" and she left me .. Crying Do you know why she's pulling the "just in friends" card? Because either she is with someone else or has her eyes set on someone else. She is treating you like garbage, do you honestly want to be with this girl who says "you are just too pathethic"? Can you honestly say that this is the giel you want to spend the rest of your life with and can be happily married to, I am sure the answer is "no". Delete this trash from your exsistance. It's for your own good. You need someone who realizes your worth and appreciates it, not someone who treats you like garbage. I would strongly advice you to "Never" give her any replies anymore, if she texts, calls or whatever. 1
dyna85 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Yes, agree that it will only cause more pain the long run. I remember I had an ex who broke up w/ me and then a few wks went by and I got this text, 'you don't have to be a stranger, you know.' That simple act led to such hurt and humiliation in the month or so afterward, because it was a line of hope. It made me think there was room for reconsideration, because of course I read into it and he had opened the lines of communication. NC all the way. Stick to it, lightmetoday. I know it hurts. It sucks. It's the worst pain the world. However, you will make it through, as long as you cut off all communication with this source of your pain. One day you will look back and thank God you dodged a bullet, because someone who tells you you're pathetic is not worth your time. Hell, someone who strung you along for 2 years and shattered your heart, is not worth your tears. You are too good for her and deserve someone who appreciates you for the sensitive being you are. Please do things to help yourself. Write, read, journal, take walks, do any sort of exercise. Basically, just keep living and with time, things WILL get easier.
Author Lightmetoday Posted January 4, 2015 Author Posted January 4, 2015 I had a serious conversation with her , She apologised for calling me "pathetic" , She gave me reasons why we cannot be together in future , All those reasons are genuine . She confessed she had feelings for me when she was giving me mixed signals. I feel like the old pain of my heart break has re-emerged , It feels very sad , i can feel the pain physically in my heart .
fromheart Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 Let be tell my story short... I met this girl , we both became friends and then progressed to lovers . She broke suddenly & said we should remain friends for the moment.. I agreed with her , While she had no problem staying friends , i started getting annoyed of the feelings i had for her , i kept listening in patience the story of other guys she started liking.. This continue for 2 Years .. One sudden day she asked me if i love her , It was like a dream coming true. She gave mixed signals that she has feelings for me , I decided the time has come , A month later i made up my mind and confessed her i love her , She said sorry we are friends only ! It was like my heart is ripped off ! I confessed i have been hiding these feelings for a long time , She explained we are way too different and we cannot marry , As i started losing my mind , she end up saying " sorry we can't remain friends anymore , you are just too pathetic" and she left me .. Crying You didn't want to be her friend, you want wanted her to be your lover. Tell her what you want. Women love men who know what they want and don't settle for less. If she don't want you and the loyal, good man that you are, is she prefers meaningless flirting with random men instead of all the goodness you can offer her, that's her loss.
LynnJc Posted January 4, 2015 Posted January 4, 2015 I would definitely go total NO CONTACT with this "friend" of yours. I know it's hard...trust me, I've dealt with it.
Author Lightmetoday Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 I have not yet told her that i want NC . She still calls me as bestfriend . Should i tell her that we have to break friendship or should i stay silent ? I am a very simple & straight forward person , i like to keep things simple.
Invictus01 Posted January 5, 2015 Posted January 5, 2015 Let me tell you something else. She didn't even want you around as a friend either. No woman means that when she says that. In fact, she wants you to go away.
Author Lightmetoday Posted January 5, 2015 Author Posted January 5, 2015 Let me tell you something else. She didn't even want you around as a friend either. No woman means that when she says that. In fact, she wants you to go away. If that is true , She will be delighted when i will say her that i am finishing friendship with her. When i say something , i mean it ! I don't want to keep people around me with fake tag's of bestfriends. If you are bestfriend then you have to behave like bestfriend not like in "NC Mode"
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