Jordan185 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 So I'm a pretty shy guy so I really don't asked girls out. I've had some bad experiences so I'm pretty reluctant on dating. Which makes this situation unique. I work with this girl and the first time I saw her I was just like "wow she is beautiful". I wished I had the courage to ask her out, I prayed for it and everything. It's strange I didn't tell anyone about it but one day one my friend/coworkers and that works in her department said I think you should ask her out man. I kinda took as a sign and did. She said yes without hesitating and smiled we exchanged numbers. I told her I would have to see what my work schedule was and what my finals looked like. She said great. So I texted her a few days later but she was working that weekend but said she could probably do it the next but didn't know since she didn't get her schedule yet. I said I would contact her next week. I tried to get of hold her but she was working and never returned my call and she is home for the break so We won't see eachother till school starts again. I don't know what to think. I'm hurt and have prayed for guidance on this and I keep getting a feeling like I shouldn't give up but I don't know what to do. She is really a great girl.
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Wait until school starts again & when you are both back in a routine. It's hard to connect over the holidays.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Never get your hopes up with a girl until you get a 2nd date. A lot of women will agree to a date, but you can't ever seem to nail down a time and place with them. That's because they never planned on actually going, they just didn't have the nerve to let you down in person. Much easier to just avoid committing to a specific date. By the 2nd date, if you can get one, that's when you should know how she feels. By then, you should have some clear signs what your chances are. Yea, a lot of women for some reason will exchange numbers with you, and then let you down sometime between the exchange and the date. Buyer's remorse. I would go further and say you should never get your hopes up with a woman until you have at least made out with her sober. You need to try and go for multiple women at the same time. You sound pretty green. How did you ask her?
Author Jordan185 Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Yea, a lot of women for some reason will exchange numbers with you, and then let you down sometime between the exchange and the date. Buyer's remorse. I would go further and say you should never get your hopes up with a woman until you have at least made out with her sober. You need to try and go for multiple women at the same time. You sound pretty green. How did you ask her? Yes I would say I'm pretty green as I said I'm shy and don't do this too often. The only reason I don't go for multiple girls is I would feel guilty if one got attached and I decided to go for a different one instead. The reasons I got my hopes up are because a mutual coworker/friend of ours asked her (when I wasn't around and without my knowledge) if she would go on a date if I asked her. She told him she totally would. Reason 2. I asked her after a work party when she "accidentally for got something so she had to go back (thus separating herself) from everyone. She actually admitted to doing this. I asked by saying "hey I'd like to take you on a date when are you free?" I kinda chose a bad time as she has started another job and we were going home for Christmas break. She is 18 and I'm 22
Author Jordan185 Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Never get your hopes up with a girl until you get a 2nd date. A lot of women will agree to a date, but you can't ever seem to nail down a time and place with them. That's because they never planned on actually going, they just didn't have the nerve to let you down in person. Much easier to just avoid committing to a specific date. By the 2nd date, if you can get one, that's when you should know how she feels. By then, you should have some clear signs what your chances are. Read my reply above. The only reason I'm let down is because she put so much effort so that I could ask her, which only makes me even more confused.
Author Jordan185 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Like I said before, no need to get your hopes up until the 2nd date or so. You can drive yourself nuts wondering why women do what they do and say what they say. You only need to worry about the results. So far, your results have not been a date with this girl. I would not keep chasing her. Maybe you can call her one last time when school starts back up, but I would hesitate to do even that. You called her, she surely knows you called her, so it is up to her to contact you. If she does not, she just isn't all that interested. She might even like you one day, but some other guy took her out before you could, and now she is with him. This is why I always suggest men cast out a wide net. I'm not saying you should multi-date, because I don't do that, but at least talk to, and get to know plenty of women. Then gauge their interest and take it from there. Sorry if I came off as being rude. I'm just a little down especially since we work together and I'm going to be seeing her around. I'm not going to act any different around her but it's just going to be a little hard for me. Thanks for your advice. You really did make me feel better.
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