GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I recently met a guy through OLD and we seemed to hit it off. After the first date he asked if I wanted to see him again and I said yes, but since I had to travel we had to postpone this date and he asked me to let him know when I would have time. So I did and later we had another date that ended up with a kiss. The third date initiated by him ended up with another kiss and he hugged me - it was obvious we were both into it. The fourth time we met at his place, had a very good time, talked a lot and when it was almost midnight he said I could stay at his place if I wanted to, but he won't force me into anything that I did not want to do. We ended up making out with a lot of passion and I am 100% sure we both enjoyed it, we cuddled a lot, kissed passionately, etc. He said he feels strong connection with me and that it was just the beginning and how we would enjoy eachother later when we get to know each other better. We cuddled in the morning, he was gentle and caring, he made breakfast and drove me to the metro station - he said that he better drives me the first time so that I won't get lost. We agreed to see each other later, but did not set up a day. He mentioned he was interested to see my paintings and he seemed really interested to continue communication. It was on the 30th of December and I have not heard from him since that. I texted him on New Year's eve and he did not respond. I just don't get it really. Why saying all that, making plans to see each other again and then being so rude?...
evanescentworld Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Don't take this the wrong way, but do you know whether anything has happened to him....? It's just that a friend of mine was just getting steady with a guy and then he just went completely silent. Fell off the radar.She discovered a few weeks later that he had a serious car accident and was rushed to a hospital dealing specially with spinal injuries.... I'm not trying to be a pessimist here, but you never know. I hope he is just a flake and wanted you for your body and that he's not hurt or anything. Though if he was just in it to get sex, then you may feel like doing him an injury!!
Author GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Don't take this the wrong way, but do you know whether anything has happened to him....? It's just that a friend of mine was just getting steady with a guy and then he just went completely silent. Fell off the radar.She discovered a few weeks later that he had a serious car accident and was rushed to a hospital dealing specially with spinal injuries.... I'm not trying to be a pessimist here, but you never know. I hope he is just a flake and wanted you for your body and that he's not hurt or anything. Though if he was just in it to get sex, then you may feel like doing him an injury!! No, I don't know if anything happened to him, but I am thinking to contact him later to make sure what happened. I thought for sure that he could only want my body, but he seemed like a person who was not looking for just sex. He acted like he wanted to continue communication and that he was not online looking for other dayes. And he said that AFTER we were intimate.
evanescentworld Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Well he would, wouldn't he? He is hardly going to admit that it was great, but really it's all he was after.... he had to prolong the illusion, and make it LOOK as if he was interested.... That's IF the 'only looking for sex' theory is accurate, that is....
Author GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Well he would, wouldn't he? He is hardly going to admit that it was great, but really it's all he was after.... he had to prolong the illusion, and make it LOOK as if he was interested.... That's IF the 'only looking for sex' theory is accurate, that is.... Well, thank you for your feedback. I will probably call him later to make sure he did not have a car accident and I also forgot my scarf at his place. I would like to get it back if possible.
Assada Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Did you talk on the phone in between? Did you get to know him personally? his likes and his dislikes? His statement " how [we] would enjoy eachother later when we get to know each other better." leads me to believe, that it was just hot and heavy too quick. He had sex with ya, then he left ya. And that was it
Author GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Did you talk on the phone in between? Did you get to know him personally? his likes and his dislikes? His statement " how [we] would enjoy eachother later when we get to know each other better." leads me to believe, that it was just hot and heavy too quick. He had sex with ya, then he left ya. And that was it No, we did not talk on the phone in between, but we texted. We had very long dates and talked a lot, he told me about his life, interests, etc and asked me about mine. As for "enjoying each other later" I guess he meant that the first time is always a bit awkward and he did not show the best of him mentioning that he needs to "get used to me and this is just the beginning".
Assada Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Well, I actually stayed overnight willingly and he did not seem pushy. I don't think there is anything like "too soon" or "too long to wait" - it depends how both people feel. What surprises me is that a if a person is into just sex why would a person show interest AFTERWARDS planning to see each other later if he is not actually interested anymore. hahahaha. But There is a "too soon". And you just experienced it lovey It happens like this, You have no rapport with me. You dont know me. I had sex with you. I dont really care about you. Good bye He tells the that garbage after, so he doesnt look like a douche. Simple 1
Author GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 hahahaha. But There is a "too soon". And you just experienced it lovey It happens like this, You have no rapport with me. You dont know me. I had sex with you. I dont really care about you. Good bye He tells the that garbage after, so he doesnt look like a douche. Simple This is individual. I know couples who had sex on the first date and ended up in a longterm relationship. Basically you never know what to expect.
evanescentworld Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Well, hopefully you CAN get in touch with him, and clear this up, if only to make things clearer for yourself. I hope it goes well. Let us know.....
bathtub-row Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I'd recommend that you forget the scarf and don't contact him again. If something bad happened to him, you may never know. The most likely thing is, though, is that he's avoiding you. Just leave it alone. Continuing to contact him is just going to make you feel bad. If he were really interested in you, it seems to me that he would've invited you out for New Year's.
Author GettingOver Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 If he were really interested in you, it seems to me that he would've invited you out for New Year's. I am a foreigner in the country and am not fluent in local language. He mentioned that he was going to celebrate with some friends and colleagues outside the city - I guess since we don't know each other that long, bringing me to a party was not in the picture yet, especially that I could feel isolated when I woul not understand everything. Other than than you are probably right.
Author GettingOver Posted January 2, 2015 Author Posted January 2, 2015 (edited) Well, hopefully you CAN get in touch with him, and clear this up, if only to make things clearer for yourself. I hope it goes well. Let us know..... He responded me with a NY wishes, saying that he was out of town and is coming back only today, will have a look for my scarf and let me know. Thanks everyone for your feedback! Edited January 2, 2015 by GettingOver
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