Country_Girl Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Just curious, we all have a certain "type" we are attracted to, but do you have more than one type? The only thing consistent with me is the guy has to have dark hair, dark eyes, tall. Never really found guys with blonde hair blue eyes attractive. But I have 2 polar opposite attractions, 1 is the "prep" type (well groomed, GAP style clothing). But I also have a thing for bad boy looks (arm sleeve tattoos, 5 o'clock shadow, leather jacket). Anyone else have polar differences in what you are attracted to?
maysj18 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 If you were to put a set of pictures in front of me, my type would be very obvious. I deviate from it drastically though when I date. I've never met someone who is my "type" that is boyfriend material, lol. I have the hots for very rugged, homeless (? lol) looking guys with tattoos, dark hair, beards, etc. For example, the hottest guy at my school in my opinion looked a lot like Jesus lol long hair, huge beard, and just so chill it hurt. Apparently I was the only girl who thought he was just the hottest thing ever so I guess I don't really go for your typical dude. 3
Danda Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 What attracts me to someone tends to be so subtle that most times I can't even put my finger on it specifically or articulate it. Whenever I think I've found a 'type' that attracts me it doesn't take long or much thought to realize that the 'type' is irrelevant. For example my second boyfriend was very stocky-built, teddy bear kind of guy with a full beard. I thought he was very attractive, but I could look at 20 larger guys with full beards and not find any of them attractive. I have also been attracted to a guy who was rather lanky and scrawny and wore glasses. I thought he was rather sexy, but again, I could look at 20 other guys who are tall/thin with glasses and not find any of them attractive. It's usually as mysterious to me as it is to anyone else, who I find attractive and why. 5
GemmaUK Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Totally! I like dark haired men. bald men. redheads, tall. short, slim and a bit chunkier but have recently had crushes on larger men. Sane and single would be handy..that is what I haven't found yet. PS. I don't go near marrieds/those in any kind of RS (never have)...nor the nutters if I get a whiff of it.. 1
Phoe Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I don't have a type. I like men. Normal, healthy men. Doesn't matter what his hair looks like, what clothes he wears, etc. Any variety of normal men are attractive to me.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I don't have a type. I like men. Normal, healthy men. Doesn't matter what his hair looks like, what clothes he wears, etc. Any variety of normal men are attractive to me. :love: I'm pretty much the same. It's more productive to ask what I'm not attracted to. There are some things, but I can overlook them. 2
orangetree Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I tend to like guys with a bit darker skin (from a bit darker Southern-European skin to Latin) and dark hair. Also, it is important that they're tall because I'm 5'7 (well, and because I like tall guys). I'm white and blonde myself (so are my dad and my brother) so I guess opposites attract. BUT I have seen many white guys and/or guys with light hair I found attractive too. So I would be open to other men too, look wise.
USMCHokie Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Look wise...? Taylor Swift's body, pre-boob job...Kristen Stewart's face...
ThaWholigan Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I've noticed (and been told) that I definitely have a type. I like a caramel/light-ish brown or olive skin tone, curly or wavy hair, a thick-ish body (curvy but not too slim! Either that or they've been very fit) and distinctive eyes. They're usually some type of intelligent and very communicative. Physically, I haven't exactly deviated from it much - but I've been very attracted to the complete opposite. I grew up really liking dark skinned black girls and still do! Also I've liked really pale girls aswell, either white or mixed - and either slightly big or skinny. Perhaps the most common denominator is that all the girls I've been attracted to have been.....well, they have a bit of an "edge" 3
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Yes, I have a type. If you line up pictures of all my EX & my husband they could be related. There are few that go against type but not many. If he was a good guy, smart & quick-witted who made me laugh, I would give him a chance. It's more important to date the person rather than a look but you can't help who you are attracted to.
AVarma Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I prefer white women with blonde hair and blue eyes. Having said that the last woman I dated was African-American. She was actually mixed African-American and White so she was lighter than most African-Americans, nevertheless you could still tell she was Black when looking at her. Everybody has preferences when single, not being in that category however is very rarely a dealbreaker. I can't imagine anybody being that rigid. I'd they were crazy if they were.
AVarma Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I don't have a type. I like men. Normal, healthy men. Doesn't matter what his hair looks like, what clothes he wears, etc. Any variety of normal men are attractive to me. Cmon now, you telling me that all the men you've dated don't have anything in common? I know I tend to date optimistic sunny people. I get turned off by people who are too cynical. That doesn't mean they have to be naive but just positive in general. I also like it if they have a sarcastic sense of humor. 2
Danda Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Physically, I haven't exactly deviated from it much - but I've been very attracted to the complete opposite. I grew up really liking dark skinned black girls and still do! Also I've liked really pale girls aswell, either white or mixed - and either slightly big or skinny. Perhaps the most common denominator is that all the girls I've been attracted to have been.....well, they have a bit of an "edge" I think it can be artsy element, too, that can be combined with sexual attraction. I tend to really like contrast in art, and most of the women I've seen who made me think "wow they look really neat/pretty/(some other positive thing)" had contrast. Like the first time I saw art of Storm from X-Men when I was a teenager I thought she looked really cool / badass because in that piece of art she had very dark cool-brown skin and stark white, wild-ass hair and white eyes. Yet I have seen some 'goth' chicks who had very pale skin and then blood red hair and dark makeup or something. I definitely have artsy streak in myself and appreciate it when I see it in others, and contrast tends to get me. Perhaps similar to the "edge" you find appealing? But it seems like something that women can harbor a lot more than men. I've seen some alternatively dressed men, either in general or cosplaying or as character in various media platforms, etc. They can look kinda 'neat' and then some guys I find sexy looking, but for whatever reason I've always perceived that women are like a canvas that can really show off all sorts of art. I have a lot of fantasy artwork on my computer (anime style art, fairies, mermaids. that sort of thing) and it's just not the same with men as it is with women (to me). 1
Phoe Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Cmon now, you telling me that all the men you've dated don't have anything in common? I know I tend to date optimistic sunny people. I get turned off by people who are too cynical. That doesn't mean they have to be naive but just positive in general. I also like it if they have a sarcastic sense of humor. Sure they had things in common. They all dated me! Really though, they were all pretty different. First boyfriend is white, short, skinny, dark haired blue eyed and nerdy Second boyfriend is black, green eyed, long curly hair, dressed eclecticly Third boyfriend is black, short, dark eyed, short hair, simple shorts and tee shirt kinda guy. Fourth boyfriend is white, slightly taller than me, dark hair, bearded, outdoorsy type. Besides them I dated a short middle eastern bald preppy guy, a short blonde nerdy guy, and a very tall very big brown haired green eyed athlete. So, yeah. They were all quite different, but my physical attraction was always the same. They were all attractive to me!
xxoo Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I've noticed (and been told) that I definitely have a type. I like a caramel/light-ish brown or olive skin tone, curly or wavy hair, a thick-ish body (curvy but not too slim! Either that or they've been very fit) and distinctive eyes. They're usually some type of intelligent and very communicative. I have the same type as Wholigan, except replace curvy with muscles (I like men ) 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I think it can be artsy element, too, that can be combined with sexual attraction. I tend to really like contrast in art, and most of the women I've seen who made me think "wow they look really neat/pretty/(some other positive thing)" had contrast. Like the first time I saw art of Storm from X-Men when I was a teenager I thought she looked really cool / badass because in that piece of art she had very dark cool-brown skin and stark white, wild-ass hair and white eyes. Yet I have seen some 'goth' chicks who had very pale skin and then blood red hair and dark makeup or something. I definitely have artsy streak in myself and appreciate it when I see it in others, and contrast tends to get me. Perhaps similar to the "edge" you find appealing? YES! I definitely appreciate art in all forms aswell, so I do pay attention to those contrasts in women. I knew a black girl who was very pretty but she also had these piercing green eyes and she always wore very tight, skimpy clothes with bright colors. They were such a contrast to her beautiful skin that she was almost too stunning to look at. Surprisingly, she never really had many boyfriends in the time I knew her, because boys were almost awestruck and intimidated by her. When it comes to edge, I do like the sharp contrasts not just in appearance but in behavior. I like bad girls. People see me as a very placid kind of guy who is kind and jovial, so it's like a contrast to my own perceived personality. A girl who's smart but also a badass, is my kryptonite. But it seems like something that women can harbor a lot more than men. I've seen some alternatively dressed men, either in general or cosplaying or as character in various media platforms, etc. They can look kinda 'neat' and then some guys I find sexy looking, but for whatever reason I've always perceived that women are like a canvas that can really show off all sorts of art. I have a lot of fantasy artwork on my computer (anime style art, fairies, mermaids. that sort of thing) and it's just not the same with men as it is with women (to me). Yeah, it really depends on who's viewing the canvas really. I'm sure there are a lot of women out there who love the male body as a canvas. Maybe not necessarily in terms of cosplaying but just alternative image. I mean, look at how many women love men with tattoos! I joked with my friends the other day that girls won't date me because I have no tattoos .
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I'm not exactly sure why people like it that they have a type. I've liked every type of woman. Short, tall, skinny, chubby, every race. I've been attracted to bad girls, hipster girls, nerdy girls, and plain Jane girls. I'm attracted to this woman in my office who has gotta be very close to 60. A girl with a cute haircut and a smile can do it for me. Maybe it's just me, but I find it extremely harrowing that everybody has such a specific type. I know I'll never be that type (which is OK I guess), but it just makes it so much more of a fight to find somebody compatible. 2
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Everybody has preferences when single, not being in that category however is very rarely a dealbreaker. I can't imagine anybody being that rigid. I'd they were crazy if they were. I don't think so. I'm pretty sure that's what we're talking about. People want to date inside their type and if you don't fit, they will not be attracted to you.
USMCHokie Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I'm not exactly sure why people like it that they have a type. I think when people discuss topics like this, they are talking about an ideal "type." Of course ideal is just that, an ideal, and ideal is rarely what happens in real life. So I don't think people should take much stock in what people's ideals are...and oftentimes, this analysis occurs after the fact, where people are recognizing patterns from the past, rather than dictating requirements for the future. That being said, I've never dated anyone resembling my ideal "type." 2
Danda Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I don't think so. I'm pretty sure that's what we're talking about. People want to date inside their type and if you don't fit, they will not be attracted to you. Yeah I think it's good to acknowledge that so many people have type(s) that they gravitate towards, because I think often when people who look just fine get rejected they accidentally perceive it as them being unattractive when it's often just a type thing. I mean sure if you show up to a date with poor hygiene and a very unflattering outfit like a shirt that's too small, then yes you will probably seem unattractive if you do that to yourself. But if you care for yourself with good hygiene and flattering clothes, put a pinch of effort into your appeal like well groomed hair, a pinch of makeup or a dab of cologne, then if someone doesn't find you attractive it's not because you are unattractive. Just not attractive to them. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 (edited) Yeah I think it's good to acknowledge that so many people have type(s) that they gravitate towards, because I think often when people who look just fine get rejected they accidentally perceive it as them being unattractive when it's often just a type thing. I mean sure if you show up to a date with poor hygiene and a very unflattering outfit like a shirt that's too small, then yes you will probably seem unattractive if you do that to yourself. But if you care for yourself with good hygiene and flattering clothes, put a pinch of effort into your appeal like well groomed hair, a pinch of makeup or a dab of cologne, then if someone doesn't find you attractive it's not because you are unattractive. Just not attractive to them. Eh, I'm not so sure. There's people who is everybody's type and people who are nobody's type. Edited December 31, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I'm not exactly sure why people like it that they have a type. I've liked every type of woman. Short, tall, skinny, chubby, every race. I've been attracted to bad girls, hipster girls, nerdy girls, and plain Jane girls. I'm attracted to this woman in my office who has gotta be very close to 60. A girl with a cute haircut and a smile can do it for me. Maybe it's just me, but I find it extremely harrowing that everybody has such a specific type. I know I'll never be that type (which is OK I guess), but it just makes it so much more of a fight to find somebody compatible. That's kinda the point, mate. I've liked all kinds of girls too, even though I have a type! I mean, my type is generally closer to this: https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/10847877_920962671248114_1313976827690717402_n.jpg?oh=325275b28cb854b2932d332ec552140f&oe=553D5509&__gda__=1429999281_8edee9126a6841ddda3fcb23e392f1c9 https://scontent-b-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xfp1/v/t1.0-9/1798685_922406317770416_6531037600126467880_n.jpg?oh=302de9452d180fc018e974e4762d3568&oe=5544780B https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-9/8976_920220674655647_5833898485880216068_n.jpg?oh=27900dbb66b6ec6c18fdc254d002d672&oe=553530CE&__gda__=1429323287_ee3188c9efd502f4768d941fd983c06e http://images.askmen.com/2012_top_99/galleries/88-antonia-thomas-1327344855.jpg But I've been attracted to girls who look like this: http://static.sportskeeda.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/tumblrn4213nev1e1ri0sroo1500-2163932.jpg http://static.comicvine.com/uploads/original/11113/111139969/4208347-rutinawesley.jpg http://images.complex.com/complex/image/upload/t_article_image/qgyc3zxrhmzz5kxhdqp3.jpg There are others, but I've wasted enough time on google and facebook Now, they're all very good looking examples of my type and outside of course, but you can see they are all over the map. We all have ideal types that we like, but we're also aware that compatibility isn't limited to type. 3
USMCHokie Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Whoah Wholigan, she's carrying a championship belt!!!
ThaWholigan Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Whoah Wholigan, she's carrying a championship belt!!! Yep. This is how she won it. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I havent really been with a type i guess i prefer dark eyes dark hair.....but i dont set that preference...it just happens to be that i have dated more guys with dark hair and eyes..deb
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