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Might not be the correct place to ask this but I was talking to my mom about the break up and things I have been going through lately. She has been someone I can talk to, about the only person I can call and know will listen. She said something kind of odd which was that if she knew I would be hurting this much later in life, she never would have had me. I'm not entirely sure what she meant by it and I'm not quite sure how to take it. She has been supportive and tells me that she still sees a bright future for me but I am at a time In my life where I need to make some progress. I am 33 and not where I thought or where I want to be. This is also a person who slapped me and told me she hopes I would never amount to anything in life, in an isolated incident so I'm confused. I always thought we had a good relationship, and I know some parents have done much, much worse, but how would you take it if you were told that?

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That was a very cruel thing for her to say, no matter the circumstances in your life.

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I don't know what possessed your mother. It sounds like you are trying to get confirmation that you deserved it because I know you are low at the moment and very open to punishing yourself.

 

But don't. You re mother is bang out of order and you would be well within your rights to tell her so.

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Seems your relationship with your mother is not healthy. It sounds like she is not healthy herself. I believe she is trying to support you in her own way, just realize this is not healthy for you. You should not rely on her for support.

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