sara6675 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Ive been talking with this guy for a couple weeks now and i can tell he really likes me. However, when I get ready to leave he always asks me to call HIM when I get home. That would normally be fine for me but this happens EVERY TIME! I finally told him that i wasn't going to call him and that he would have to call me...but he still dosn't call. My friends have already told me not to call him but I really really like him and i would like to hang out with him some more over my spring break... I don't know what to do. Its just so weird because I really think he likes me. help
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Well... This is a typical guy. What you need to do is not harass him about it. If you stop calling him for a few days maybe he will get the hint that he needs to call. That maybe a good idea too. I would not call him for 2 days and see if he trys to make contact with you. Some guys hate the phone! If he doesn't call in two days then ask him (be nice) and say do you not like the phone or what???
Author sara6675 Posted March 25, 2005 Author Posted March 25, 2005 well when I have called him in the past we talk for hours and it seems like HE is the one who dosn't want to get off the phone. Mabey he is just playing games with my head. If he is, its working and driving me insane!
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 My Ex BF was like that. It was like an arm and a leg to get him to call me but then when I got him on the phone he didn't want to hang up. Sometimes guys don't want to make the call. IT's a tough situation. If you really like him then stick with it. If you want to test him then don't call him and see how that goes.
Pendawn Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 I agree, it seems to just be a thing with some guys, they can't bring themselves to call you, even though they love talking to you. My current beau is exactly the same, he says "I'll give you a call" but he always forgets, but if I call him he's very pleased and if I say I'll call him he's excited and makes plans and checks when I'm going to call him saying he'll look forward to it etc. It's up to you if you can get used to it or not, I'm already used to me just calling him, and I know he likes me a LOT so I don't mind now I know it's just the way he is.
curiousnycgirl Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 I'm confused - he's asking you to call when you get home - that is a very lovely gesture and would seem he just wants to make sure you got home safely. Are you saying he doesn't call in between dates? If that is the case -you can either go with Pendawn's answer, which is totally reasonable, or give him a few days and he will, eventually. Granted a few days may be longer than that and it may feel like forever - but he should get the message. Especially if when he finally does call, you're not available when he wants to get together! I'm not saying you should play games, or lie - simply live your life and don't sit around waiting for him to call. Good luck - let use know how it goes!
Salamander Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 It's possible that he thinks you don't like him as much as he likes you. In that situation a guy can become very worried that he's calling someone who doesn't really want to talk to him. His asking you to call him might be a way for him to get a feel for how much you like him. On the other hand, he may just not like calling people. I know some guys who just won't call unless they have something they have to discuss (eg, work or sports!). If you really like this guy just give him a call. It's stupid to miss out on being with someone you really like just because of who does or doesn't do the initial phone calls!
Author sara6675 Posted March 28, 2005 Author Posted March 28, 2005 Hey everyone, I ended up waiting one and a half days before calling him...(i tried to wait longer!) Well anyways i get him on the phone and he wants me to go over to his house. Of coarse I say yes...but he says he wants to clean up his house a bit and take a shower. So then he says he will call back in 10-15 min to tell me what time i should come over...Well, I ended up waiting three hours for him to call back and he still didn't call. I don't get a very good signal on my phone so I thought mabey he tried to call but could get in touch with me. I then called him and he says that he ended up having to do this family thing for easter (this was on saterday). Then he said he was sorry for not calling me back. I told him fine and hungup the phone before he could say anything. He hasn't called me since then either. a**h***. What am I supposed to think???
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