Lovebite Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 My guy friend whom I just met like two months ago was always flirting with me. He said how "beautiful" I was, and he seemed to get jealous about other guys. He in a joke way said "We had our first date last night!" When we went out. I rejected him because I thought he had a girlfriend....I was right. He has a girlfriend. He wanted to kiss me, and I told him "No" because he has a girlfriend. He still talks to me, but I noticed his demeanor changed. He isn't as "friendly" anymore. He talks to me normally, and doesn't flirt with me at all, which is fine! When I say he's my "friend" "best friend", he doesn't say anything in return. Before he was saying "You're my best friend!" to me. He used my phone, and I told him to not go through my texts...he got angry and said "Like I care who you sext or what you do in text messages." I don't "sext", it's more about privacy. I thought we were friends...he changed with me. He doesn't seem as talkative with me. More closed off. Is it because I rejected him? Or is it that he can't stand me? He texts me all the time. I don't call or text him, he texts me first. He needs to understand why I rejected him. I told him it's because he's in a relationship, so I don't why he would be different with me?
BluEyeL Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 It's because you rejected him. It appears he wanted you on a side, in addition to his girlfriend. You did the right thing. 4
Redhead14 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 My guy friend whom I just met like two months ago was always flirting with me. He said how "beautiful" I was, and he seemed to get jealous about other guys. He in a joke way said "We had our first date last night!" When we went out. I rejected him because I thought he had a girlfriend....I was right. He has a girlfriend. He wanted to kiss me, and I told him "No" because he has a girlfriend. He still talks to me, but I noticed his demeanor changed. He isn't as "friendly" anymore. He talks to me normally, and doesn't flirt with me at all, which is fine! When I say he's my "friend" "best friend", he doesn't say anything in return. Before he was saying "You're my best friend!" to me. He used my phone, and I told him to not go through my texts...he got angry and said "Like I care who you sext or what you do in text messages." I don't "sext", it's more about privacy. I thought we were friends...he changed with me. He doesn't seem as talkative with me. More closed off. Is it because I rejected him? Or is it that he can't stand me? He texts me all the time. I don't call or text him, he texts me first. He needs to understand why I rejected him. I told him it's because he's in a relationship, so I don't why he would be different with me? It doesn't matter why he is different with you . . . he has a girlfriend. You were right to reject his kiss. Perhaps he is feeling guilty for having tried to kiss you. 2
JM89 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 He's not interested in being friends. Obviously having a girlfriend really doesn't matter--he wants you on the side. Sounds like your brief friendship has always been laced with him flirting and showing interest. You saw it as cuteness between friends, but that was never his intention. Break off your contact and forget him. This will never be a real friendship. 1
elaine567 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 My guy friend whom I just met like two months ago was always flirting with me. He said how "beautiful" I was, and he seemed to get jealous about other guys. He in a joke way said "We had our first date last night!" When we went out. I rejected him because I thought he had a girlfriend....I was right. He has a girlfriend. He wanted to kiss me, and I told him "No" because he has a girlfriend. He still talks to me, but I noticed his demeanor changed. He isn't as "friendly" anymore. He talks to me normally, and doesn't flirt with me at all, which is fine! When I say he's my "friend" "best friend", he doesn't say anything in return. Before he was saying "You're my best friend!" to me. He used my phone, and I told him to not go through my texts...he got angry and said "Like I care who you sext or what you do in text messages." I don't "sext", it's more about privacy. I thought we were friends...he changed with me. He doesn't seem as talkative with me. More closed off. Is it because I rejected him? Or is it that he can't stand me? He texts me all the time. I don't call or text him, he texts me first. He needs to understand why I rejected him. I told him it's because he's in a relationship, so I don't why he would be different with me? He has a gf, he wanted to cheat on her with you. He wants you, hence the texts, but he is also angry with you for rejecting him and got jealous re the potential sexts. He wants his cake and to eat it too, not too uncommon sadly. Stay away from him, he is not your friend, he cannot be a friend as he wants more. 2
missliss908 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 What a creep. You did the right thing. Don't even be friends with him anymore. 3
missliss908 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 He used my phone, and I told him to not go through my texts...he got angry and said "Like I care who you sext or what you do in text messages." Ew. I had a guy friend similar to this. I had a crush on him and he knew it, would call me "best friend" and "beautiful", even when he had a girlfriend. He knew I liked him and took advantage of that. When I figured out what he was doing I stopped showing him any interest and he would react similarly in the way the guy in your post did in the part that I quoted. When I got my own boyfriend he threw a *****fit. People like this are best to be avoided. 1
NYC-BigKat Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 My guy friend whom I just met like two months ago was always flirting with me. He said how "beautiful" I was, and he seemed to get jealous about other guys. He in a joke way said "We had our first date last night!" When we went out. I rejected him because I thought he had a girlfriend....I was right. He has a girlfriend. He wanted to kiss me, and I told him "No" because he has a girlfriend. He still talks to me, but I noticed his demeanor changed. He isn't as "friendly" anymore. He talks to me normally, and doesn't flirt with me at all, which is fine! When I say he's my "friend" "best friend", he doesn't say anything in return. Before he was saying "You're my best friend!" to me. He used my phone, and I told him to not go through my texts...he got angry and said "Like I care who you sext or what you do in text messages." I don't "sext", it's more about privacy. I thought we were friends...he changed with me. He doesn't seem as talkative with me. More closed off. Is it because I rejected him? Or is it that he can't stand me? He texts me all the time. I don't call or text him, he texts me first. He needs to understand why I rejected him. I told him it's because he's in a relationship, so I don't why he would be different with me? So um...if he wasn't in a relationship u would do the kissing with him?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 How is this guy your best friend if you only met two months ago? Anyway, he's not looking for friendship. You already know why his demeanor is different. You rejected him, and that was the right thing to do. He's a creep. Don't respond to his texts, either. He's not a friend. 1
Author Lovebite Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 So um...if he wasn't in a relationship u would do the kissing with him? I would because I like him. I know better though.
Author Lovebite Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Ew. I had a guy friend similar to this. I had a crush on him and he knew it, would call me "best friend" and "beautiful", even when he had a girlfriend. He knew I liked him and took advantage of that. When I figured out what he was doing I stopped showing him any interest and he would react similarly in the way the guy in your post did in the part that I quoted. When I got my own boyfriend he threw a *****fit. People like this are best to be avoided. Damn! It's almost exact haha. That's a shame. I can't believe your guy friend did that! 1
Author Lovebite Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 How is this guy your best friend if you only met two months ago? Anyway, he's not looking for friendship. You already know why his demeanor is different. You rejected him, and that was the right thing to do. He's a creep. Don't respond to his texts, either. He's not a friend. I think of him as a "best friend" because I actually like him. I have a crush on him. I cover it up though by saying "You're my best friend!" I know better not to tell him or to hone in on him and his girlfriend. I am ok with being his friend even though I like him. Yeah he's not really acting like a friend 1
Satu Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 He is not and never will be a friend. The friend part is just in your head. He's a creep who wants to use you. 1
Eddy Street Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 So his demeanor changed? I'm shocked. I'm wondering why that could be... Maybe you could read your thread and tell me? I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with his behavior. I'd be more worried if it persisted or if he became aggressive/mean/rude towards you. Probably just a normal dude who thought he wanted a change. 1
Author Lovebite Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 He is not and never will be a friend. The friend part is just in your head. He's a creep who wants to use you. What do you mean by "the friend part is just in your head"? I think he is definitely a flirt, but I don't know if he's necessarily a creep. I am not knocking what you said. It's just what I think. TY!
bubbaganoosh Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it. The guy showed his true self and it should tell you that his sense of loyalty stinks so your better off with out him.
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