Aargh Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 (edited) A few days ago what I had hoped for happened. I was sitting in a local bar and my ex AP walked in looking for me.... Id better give some background - I had an intense affair that ended approx 12months ago. Both our marriages were in dire straits and in the last 12 months (of pretty much NC) we both left our spouses. She left first and eventually moved on and into relationship with another man. I hoped that in time we may be able to try again but was beginning to move on considering she was seeing someone else and I had actually begun dating albeit tentatively. Fast forward to a few weeks ago and she called me out of the blue to say that her relationship wasn't going anywhere but she can't break it off over xmas and then she hung up. I wasn't sure what to make of it; I hoped it was true but it changed nothing but then a few days ago she arrives in the bar looking for me.. Turns out this guy had turned nasty and she had ended it just then. She stayed over. we made love. It was what I hoped for (only too fast!? -I don't want to be a rebound from him) And now I don't know where I stand. She's gone upstate to see family for new year and I want to hear from her. The plan was to keep it slow. I can't believe infact that my plan seems to be working. I had kept up a gentle romantic contact with her so she knew my affections hadn't lessened but I want sure if she would ever be mine (still not of course!) Just wanted to share this! MY GOD! THE GIRL I WANTED HAS MOVED ONE STEP CLOSER! ONLY 3 DAYS AGO WE MADE LOVE LIKE BEFORE! but she's not mine yet... I need to get a better understanding of her feelings. I want this relationship to be given a fair chance. I am only 4 months separated and she is approx 10months. I realise it is very soon to start dating but the situation is different. we are not starting afresh. We already have history (albeit affair history so not honest and above board). I am so desperate to spend time with her and go out on a legit date but I know that we both need time really to deal with stuff before we can fully give each other attention... what does everyone think? Am i safe to dive straight in given the history? She obviously has feelings for me still. Edited December 31, 2014 by Aargh posted too soon!
buffalo Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 She sounds incapable of being alone. Never a healthy combo. 1
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