D.Mc. Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Hi Country Girl, My type is now the opposite in looks & personality attributes of my ex. He was the opposite of the ex before him...I simply take what didn't work & continue to refine it down apparently. This means that currently I only find tall, blonde, blue eyed men w/nice physiques a turn on physically & there aren't that many (I should move to California) LOL! Mentally, emotionally & socio-economically the list is even longer for what I don't find attractive. I guess I'm still learning... 2
EveAFlame Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Must have penis and be over 5'7. I'm flexible!
xxoo Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 To clarify, my type is olive skin, bedroom eyes, dark hair, thicker build....but I can be just as attracted to an off-type individual. Brad Pitt is none of that, but he'd make me very happy 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 That's kinda the point, mate. I've liked all kinds of girls too, even though I have a type! I mean, my type is generally closer to this: https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/10847877_920962671248114_1313976827690717402_n.jpg?oh=325275b28cb854b2932d332ec552140f&oe=553D5509&__gda__=1429999281_8edee9126a6841ddda3fcb23e392f1c9 https://scontent-b-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xfp1/v/t1.0-9/1798685_922406317770416_6531037600126467880_n.jpg?oh=302de9452d180fc018e974e4762d3568&oe=5544780B https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/8976_920220674655647_5833898485880216068_n.jpg?oh=27900dbb66b6ec6c18fdc254d002d672&oe=553530CE&__gda__=1429323287_ee3188c9efd502f4768d941fd983c06e http://images.askmen.com/2012_top_99/galleries/88-antonia-thomas-1327344855.jpg But I've been attracted to girls who look like this: http://static.sportskeeda.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/tumblrn4213nev1e1ri0sroo1500-2163932.jpg http://static.comicvine.com/uploads/original/11113/111139969/4208347-rutinawesley.jpg http://images.complex.com/complex/image/upload/t_article_image/qgyc3zxrhmzz5kxhdqp3.jpg There are others, but I've wasted enough time on google and facebook Now, they're all very good looking examples of my type and outside of course, but you can see they are all over the map. We all have ideal types that we like, but we're also aware that compatibility isn't limited to type. I'm attracted to all of the girls as well. For me, I love girls with big boobs. I go crazy over it. But I've never dated a woman with big boobs. A woman could be flatter than me and I wouldn't care. That is a preference. For most people, I think it means a little bit more than that. And it's just another obstacle to overcome.
AVarma Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Eh, I'm not so sure. There's people who is everybody's type and people who are nobody's type. I'm not so sure about this. Everybody has a type. People who are "everybody's type" are probably just desperate for a relationship and will get with anybody. You'd be surprised how many just go through the motions in relationships and marriage.
somedude81 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Bright eyes and a sweet smile. Preferably weighs less than I do.
AVarma Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Bright eyes and a sweet smile. Preferably weighs less than I do. How much you weigh somedude? Unless you're obese I don't see why this would even be an issue.
AVarma Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Sure they had things in common. They all dated me! Really though, they were all pretty different. First boyfriend is white, short, skinny, dark haired blue eyed and nerdy Second boyfriend is black, green eyed, long curly hair, dressed eclecticly Third boyfriend is black, short, dark eyed, short hair, simple shorts and tee shirt kinda guy. Fourth boyfriend is white, slightly taller than me, dark hair, bearded, outdoorsy type. Besides them I dated a short middle eastern bald preppy guy, a short blonde nerdy guy, and a very tall very big brown haired green eyed athlete. So, yeah. They were all quite different, but my physical attraction was always the same. They were all attractive to me! I think you're too focused on the outside. How different were their personalities?
somedude81 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 How much you weigh somedude? Unless you're obese I don't see why this would even be an issue. I'm around 155. Yes it is an issue. I just want want a woman to be smaller than me.
Danda Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Maybe it's just me, but I find it extremely harrowing that everybody has such a specific type. I know I'll never be that type (which is OK I guess), but it just makes it so much more of a fight to find somebody compatible. Eh, I'm not so sure. There's people who is everybody's type and people who are nobody's type. **PSEUDO THERAPIST MODE ACTIVATED** I think you falsely believe that you are nobody's type, and that this feeling is not actually "okay" to you, and then you try to cope with the not-good feeling that comes from the false notion by insisting that it's just how it is. I mention it somewhat frequently because it's concrete first-person observation that affected my perception - but I have worked in multiple nursing homes / assisted living facilities as a CNA, and people in their 80s and 90s are still falling for each other and having sex. These are people who who typically hunched and wrinkly and have false teeth. Are you hunched over, super wrinkly and have no teeth? Even if you were, guess what some people would still want to **** you, I've seen it. Just about scarred me for life but I've seen it. 1
USMCHokie Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I think you're too focused on the outside. How different were their personalities? You're in the wrong thread if you're concerned about personalities...read the title...?
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 That's kinda the point, mate. I've liked all kinds of girls too, even though I have a type! I mean, my type is generally closer to this: https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/8976_920220674655647_5833898485880216068_n.jpg?oh=27900dbb66b6ec6c18fdc254d002d672&oe=553530CE&__gda__=1429323287_ee3188c9efd502f4768d941fd983c06e Damn! Must have penis and be over 5'7. I'm flexible! How far back can you bend?
losangelena Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 The types of guys that "turn my head," so to speak are either of the latin/middle eastern/central asian persuasion with facial hair; the Jon Hamm variety; or stocky bald white guys (baldness is a sign of virility, apparently). Those are my physical "types," but other than latin men (who I tend to get the most attention from), I've never really dated within those types. This year I dated two stocky, bearded latin men (one Mexican, one Ecuadorian); a rolly-polly, red-headed dude who was so white he was practically translucent; and my current boyfriend is a pocket-sized Indian guy. So attraction is a funny thing. Fun thread! 1
Mangina Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 **PSEUDO THERAPIST MODE ACTIVATED** I think you falsely believe that you are nobody's type, and that this feeling is not actually "okay" to you, and then you try to cope with the not-good feeling that comes from the false notion by insisting that it's just how it is. I mention it somewhat frequently because it's concrete first-person observation that affected my perception - but I have worked in multiple nursing homes / assisted living facilities as a CNA, and people in their 80s and 90s are still falling for each other and having sex. These are people who who typically hunched and wrinkly and have false teeth. Are you hunched over, super wrinkly and have no teeth? Even if you were, guess what some people would still want to **** you, I've seen it. Just about scarred me for life but I've seen it. Maybe romance will be better when I am 80. ☺
Phoe Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I think you're too focused on the outside. How different were their personalities? I'm not focused on the outside at all. That's the whole point I'm making. That I can date totally different looking men and be attracted just the same. The outside never mattered. But the thread title specifically referred to looks and being attracted to different looks. So that's what I addressed.
Author Country_Girl Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Hi Country Girl, My type is now the opposite in looks & personality attributes of my ex. He was the opposite of the ex before him...I simply take what didn't work & continue to refine it down apparently. This means that currently I only find tall, blonde, blue eyed men w/nice physiques a turn on physically & there aren't that many (I should move to California) LOL! Mentally, emotionally & socio-economically the list is even longer for what I don't find attractive. I guess I'm still learning... That's interesting you say that, because I used to really be attracted to clean cut men, and seems I've been screwed over by a few- that could be why now I find the arm sleeve tatted guys with Mohawks ever so attractive now. You might be on to something there...
GSP21 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I like shy, cute, slender Asian girls with a cute smile around 5'5-5'7 in stature (look up Korean figure skater Yuna Kim who is an ideal "type" for me). But I definitely don't restrict myself to a single "type". I've found other types of girls attractive too.
EveAFlame Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Damn! How far back can you bend? I can touch the back of my head to my heels. Just kidding. Or not! 1
Eddy Street Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 It's hard to say, but I'm pretty consistently attracted to women who are mixed but possess more Caucasian features. There are also Asian and Indian looks that I find attractive, but the one thing I'm more attractive to than anything else is a dark-look similar to Joakim Noah's sister Yelena, but of course more homely. She is probably the only human being ever to attain that level of beauty. Basically light-skinned African American girls who look almost Caucasian and have long, natural curly black hair and deep hazel or black eyes. They are rare, so I haven't been lucky enough to date one who fits this image since 2007 and probably never again will have that chance, since women like that are hard to come by... Strangely, though, I am also pretty attracted to the palest, whitest of all women. Not Irish gingers, but American gingers, who frequently have German or Swedish ancestry in addition to their Irish ancestry. Funny thing is, those features used to scare me when I was younger.
WonderKid Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 The older I have gotten, the more my taste has evolved. I still cannot do a BBW. I just can't. Petites either. My ex is petite (110lbs) around 5'2". I've had a few women around 100lbs soaking wet but I don't think it ultimately does anything for me, unless they have some kind of thickness in their thighs and legs. Thighs and legs get me the most; plus women with gorgeous feet. I've always loved tall women. She could be 7'0" tall and I'd still do her. I can say I like thick-built women. I cannot do totem poles. Skinny ones. I can't see it unless it's something real special they present. Race doesn't matter to me. Even though I can say all I want, I still love black women.
ThaWholigan Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 The older I have gotten, the more my taste has evolved. I still cannot do a BBW. I just can't. Petites either. My ex is petite (110lbs) around 5'2". I've had a few women around 100lbs soaking wet but I don't think it ultimately does anything for me, unless they have some kind of thickness in their thighs and legs. Thighs and legs get me the most; plus women with gorgeous feet. I've always loved tall women. She could be 7'0" tall and I'd still do her. I can say I like thick-built women. I cannot do totem poles. Skinny ones. I can't see it unless it's something real special they present. Race doesn't matter to me. Even though I can say all I want, I still love black women. Yeah, I'm the same when it comes to thighs. I really like thick thighs. Indifferent on feet overall. 1
lauren13 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Looks wise in only have three requirements: - taller than me - heavier than me - cannot be girlier than me xD xD
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 **PSEUDO THERAPIST MODE ACTIVATED** I think you falsely believe that you are nobody's type, and that this feeling is not actually "okay" to you, and then you try to cope with the not-good feeling that comes from the false notion by insisting that it's just how it is. I mention it somewhat frequently because it's concrete first-person observation that affected my perception - but I have worked in multiple nursing homes / assisted living facilities as a CNA, and people in their 80s and 90s are still falling for each other and having sex. These are people who who typically hunched and wrinkly and have false teeth. Are you hunched over, super wrinkly and have no teeth? Even if you were, guess what some people would still want to **** you, I've seen it. Just about scarred me for life but I've seen it. People who are in their 80s and 90s are not jumping all over thinking each other are hot, and they want to rip each other's clothes off. When you get to the bottom, people don't really want each other in the same way. They accept each other lookswise and focus on other things, such as how that person treats them. They start a relationship and have sex with that person for reasons other than physical attraction. I understand how people who can easily get pure physical attraction would settle for nothing else. I'd probably be the same. But there's lots of people who never have anybody TRULY physically attracted to them. A lot of people try and convince themselves that's not true, because it'd be too depressing of a world. But it's very true.
ASG Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 I definitely have a type. Older, Tall, salt and pepper hair, scruff or a goatee, not skinny. Style wise, I tend to go for preppy. Love a man in a shirt! That is not to say I don't date other guys. Right now my current FWB is the complete opposite of what I usually go for. He has LONG hair, in dreads, complete baby face (he is slightly younger than me!!!), long goatee (you could braid it!!) and wears baggy trousers, geeky t.shirt and hoodies and DC trainers!
xxoo Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 When you get to the bottom, people don't really want each other in the same way. They accept each other lookswise and focus on other things, such as how that person treats them. They start a relationship and have sex with that person for reasons other than physical attraction. This is true for me. But then that person can become my physical "type" based on association. That's why I have the type I do--because I associate it with the person who arouses me most. It wasn't my type before I met him.
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